So the warm summer, fun holidays and free time are over. Soon the school year will start again and we need to prepare for it. But in addition to buying school uniforms and stationery, it is more important for children to be mentally and emotionally prepared for school life. Returning to school after the holidays is stressful even for those children who do not have any problems with their studies and relationships with classmates. Any child needs time to adjust after a long rest. If you take care of this in advance, then the beginning school year it will go smoothly, and the child will feel much more confident.
Psychologist Svetlana Roiz spoke about how to properly prepare a child for school in order to avoid emotional overload and psychological difficulties. She also wrote a memo for parents, reminding them of the most important thing: school is not the whole life, and grades do not reflect the real knowledge and talents of the child. And do not forget that children take an example from us, including in relation to learning, knowledge and success.
Soon to school. How to prepare your child for the start of the new school year
Daily regime. Now - three weeks before September 1, it's time to gradually return to the "school" mode of the day. A sharp transition from a state of rest to a working mode is stressful for both children and adults. You can now gradually wake up in the morning and go to bed a little earlier in the evening.
Summer rollback in knowledge. Our brain needs training. During the summer months there is a “rollback in knowledge”, on average, by the second quarter of the previous year of study. And that is why the first few months of the school year, teachers engage in repetition with children. Holiday homework is often given to keep the child “in the process” of learning. It's great if in the summer a child systematically studied (for example, foreign languages) on a free vacation regime. Three weeks before school, you can at a calm pace, without pressure or coercion, flip through notebooks and, possibly, reference books from the previous year. (Or download a curriculum on the subject from the Internet and at least just look at the titles of the topics)
If during the school year it is planned that the child will go to circles and sections, it is better to start studying in August.
First academic months(especially in new school, in a new class) is stress. The education system is changing, but so far many children are afraid to go to school, and the life of teenagers (as it happened physiologically) is always stressful. When a person is under chronic stress, their brain is deficient in zinc. Zinc affects the hippocampus, which helps us and our children process and remember large amounts of information. Now is the time to use what you believe in - eat foods containing zinc, if you believe in vitamins or supplements - use them.
For introverted, shy kids who also spent the summer months alone– returning to the team is a burden and a possible source of tension. You can suggest that on some day remaining until September 1, the whole class meet and go to the movies or to a picnic. This will help to reduce anxiety and possibly help children to show the facets that they find difficult to show in school.
Before the first of September it is important to come to school, walk along the corridors, look at the new (or remember the old) office. If a child brings some of his own thing to class - a book to the library, a flowerpot, a poster, a photograph - he seems to put an imprint “I am here”. This makes it easier to adapt and get used to the class.
It's great if a common “newspaper” is made in the class - with photographs of all students.
For those who tend to focus on the negative, who “has nothing good and will never have”, who tends not to notice resource events and joys - make a collage of photos (even those photographed on camera mobile phone) of the most joyful moments of summer. Write down all the most significant in the “journal of memories”, thanks, successes. (Great to put this into practice)
Sometimes, when a child arrives from the camp, we get the feeling that he "did not return."
Sometimes it is also important for us, adults, to consciously “put an end” to various processes. this way it is easier to make a “transition” to other actions and “acclimatize” psychologically. You can, for example, celebrate the return from the camp, from vacation, celebrate the end of the holidays. Meet even an adult child from the camp or after any absence - a surprise - a balloon, a gift, a handmade poster, a cake.
The child returned from the camp and changed. It is important for us to give ourselves the opportunity to get used to the child that has changed over the summer. The child's life is constantly enriched with new relationships, new roles, new knowledge, words and "systems". The focus of his attention will shift to other adults and children. Our role next to the child, on the one hand, is unchanged, on the other hand, it also transforms with its facets. It is important for us to try not to worry and “by force” not to return our power and authority.
The child fell in love. A child's love is always new level relationships with parents. It is important to be respectful of the feelings of the baby or teenager. It is important to keep secrets if shared with us. It is important not to invade personal space if it is protected from us.
- often a “feeling”, experiencing falling in love child ceases to be “thinking”.
- not all adults are able to cope with the “load of feelings”.
- it is important for our children to go through their first experience of love, charms and disappointments. (And yes, academic performance drops during this time)
Buying important and useful things for school. A child has very few choices in life. If financially possible, it is important that he be able to choose at least the design of covers and diaries and the model of pens. It is important to remember that the choice of many goods in the store scares the child. (sometimes children have tantrums when they are offered to choose whatever they want).
The child is in a dual state. One side new class Schools are status raising. On the other hand, the fear of this new, the fear of growing up, may manifest itself. It's great if, in addition to rational and obligatory purchases, if a child wishes, you buy something “childish” from an adult point of view.
