A person does not seem to do anything like that: he does not shout, he does not attack, he observes decency. He's just quietly sabotaging what you're negotiating. Or pulls with the fulfillment of promises. And after talking with him, you are literally shaking with indignation, anger or impotence.
Psychologist Irina Chesnova explained that this is a portrait of a typical person with passive-aggressive behavior. She gave advice on how to interact with him.
Signs of a passive aggressor
1. He doesn't keep his promises.
He nods, agrees, but in the end he hesitates to fulfill what you agreed with him. “Forgets” about the agreements, and if he fulfills them, then reluctantly, badly and at the last moment, finding a variety of excuses and expressing dissatisfaction.
A passive aggressor in a close environment is especially annoying: you seem to have agreed with your mother-in-law not to feed the child with sweets, to which he is allergic, and she again gave him candy. They asked my husband to replace a burned-out light bulb in the corridor, and he: “Yes, yes, I will.” Third week in a row.
It is important, however, not to classify all unnecessary and unassembled people as passive aggressors. It can happen to anyone. After all, there are dreamers hovering in the clouds, there are also masters of their words: “I want - I give, I want - I take it back.”
It's hard to count on a man who's last money family budget spending on pigeons. And then hides from scandals in their company in the attic
A person with passive-aggressive behavior behaves like this all the time: he resists requests, boycotts agreements. And at the same time avoids direct confrontation by all means. Will not openly object and argue. His "aggression" is stubbornness, forgetfulness, procrastination and inefficiency.
2. He never expresses his position clearly
He does not say clearly and directly what he wants. Avoids discussing the problem and trying to clarify the situation. Doesn't explain what's wrong. Like Feedback is, but it is not.
Let's go to the cinema?
As you say.
You do not want?
I don't care.
You have a bad mood?
May be.
Have I offended you?
It just seems this way to you.
Is there anything I can help you with?
Don't know. Hardly.
Well, let's stay at home.
Do what you like.
The inability to say "no" is one of the signs of passive aggression. A person will lie, dodge and promise. As a result: walking on mushrooms instead of work, unhappy wife and mistress
3. His words and actions contradict each other
Laments: “We spend so little time together”! And he constantly finds an excuse to slip out of the house.
With all his appearance he shows displeasure: he is silent, frowns, hides his eyes. But to the question: “Did something happen?” replies: "All is well."
Sighs, complains. But if he is offered help, he says: “Well, now what, I don’t need all this.”
Can defiantly redo the work you just completed, showing that you did not cope, although in words - "no, no, I just want to help you."
Almost all the characters, embodied by Andrey Myagkov, have the features of a passive aggressor.
How to Deal with a Passive Aggressor
1. Respond openly to sabotage
Say, “I get mad when you promise to take your baby somewhere, but at the last moment you refuse. Please only promise what you can deliver."
Or: “Zinaida Pavlovna, we agreed with you not to give the baby sweets, but you continue to feed the child with Little Red Riding Hood.” Explain why you are doing this, I want to understand.
Further development of events depends on what they answer you. In any case, show that you are ready for a dialogue.
When talking with a passive aggressor, it is important to speak directly about your feelings and desires: “I don’t like it,” “I don’t like it,” “I’m sorry,” “I’m angry,” “I want it,” “I suggest it.” And ask him directly: “What do you want? What are you planning to do? If you don’t want to do what we agree on, just say so, we will look for a solution that suits everyone.”
Evgenia Nemirovskaya, psychologist
Hidden Messages
“Oh, you’ve recovered, are you all right?” - Where did you get it? - You're so nervous! I worry about you! - Well, what are you crying about? You have a hundred more of these machines at home, just think, it’s broken. “I always thought you were better than that…” - What is your name? Catherine, did you say? Katya, tell me...
Quite often we hear such "strange" phrases - from a husband, relatives, friends. And this “strangeness” can also be expressed like this: to pretend that you have not heard an important request. Pretend you don't understand what the child wants. “I didn’t see” an urgent SMS or letter. “Accidentally” spoiled the offender’s thing and “heartily” apologized: “Come on, these are such trifles ...” He promised - and did not. The list is endless: sabotage, devaluation, underestimation, negativism, avoidance of direct conversation, barbs in the guise of caring, manipulation, deliberate delay or non-fulfillment of agreements, contempt, sarcasm - all these are typical manifestations of covert or passive aggression.
Such aggression does not manifest itself openly, and it may seem that what is happening is just a play on words or circumstances, however, if this aggression is directed at us, we unmistakably feel it. Important signs: after communication, confusion, anger, anxiety, depression, guilt and other unpleasant sensations remain.
In psychology, passive-aggressive and covert-aggressive personality types are even described, such manifestations take the form of a mental disorder. One can only sympathize with these people and their loved ones - it’s not easy for them, and it’s difficult to be around them.
Why do we need aggression?
Aggression is a phenomenon of two sides. This is what destroys and protects. My aggression protects my boundaries and violates others, and, conversely, someone else's aggression violates my boundaries and protects their own. Aggression makes us related to the animal world, its biological meaning lies in the survival of the species: aggression maintains the distance between individuals and delimits the territory. Any person needs a certain level of aggression in order to protect personal: property, territory, intellectual property, body, valuables - from the penetration of another. And attack if necessary.
Manifestations of aggression in humans are endless. With direct aggression, the goal is not hidden, the actions are intentional.
This does not mean an obligatory attack at all, direct aggression may well be expressed in words (although if words do not work, we quite use the techniques from the animal world and can growl, bite and fight). Indirect aggression is directed at belonging, expensive things or people of those to whom this aggression is addressed. A prime example is vandalism. And passive aggression is a suppressed expression of anger in a socially acceptable form: a person like “nothing like that” does or does not say, on the contrary, does not express open discontent, but carefully masks it, and covert aggression is very active, although veiled.
The last two types of aggression are often "combined" into one - passive aggression. Not direct expression aggression is very convenient - you can express your opinions without the risk of being rebuffed or rejected. Although, if you think about it, the benefit here is rather momentary: if you constantly communicate from this position, there is every chance of rejection - it is unlikely that the other side will want to continue communication in the same spirit.
Let's compare. This is what a mother says to her daughter:
“I don't like it when you take my stuff. Please don't take them again without my permission." Or like this: “My dress doesn’t suit you at all - you look fat in it, however, as well as in the rest of my things.”
In the first case, the mother directly protects her property from her daughter's encroachments. In the second case, the mother is still unhappy that her daughter took her dress, but here she acts as a passive aggressor and expresses her dissatisfaction in detours. We use passive aggression when we can't do or say something directly. The question is why can't we do that?
Where does it come from
So, we need aggression first of all in order to defend our borders. However, the manifestation of direct aggression in our society is not accepted and condemned. Moreover, adults often require children not to show aggression at all - to be obedient, not to offend others, to share their toys, to suppress bouts of anger. Unfortunately, these requirements, the fulfillment of which can please parents and save them from the painful feeling of shame for their child, cause significant harm to the child himself!
The ban on natural reactions for the child will almost inevitably lead to the fact that he becomes a passive or covert aggressor: he learns to achieve his goals in a roundabout way, and disagreement and anger does not express directly, but manifests in passive or hidden ways.
Instead of saying that he does not want to eat soup, he will pick at his plate, get distracted, smear it on the table, spill it, or have fun, wanting to “punish” the parent and not daring to express his unwillingness openly. Such a scenario is fixed, the child begins to use it for any reason and continues to do so when he grows up.
Cultural codes contribute to manifestations of latent or passive aggression. For example, the setting that a girl should be modest and feminine should hint, not ask, and a man should guess what she wants. Or the idea “you need to talk politely with an adult”, which implies the impossibility of objecting or at least disagreeing, and much more familiar to us from childhood: “Good children don’t say that”, “If you say that, it means you don’t love mom” .
Passive or covert aggression is born where a person cannot express his anger openly, so anger seeps out on the sly.
A passive or covert aggressor is a person who:
Experiencing difficulties in communication, cannot or does not know how to openly sort things out.
He is afraid of conflicts - because if everyone quarrels, then the relationship is spoiled, they will no longer love him.
Does not refuse to fulfill the request, does not take a pause for reflection, but postpones or does not fulfill the promise at all.
Does not feel guilty and does not apologize, sees and presents the situation as if the other person is always to blame.
Does not show initiative - does not call or write first, does not express his opinion or his opinion is very general and unclear.
He suffers insults, and then endlessly complains and bullies the offender behind his back.
He does not talk about his desires and needs to others - they need to guess about them and do what is needed.
It is very important to trust your instincts on initial stage relationships, most often true essence, an aggressive man shows when he is already sure that a woman will not run away from him anywhere.
What is the behavior of an aggressive man? How on early stages romantic relationship recognize it? What signs in behavior show a person's propensity for aggression and violence?