School uniform- as a psychological element - is important for many children. It, with an unformed inner core, gives support to the outer one. (External “crutch” - rules - code, daily routine, bell schedule, uniform) School uniform should have caused pride from belonging to us - a class, a gymnasium, a school. It should be modern, beautiful, comfortable.
Important for parents:
- So that parents are not an extension of the school. The child must have a safe space. need our support. Our trust in his Fate and faith in his potential.
- So that parents do not sacrifice themselves for the success and realization of their children. If we put “the energy of sacrifice” into a child, we put more expectations into the result, endowing the child with responsibility that is sometimes unbearable for him, we are unnecessarily tense. Where there is sacrifice, there is less joy. Sometimes I suggest that parents look at the word upbringing - upbringing - how do we feed a child? What we feed - so it is filled. And sometimes "does not digest".
- We all learn, including thanks to the mirror system functioning in our brain. Can our child “mirror” what we demand from him? - learning, responsibility, self-care, respect, gratitude. It is important for a child to see us - students doing exercises, doing their “homework”, responding constructively to criticism, able to confront ...
- It is important not to transfer your feelings and experiences of the past academic year to the next. The child develops and changes. Some subjects, tasks will be easier for him, some more difficult. It is important to try not to form an "image" of school life - this image itself - our expectations - can become a "self-fulfilling prophecy" - a program for the child.
- Very often a child wants to but cannot or makes excessive efforts to master some skill. Sometimes these difficulties are caused by the peculiarities of work or asynchrony in the work of various parts of the brain. Sometimes the child is not important assessment and "motivation" and help. Now neuropsychology, kinesiology is becoming more and more popular - with simple practices and exercises that stimulate the brain.
- We remember that school grades are very subjective and do not reflect the real knowledge of the child.
- She wrote many times that the education system is geared towards measuring and “pumping” IQ. - simplistically - verbal-logical intelligence. Howard Gardner proposed the theory of multiple intelligences. “ Verbal intelligence- the ability to generate speech, including the mechanisms responsible for the phonetic (speech sounds), syntactic (grammar), semantic (meaning) and pragmatic components of speech (the use of speech in various situations).
musical intelligence- the ability to generate, transmit and understand the meanings associated with sounds, including the mechanisms responsible for the perception of pitch, rhythm and timbre ( quality characteristics) sound.
Logical-mathematical intelligence- the ability to use and evaluate the relationships between actions or objects when they are not actually present, i.e. to abstract thinking.
Spatial intelligence- the ability to perceive visual and spatial information, modify it and recreate visual images without recourse to the original stimuli. Includes the ability to construct images in three dimensions, as well as mentally move and rotate these images.
Bodily-kinesthetic intelligence- the ability to use all parts of the body when solving problems or creating products; includes control over gross and fine motor movements and the ability to manipulate external objects.
intrapersonal intelligence- the ability to recognize one's own feelings, intentions and motives.
interpersonal intelligence- the ability to recognize and discriminate between the feelings, attitudes and intentions of other people.” - It is in our power to become "agents of change" in the school. Perhaps you yourself can come to school and conduct seminars for children there, conduct workshops, invite them to work with you.
- School is just a part of life. Important. But "behind" her child should expect a full and joyful life. So free time, communication and inspiration.
Our children are bigger and wiser than any systems. The education system is gradually changing. And, hopefully, we will have many discoveries soon.
Before the start of the school year, there is still (or already only?) A whole month. Expert "Oh!", psychologist Anna Skavitina believes that now is the time to start preparing for school in a calm mode.
Yesterday I saw how the bird leaders began to prepare their flocks for a long flight for wintering in warm countries and circle in the sky, making turns. For me, this is an annual sign: it's time to collect the children for school. Yes, from the end of July-beginning of August, it's time to gradually prepare for the return to a clear work and school schedule. It seems that there is still a lot of time before September 1, almost half of the summer and everything will be in time, but adaptation is not a quick thing. It lasts not a day or two, but a month and a half. Transitional periods are not easy even for adults, and even more so for children.
I know many parents who bring their children home from vacation on the last day of summer to “recreate to the maximum”. To be honest, I did the same a couple of times. Bottom line: the child needs at least 5-6 weeks to build up and get used to the schedule, you still need to remember how to write and what mathematics is, and here the first quarter ended with not very good results. The child has a feeling of failure, unwillingness to go to a terrible school, and then attempts to "take up the mind" in the second quarter with varying degrees success. Therefore, it is better to start adaptation in advance.