Every woman should know the answers to these questions so that it is not too late to find out who the man really is and end the relationship sooner rather than later.
Signs of an aggressive man
- He is unreasonably jealous and suspicious
Jealousy is not always a sign of love, more often a sign of complexes and emotional instability. A self-confident man, if he is jealous, he will not make scenes and scandals when the guy at the next table just looked at you.
- Likes to control his woman
He wants to know everything about you, especially where and with whom you spent every minute of your day. He does not like when you meet with colleagues after work, he reads your texts, tries to participate in every area of your life. For example, he may insist on picking you up from work even if you don't want to.
- He doesn't respect his woman
He does not respect any woman in the world and will not treat his own differently - such is the reality. He does not listen to her, defiantly ignores her opinion. Double standards are also a sure sign of aggressiveness. If he treats his woman well and treats others badly, this means that sooner or later he will show his essence.
- Easily loses his temper over trifles
A too irritable person who does not control himself well can also behave with his woman, but not immediately, but as soon as he feels comfortable in her environment, when he realizes that she belongs to him, that she is in love with him, for example, or has become his wife.
- Often uses exaggerations in speech
This indicates a tendency to extremes in the character of a person. For people like him, everything is either black or white (more often black), there is no gray. He does not know what a compromise is, he is bad at negotiating, listening to other people.
- Prefers fast development of relationships
Numerous studies have shown that aggressive men are most often for the rapid development of relationships. They don’t want to wait, the woman should belong to him as soon as possible, because only in this way can he control her and dictate his rules to her. Women often complain that men are slow to propose marriage, but when he does it too soon, this is a good reason to think and analyze your relationship. It happens that this is really love, but if he shows other signs described in this article, then there is no need to rush.
- Tries to limit your contact with family and friends
He wants his woman only for himself and with the development of relationships, he shows more and more dislike when a woman communicates with other people from her environment. When the relationship becomes serious, or after the wedding, he simply forbids her such contacts.
- Mood changes often
The mood can change for all of us, but only in a psychologically unstable person can it change dramatically, often for no apparent reason.
- Uses threats and blackmail to control
“If you don’t do something, then I….” is a common phrase that comes from the lips of an aggressive man. He loves that everything always be exactly as he wants, while he can not use physical violence, psychological aggression is a thing no less terrible.
- Blames others for their problems
He only has someone else to blame but not himself. He is perfect and always does everything right. With the passage of time, he begins to shift more and more blame onto his woman, he makes her feel bad, often humiliates and infringes on her own dignity. This is a method of control using psychological aggression.
- He has a negative attitude towards women
Often he scolds his ex-wives or girlfriends, says nasty things about them and generally considers women “corrupt” or uses other unflattering words, which means that he already has a certain image of women in his head, and the chance that he really considers you is different, minimal. Most likely, he hopes that he will limit you and "educate" you so that you match his idea of \u200b\u200bthe right woman.
- He is aggressive towards animals and children.
A man who can show violence towards defenseless creatures will not refrain from showing the same attitude towards his woman in the future. If he allows aggression towards the defenseless, you need to urgently run away from such a man and as far as possible.
- He is rude and disrespectful to others
If a man behaves well with his woman, but at the same time treats others badly, this sure sign aggressiveness, because at the beginning of the relationship, he will not show his real essence to his woman, but with others he behaves as he used to. Pay special attention to how he treats service personnel various establishments, be it a hotel or a restaurant.
An aggressive man believes that if he has paid any amount for something, then he can behave as he wants. He has the same attitude towards women, if he spent some of his money on her, he often already considers her his property.
Of course, one can sympathize with such people, because most often such behavior is the result of psychological trauma in childhood, being raised in a family with the same aggressive father, but this does not mean that you can somehow help him. Here you need the help of a professional psychologist, and you don’t have to selflessly try to somehow survive in a relationship with an aggressive man because “he feels bad.” This is the mistake of many women. Be smarter and more selective in relationships.
Negative emotions and bouts of aggression periodically occur in everyone, but if most of us prefer to restrain ourselves, some people cannot restrain themselves and they have uncontrollable bouts of aggression. Aggression in men and women today is generally frowned upon. But the number of people who are unable to cope with their emotions does not decrease, and their families and close people suffer from attacks of aggression in men - it is on them that most of the negative emotions “splash out”. What to do with irritability and aggression in men and is it possible to cope with this problem on your own?
Aggressive behavior is considered more characteristic of males. This is due to both the action of hormones and social factors as well as upbringing. Some men continue to consider it a variant of the norm, not realizing that aggressive behavior not only spoils their relationship with others, but also negatively affects their own well-being.
It is customary to single out "positive" or benign aggression - in the form of defensive reactions, courage or sports achievements, and negative or malignant aggression, characteristic only of a person. Under the influence of such a reaction, a person commits destructive, sharply negative actions that are not approved by society.
There are many varieties of attacks of aggression in men, the reasons for their occurrence can also be different:
- Diseases of the internal organs - acute and chronic diseases of the internal organs, accompanied by pain and other symptoms, often cause irritability and aggression in men. Especially if such patients are not treated and hide their condition from others.
- Hormonal imbalance - the level of aggressiveness depends on the concentration of testosterone and some other hormones in the blood. Thyrotoxicosis, diseases of the pancreas, adrenal glands and other glands can provoke hormonal imbalance.
- Neurological diseases and injuries - increased intracranial pressure, injuries and other pathologies of the nervous system can cause aggressive behavior.
- Personality disorder - unmotivated aggression may indicate serious mental problems, there are many, one of the main signs of which is the aggressiveness of the patient.
- Psychological trauma - too strict upbringing, experienced violence and aggression in childhood often provokes outbreaks of aggression in men in adulthood.
- Stress - negative experiences, irritation, personal failures and other problems cause hidden or obvious irritation, which easily turns into aggression.
- Overwork - excessive physical and neuropsychic stress causes exhaustion of the nervous system, loss of control over one's feelings and behavior.
- The use of alcohol and psychoactive substances - under the influence of these substances, the character and attitude of a person changes. If it is impossible to get a new dose of a psychoactive substance or during the period of withdrawal, the aggressiveness of a person increases several times, and restraining motives (social, moral) cease to exert their influence.
- Features of character and upbringing - sometimes aggressiveness can be a trait of character or the result of improper upbringing. In such cases, the only way to cope with manifestations of aggression is through self-control and learning other ways to resolve conflicts.
Kinds
Male aggression can be different. There are several main types of aggressive behavior.
Active aggression- negative emotions "splash" outward in the form of destructive actions, words or behavior. Active aggression, in turn, is divided into physical, verbal, expressive.
- Physical - when a person uses his power to cause harm or destruction.
- verbal or verbal negative emotions manifested by shouting, swearing, cursing.
- Expressive - expressed by non-verbal means of communication: facial expressions, gestures, intonation.
Autoaggression- Aggressive actions are directed at oneself. In this state, people can cause real harm to themselves, cause physical injury.
Passive or hidden This type of aggression is typical for family relations. Not wanting to enter into an open conflict, people ignore the requests addressed to them and do not perform the assigned work. Passive aggression in men is considered a socially acceptable form of relationship. But often, people who do not give themselves the opportunity to openly express their experiences, "hoard" negative emotions, and after that an explosion can occur.
The most common type of aggression in men is family, alcohol and drug. Aggressive man in modern world can rarely find a socially acceptable outlet for his feelings, therefore, his aggression manifests itself in family and personal relationships, as well as when emotions are “disinhibited” after taking alcohol or narcotic substances.
Family is the most common form of aggression. The husband's aggression can be expressed both in physical actions and in moral violence, constant nagging or passive failure to fulfill the duties of a husband and father. The reasons for family aggression in men can be different: misunderstanding and stressful situations, jealousy, financial or domestic problems, as well as violations sexual life or neglect of household duties.
Alcohol and drug aggression – toxic effect alcohol and drugs on the brain causes the death of nerve cells and reduces a person's ability to adequately perceive the situation. The disinhibition of instincts leads to the fact that a person ceases to follow the generally accepted norms of behavior and returns to the "primitive" state.
Treatment
Aggressive men rarely seek help themselves, usually the wives of the aggressors turn to them with the question of how to deal with the aggression of their husband.
There are a lot of ways to deal with aggression, but the most important thing is the understanding and desire of a person to cope with his character. It is impossible to help a domestic tyrant who is happy to intimidate his family. Such a person does not see a problem in his behavior and does not want to change anything.
When communicating with such people or when interacting with aggressive people whom you are not going to help, you should follow the following rules:
- Do not make contact - avoid any conversation, communication or any interaction with such people.
- Do not answer questions and do not give in to provocations - this is the most important thing when dealing with family aggressors. No matter how difficult it is, you must not succumb to various methods provocation and keep calm.