Rearrange your sleep schedule
Two to three weeks in advance, start shifting your sleep schedule toward school hours by going to bed and waking up earlier. Don't do it sudden changes, it is better to shift minutes by 15 every day. The most radical parents go on vacation with their children to countries where the time is shifted by 2-3 hours so that the return to the regime goes naturally. I don't know how "natural", but it really works. If you are not ready for such measures, then you can plan various family outings and activities for the morning, give special morning tasks and responsibilities.
Think about summer assignments
It would be nice to remember that for the summer they asked something and, probably, even gave a list of references. There is still time to read books and do what the teacher asked. Even if the school did not give special notebooks or worksheets for the summer, you can easily find them on the Internet or the nearest store and start doing an hour a day. This is especially true for children who do not study very easily. We sometimes play ahead of the curve with them: we not only repeat what has been covered, but also go through 2-3 (no more!) New topics from the textbook: “Let's see what you will go through, oh, interesting!” Our task is to make sure that the child comes to school prepared and immediately feels competent and successful.
Get ready for the new school year, but don't get carried away
You should not force your child to sit over textbooks during the summer hours against his will, even if in your opinion he needs to catch up with the program. Then the school will cause hatred even before the child comes to it in September.
Support the child
The beginning of the school year is associated with changes and separations. New classmates, new teachers, schedule, parting with friends in the country or summer camp. Young children often need parental support, especially if the child is shy or withdrawn. Try to find out at least some of the changes that are coming to the child in order to prepare him for them in advance.
Talk heart to heart
Children look forward to the beginning of the school year with different, often conflicting feelings. Some look forward to school dreading early rises, homework, or relationships with classmates. Someone is looking forward to meeting friends and favorite teachers. Talk to your child and find out what he expects from the beginning of the school year, what he fears, what makes him happy. Perhaps there are problems that can be solved in the summer, or at least find ways to solve them. Sometimes in the summer the child is ready to talk about what he could not talk about during the year. As a result of such conversations, it happens that parents change schools, look for tutors or summer courses for their child, send him to a psychologist.
Pass medical examination
Before school, it would be good to visit the main doctors to make sure that the child is in good health, and holes in the teeth or that nothing can be seen from the blackboard will not interfere with learning. At the same time, you can start to deal with problems schooling: with dyslexia, dysgraphia, school neuroses. In August, many specialists come out of vacation and it is easier to get to them.
Schedule
August is scheduling time. Discuss the circles and sections that the child would like to attend this year, what he would like to do outside of school. Try to create a tentative schedule with your child, even if you don't know exactly when and where classes will take place.
Go shopping
Organize joint preparation for school: buy together school uniform and stationery. Let the child express himself and choose what he likes. You can make a list necessary purchases and allocate a certain amount of money to the child so that he can practice keeping within the budget, and at the same time remember math. New rulers and pencils will add joyful expectations for the coming school year.
Say goodbye to summer
You can organize a special ritual of "farewell to the summer." For many children, transition rituals are important, showing the reality of change. It can be a family picnic, because the summer is needed, among other things, in order to communicate more with the family. Or a meeting with classmates - familiar faces and established relationships will make you feel calmer in September. Maybe it will be a meeting with friends at a summer camp, where children often become very close friends.
Try to turn the preparation for school into a joyful event, and not a boring job, then the adaptation to the new school year will be easier.
How to prepare for school in the summer.
Future first-graders are unaware of what lies ahead for them. We decided to figure out how to spend the summer with benefit, not to lose the acquired knowledge and acquire new ones!
1. We observe the regime
Holidays - this does not mean "indulge in all serious." Sleep until noon, play until midnight - no one says that this is absolutely impossible to do. Yes, but only if it's an exception to the rule. Even during rest, it is worth following the regime - get up at the same time, go to bed on time, devote time to active and calm games, and also control the time spent with gadgets. According to psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky, children can use the Internet for a maximum of one and a half hours a day and no more than four hours on weekends - these are schoolchildren from the fourth grade, and preschoolers - no more than 40 minutes a day. The psychologist advises to strictly follow the rule, to the extent that parents must remove gadgets and turn off Wi-Fi in the house. It is in the power of parents to offer their child interesting gadgets instead of gadgets. exciting games. For example, 3D puzzles. With the help of a special set, you can make a three-dimensional figure of a bright object or structure. Such a game helps the child to learn about the world around him, develops logic and intelligence.
Closer to September 1, the regime should look more and more like a "school". After all, a sharp transition from a state of rest to a working regime is a big stress for both children and adults.
2. Learning
It is important to understand here that we are not talking about cramming, memorizing rules or sitting over textbooks. Over the summer, it is important not to lose the skill itself to learn. During the summer months, in any case, there will be a "rollback in knowledge", but it will not be so difficult to start studying in September if the child has been studying all summer, for example, foreign language or attended a book club (parents can organize such a club themselves and actively participate in it). Also don't leave homework at the last moment: they are given so that the child remains at least a little in the "learning process".
3. Mugs and sections
A child can stay in this "learning process", as well as acquire new skills, acquaintances at various circles and sections. Now is the time to realize what in school time there was not enough time and energy. It can be both a variety of circles and a summer language camp. Now the choice of additional activities for the child is limited only by his interests and the budget of his parents. If you plan to introduce some circles or sections for the child during the school year, then it is better to visit them from August.
4. First time - in the first class
A particularly exciting last "children's" summer awaits future first-graders. In September they will become schoolchildren, and this is already a different life and a different level of responsibility. Training courses or regular homework will help give your child an idea of what to expect while studying. But it is also important to come to school before the first of September, wander through the corridors, go to the classroom. Even better - meet future classmates. This will help minimize the stress of starting the learning process.
6. Going to school
Purchase school supplies can be turned into a real ritual. New notebooks, pens, a diary with your favorite cartoon character, a beautiful pencil case and even a cup for pens and pencils - give your child the opportunity to choose for himself, he has so little choice in life.
Board for timetables TM "1Veresnya"
Case TM "1Spring"
Glass for office TM "1Veresnya"
Backpack TM "1Veresnya"
Backpack TM "1Veresnya"
Diary TM "1Spring"
Case TM "1Spring"
Psychologists also say that you need to put an end to summer holidays ah", tuning in to a new wave. The choice of a new backpack can become such a peculiar point. The child will spend the entire school year with it. Therefore, it is so important to choose a backpack together: so that the child likes it, and parents must make sure that it fits all sanitary standards. For example, backpacks from TM 1 Veresnya are bright, with a comfortable orthopedic backrest, complemented by reflective elements and made of water-repellent materials. Be sure to let your child try on a new backpack so that he again (or for the first time!) feels like a schoolboy.
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After the summer holidays, many children find it quite difficult to get used to school days. I will tell you how to prepare a child for school and gently set him up for learning.
I have two children of the same age: Sasha moved to the 3rd grade, and the younger Mitya - to the 2nd. Last year, after the summer holidays, they both told me that they did not want to go to school and dreamed that the vacation would continue until the New Year.
And I wanted so much that study was a joy for my sons, and did not become some kind of "hard labor". I consulted with specialists who gave me several useful advice preparing children for school.
I put them into practice, and, you know, the period of adaptation to school went pretty easily. This year, I am setting the kids up for learning by putting these tips into practice.
I share them with you, dear parents.
Parents should pay attention to this issue Special attention: after all, difficulties during the period of adaptation to school can lead to psychological problems and even health problems.
Daily routine for children
During the holidays, parents allow violations of the daily routine: children often go to bed late, sleep until dinner, eat at different time. During the study, the daily routine will change: the child will go to bed early and get up early, the whole day will be planned.
In order for the children's body to have time to rebuild, a week before the start of the school year, it is necessary to observe the "school" daily routine. Here is a sample daily schedule:
It is also useful for children to use:
- lean meat;
- liver;
- oatmeal;
- cauliflower;
- dairy products, especially cottage cheese;
- about 2 liters clean drinking water in a day.
dictations
If a child has forgotten how to handle a pen, writing dictations can help. It is enough to give this lesson about 30 minutes a day so that the child’s hand “remembers” how to write.
A joint purchase will also help to tune in to the “school” mood. stationery, clothes and
I want to warn parents: the first month of school can be quite stressful and even nervous for you, and, of course, for the child. But you should be patient, support your child and try to make it as easy as possible for the child to adapt to school.
Many parents worry about how their children will adjust to school after the summer holidays. Families of first-graders are especially worried, because their beloved kids are taking a step into adulthood for the first time. How to overcome children's fears of school, when to start the transition to new mode of the day and how to avoid attention deficit - in the material of the portal Moscow 24.
Fear of school
First of all, when a child goes to school (this is especially true primary school) faces expectations from parents and teachers that are often far beyond their capabilities. The school now gives a huge list of literature for the summer, as well as assignments in mathematics and the Russian language. Some parents add their own puzzles so that the child "does not fall behind" during the holidays. It turns out that he works all summer, and if he doesn’t work or doesn’t do everything to the end, then he comes with a feeling of guilt that thunder struck, but he didn’t do something (often summer assignments are not checked in schools, but this the stone is hanging).