- Asking for help is important not to be shy and not to become dependent on the aggressor. Asking for help helps to avoid further aggression.
You can cope with attacks of aggression on your own using the following techniques:
- Behavioral control - you need to know what situations or factors can cause aggression and avoid such situations or find other ways to solve the problem.
- The ability to relax - the ability to switch and relieve nervous tension helps to reduce aggression.
- Breathing exercises or physical exercises - a good way to deal with aggression is to do some exercises or "breathe" emotions.
- Sedatives - herbal preparations help to cope with irritability, improve sleep and reduce manifestations of aggression.
Regular attacks of aggression are a reason to turn to a neurologist, endocrinologist and therapist. Only after the exclusion of endocrine and neurological diseases can treatment of aggression begin. It is equally important to establish a daily routine, reduce physical and mental stress and devote time to sports and outdoor walks every day.
In itself, it is unpleasant, and not only to others who are suddenly dipped into negativity, but also to the aggressors themselves. In fact, among the latter there are not so many clinical villains who enjoy splashing violent emotions on other people or objects. Normal people are also capable of such outbursts, but then they experience remorse, try to make amends for their guilt, and at least try to control themselves. Aggression is especially destructive in men, the reasons for this can be so far-fetched and strange that the existence of a problem becomes obvious to all participants in the situation.
Types and types of male aggression
It should be noted right away that negative emotions spilling out are not exclusively a male prerogative. Women are just as capable of being aggressors, they do not follow their actions and words. The paradox is that male aggression is partly considered socially acceptable. Of course, extreme manifestations are condemned, but there are many justifications for such a phenomenon as aggression in men. Reasons can vary from competition to a state of health.
Two main types of aggression, which are easily identified even by non-specialists:
- verbal, when the negative is expressed in a cry or frankly negative vocabulary;
- physical, when beatings, destruction, attempted murder take place.
With auto-aggression, the negative is directed at itself, manifesting itself as all kinds of destructive actions. The motto of this type of aggression is: "Let me be worse."
Psychologists classify what we are considering into several types according to the following criteria: mode of manifestation, direction, causes, degree of expression. Self-diagnosis in this case is practically impossible, since in most cases the aggressor seeks self-justification, does not see and does not want to see the problem, and successfully shifts the blame onto others.
Verbal aggression
External manifestations of this type of aggression are quite expressive. It can be a furious cry, curses and curses. Often they are supplemented by gestural expression - a man can make insulting or threatening gestures, shake his fist, and swing. In the animal world, males actively use this type of aggression: who growls louder, then declares himself as the owner of the territory, it comes to outright fights much less often.
However, verbal aggression in men, the causes of which may lie both in mental health and in social pressure, is not so harmless. It destroys the psyche of those who are forced to live nearby. Children get used to the abnormal model of communication, absorb the pattern of paternal behavior as the norm.
physical aggression
An extreme form of aggressive behavior, when a person moves from screams and threats to active physical actions. Now it is not just a threatening swing of the fist, but a blow. A man is capable of causing serious injury to even the closest people, breaking or breaking personal belongings. Man behaves like Godzilla, and destruction becomes his main goal. It can be either a short explosion, literally for one blow, or a nightmare for many hours, which is why aggression in men is considered the most dangerous. The reasons are called very different - from "she provoked me" to "I'm a man, you can't make me angry."
Asking the question of how admissible this is, it is best to take the Criminal Code as a guide. It says in black and white that bodily harm varying degrees gravity, attempted murder and intentional damage to personal property are all crimes.
Features of unmotivated male aggression
It is conditionally possible to divide manifestations of rage into motivated and unmotivated. One can understand and partially justify the aggression shown in the heat of passion. This is often referred to as "righteous anger". If someone offends the relatives of this man, encroaches on their life and health, then the aggressive response is at least understandable.
The problem is such attacks of aggression in men, the causes of which cannot be calculated at a glance. What got into him? just been a normal person, and suddenly how they changed! Witnesses of a sudden unmotivated rage that erupts in any form, verbal or physical, respond approximately like this. In fact, any act has a reason, explanation or motive, but they are not always on the surface.
Reasons or excuses?
Where is the line between reasons and excuses? As an example, we can cite such a phenomenon as the aggression of a man towards a woman. The reasons are often the most common attempts to justify themselves, to shift the blame to the victim: “Why was she late after work? She must be cheating, she needs to be shown the place!” aggression".