Some parents try to make the child understand the material, but at the same time they leave their direct duties. To convey knowledge to students is the task of the school. Parents, on the other hand, should also provide their children with a productive rest: go to a museum, go on excursions, spend interesting time, talk about something exciting - this is no less useful. The parent forms the absence of fear of school in the child: let your beloved child understand that you are his rear, and if he has difficulties, you are always ready to help.
The most important thing to give your child over the summer, and especially in the last week before school, is the opportunity to relax. If the child is small and still does not read well on his own or reads without pleasure, you can start a tradition of reading aloud with him. It is important not to focus on what he must read. Just tell them what interesting books you have at home, and offer to look at them together.
And secondary school students usually have no problems with adaptation anymore, they go to educational institution more for communicating with peers and sharing emotions.
The beginning of the school year is rarely difficult. Children meet friends they haven't seen all summer, rejoice at some teachers. Fears may arise in those who ended the past year poorly, with emotional problems or performance problems.
Victoria Yurkevich
professor of the department developmental psychology named after Professor L.F. Obukhova, Moscow State Pedagogical University
In high school, the main concern is the exam. The guys are already thinking about which direction to choose, what subjects to focus on and where to go to work. It is important for parents not to put pressure on teenagers, but to try to listen: give advice, talk about their experience and support in choosing a future profession.
attention deficit
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Often, parents of first graders are very worried that their children will experience a lack of attention at school. Indeed, for six or seven years they were surrounded by the love and care of mothers, fathers, grandmothers and educators, and now they fall into the rigid framework of the class, where you need to sit at your desk and raise your hand only when you know the correct answer or want to ask toilet.
In fact this is not true. Children of the first and second grades are people for whom school is a kind of absolute. And they are much more attentive to the teacher than to the parents. There is little attention when children face difficulties, and their parents do not support them and say: "The teacher said - then do it." Some parents force the child to rewrite again for a clean copy, some insist on completing an additional task in order to consolidate the material.
Candidate psychological sciences, Senior Lecturer, Department of Designing Psychology, Institute of Psychology. Vygotsky Russian State Humanitarian University Zhanna Sugak advises parents not to substitute themselves for school in any case. "To avoid a lack of attention, keep your personal relationship with the child. Talk about what is difficult, find out with whom the child is friends and with whom not, what kind of guys are in the class. Ask what difficulties arise and if you can do something help. Don't demand from your child what the school demands of him," recommends Sugak.
Changing the daily routine
During the holidays, children are completely disconnected from their usual school work. And, of course, there are far fewer organized children who are able to adapt to a new rhythm on their own than those who naturally suffer from a strict regime.
The task of parents is to help the child gently and harmoniously adjust to school biorhythms, start getting up and going to bed earlier. Calculate in advance what time you will have to raise your child to school, and begin to gradually accustom him to the new regimen. It is also important to talk to the student and explain that now he will have to go to so-and-so and get up at so-and-so so that he does not perceive the changes as an order from his parents, but understands the importance of the transition.
In addition, in the first month of education, it is very difficult for children to "sit out" the lessons, this is especially noticeable in primary and high school. It is difficult for them to answer at the blackboard and do their homework daily. In this situation, it is important for parents not to scold the child, but to help organize, allocate time, suggest in what order to complete the tasks.
"The main thing is to do everything gently, without reprimands. It is necessary to interest the children and help them organize. No matter how busy you are, you are always close to the child. Difficulties usually occur only the first month after the summer holidays, then all the students adapt."
Evgenia Abelyuk
Transfer to a new school
If it so happened that you moved to a new area, and the child has to change schools, be sure to prepare him for adaptation in an unfamiliar team. It is advisable to talk to the future in advance class teacher, tell about the child, his features. If, for example, he has a weak nervous system, and he is afraid of strict teachers, you need to warn about this and ask the teacher to report if something goes wrong. It is important to establish a trusting relationship with your child, then he will share everything that happens at school, and not be afraid to tell if he is offended in the class. The child will understand that there is an adult on his side, and then nothing is scary.
"It is important to look closely at the child's behavior, teach him to analyze the situation and his actions, and also adequately respond to the situation. Read Tolstoy's Childhood with him, where such episodes are taken that are part of the child's personal, inner experience."
Evgenia Abelyuk
Honored Teacher of the Russian Federation, GBOU School No. 1525
Despite all the advice, the most important thing a child needs is your love. Love your children, not because they are good at school or good behavior, but simply because they are your children. The school will always demand, and the parents will support with their love. In such a tandem, the child will not feel abandoned, and the learning process will become a joy, no matter how difficult it is.