Behind such behavior can be both personal hatred for a certain person, and banal misogyny. If a man seriously considers women second-class people, then is it worth being surprised at the vicious attacks against them?
However, outbreaks of aggression can take place not because a man is just an evil type. In addition to far-fetched excuses, there are also serious factors that can be identified and eliminated.
Hormonal background
A significant proportion of aggressive manifestations falls on hormonal imbalance. Our emotions are largely determined by the ratio of the main hormones, a lack or excess can lead not only to violent outbursts, but also to severe depression, to a pathological lack of emotions and severe psychiatric problems.
Testosterone is traditionally considered a hormone not only of sexual desire, but also of aggression. About especially sharp and often they say “testosterone male”. Chronic deficiency leads to an increase in dissatisfaction, makes a person predisposed to negative manifestations. Outbreaks of aggression in men, the causes of which lie precisely in hormonal imbalances, must be treated. To do this, tests are given for the level of hormones, a disease is detected that has led to violations. Symptomatic treatment in this case brings only partial relief and cannot be considered complete.
Middle age crisis
If such cases were not observed before, then sudden aggression in a 35-year-old man can most often be associated with the Age of maximalism is left behind, and the man begins to weigh whether everything is really decisions made were correct, wasn't it a mistake. Literally everything falls into doubt: is this a family, is this a woman, is the right direction chosen in a career? Or maybe it was worth going to another institute and then marrying another, or not marrying at all?
Doubts and hesitation, a keen sense of missed opportunities - all this shakes nervous system, reduces the level of tolerance and sociability. It begins to seem that there is still time to change everything in one jerk. Everyone around seemed to agree, they do not understand this spiritual impulse. Well, after all, they can be put in their place by force, since they do not understand good. Fortunately, the midlife crisis passes sooner or later. The main thing at the same time is to remember that periods of despondency are normal, but this is not a reason to break your life.
retirement depression
The second round of the age crisis overtakes men after retirement. Women most often endure this period easier - a solid part of everyday worries remains with them. But men who are accustomed to their profession as a central part of the life story begin to feel unnecessary, abandoned. Life stopped, the respect of others turned off along with the receipt of a pension certificate.
Aggression in men after 50 is closely related to attempts to shift the responsibility for a failed life onto others. At the same time, objectively, the man who suddenly caught the demon in the rib is all right, but there is a certain dissatisfaction. At the same time, all sorts of health problems, overwork, lack of sleep can be added - all these factors exacerbate the situation. Aggressive attacks begin to seem like a natural reaction to everything that happens.
Psychiatry or psychology?
To whom to go for help - to a psychologist or immediately to a psychiatrist? Many men are afraid of their aggressive impulses, not without reason fearing to do something irreparable. And it is very good that they are able to relatively soberly evaluate their actions and seek help from professionals. Who is involved in such a phenomenon as aggression in men? Causes and treatment are in the department of the psychiatrist exactly until he confirms that according to his profile the patient has no problems. This is precisely what the right approach to treatment with such a specialist: you can safely make an appointment without fear that you will be “dressed as crazy”. A psychiatrist is first and foremost a doctor, and he first checks to see if any completely physical factors affect the patient's psyche: hormones, old injuries, sleep disturbance. A psychiatrist can recommend a good psychologist if the patient does not have problems that require medication.
First step to problem solving
In many ways, the strategy for solving a problem depends on who exactly makes this decision. Aggression in a man ... What should a woman who is nearby, lives with him in the same house, brings up common children? Yes, of course, you can fight, convince, help, but if the situation develops in such a way that you have to constantly endure assault and risk losing your life, it is better to save yourself and save your children.
On the part of the man, the best first step is to admit that there is a problem. It is worth being honest with yourself: aggression is a problem that must be dealt with first of all by the aggressor himself, and not by his victims.
Possible consequences of aggression and complex work on oneself
We have to admit that in places of deprivation of liberty there are often prisoners who have precisely this vice - unjustified aggression in men. Reasons need to be eliminated, but excuses have no power and weight. It is worth taking control of yourself, but not relying only on self-control. If the outbursts of rage are repeated, then the reason may lie in a violation of the hormonal balance. It can be overwork, depressive manifestations, as well as social pressure, an unbearable rhythm of life, age-related changes, some chronic diseases. Seeing a doctor is a sure step to help deal with destructive behavior. Separate the reasons from the excuses, this will help outline the initial plan of action, and soon life will sparkle with new colors.
