Ambivalence, frustration, rigidity - if you want to express your thoughts not at the level of a fifth grader, you will have to understand the meaning of these words. Katya Shpachuk explains everything in an accessible and understandable way, and visual gifs help her in this.

1. frustration

Almost everyone experienced a feeling of unfulfillment, encountered obstacles on the way to achieving goals, which became an unbearable burden and the reason for anything reluctant. So this is what frustration is. When everything is boring and nothing works.

But you should not take this state of affairs with hostility. main way overcome frustration - realize the moment, accept it, and be tolerant. The state of dissatisfaction, mental tension mobilize the strength of a person to deal with a new challenge.

2. procrastination

- So, from tomorrow I'm going on a diet! No, better Monday.

I'll finish it later when I'm in the mood. There is still time.

- Oh, I'll write tomorrow. Will not go anywhere.

Familiar? This is procrastination, that is, postponing things for later.

A painful state when you need and don't want to.

It is accompanied by tormenting oneself for not completing the task. This is the main difference from laziness. Laziness is an indifferent state, procrastination is an emotional state. At the same time, a person finds pretexts, classes are much more interesting than doing a specific job.

In fact, the process is normal and inherent in most people. But don't overuse it. The main way to avoid it is motivation and proper prioritization. This is where time management comes in.

3. Introspection

In other words, self-observation. A method by which a person examines his or her own psychological tendencies or processes. Descartes was the first to use introspection, studying his own spiritual nature.

Despite the popularity of the method in the 19th century, introspection is considered a subjective, idealistic, even unscientific form of psychology.

4. Behaviorism

Behaviorism is a direction in psychology, which is based not on consciousness, but on behavior. Human response to an external stimulus. Movements, facial expressions, gestures - in short, everything external signs have become the subject of study for behaviorists.

The founder of the method, American John Watson, suggested that with the help of careful observation, it is possible to predict, change or form proper behavior.

There have been many experiments that have examined human behavior. But the most famous was the following.

In 1971, Philip Zimbardo conducted an unprecedented psychological experiment called the Stanford Prison Experiment. Absolutely healthy, mentally stable young people were placed in a conditional prison. The students were divided into two groups and assigned tasks: some had to play the role of guards, others were prisoners. Sadistic tendencies began to appear in the student guards, while the prisoners were morally depressed and resigned to their fate. After 6 days the experiment was terminated (instead of two weeks). During the course it was brought that the situation affects the behavior of a person more than his internal features.

5. Ambivalence

Many writers of psychological thrillers are familiar with this concept. So, “ambivalence” is an ambivalent attitude towards something. Moreover, this relationship is absolutely polar. For example, love and hatred, sympathy and antipathy, pleasure and displeasure that a person experiences at the same time and in relation to something (someone) alone. The term was introduced by E. Bleiler, who considered ambivalence to be one of the signs of schizophrenia.

According to Freud, "ambivalence" takes on a slightly different meaning. It is the presence of opposing deep motives, which are based on the attraction to life and death.

6. insight

Translated from English, “insight” is insight, insight, insight, sudden finding of a solution, etc.

There is a task, the task needs to be solved, sometimes it is simple, sometimes it is difficult, sometimes it is solved quickly, sometimes it takes time. Usually, in complex, time-consuming, at first glance overwhelming tasks comes insight - insight. Something non-standard, sudden, new. Along with insight, the previously laid down nature of action or thinking changes.

7. Rigidity

In psychology, “rigidity” is understood as a person’s unwillingness to act according to plan, fear of unforeseen circumstances. “Rigidity” also includes the unwillingness to give up habits and attitudes, from the old, in favor of the new, and so on.

A rigid person is a hostage to stereotypes, ideas that are not created independently, but taken from reliable sources. They are specific, pedantic, they are annoyed by uncertainty and carelessness. Rigid thinking is banal, stamped, uninteresting.

8. Conformism and non-conformism

"Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to stop and reflect" Mark Twain wrote. Conformity is the key concept social psychology. Expressed in a change in behavior under the real or imagined influence of others.

Why is this happening? Because people are afraid when it's not like everyone else. This is getting out of your comfort zone. It is the fear of not being liked, of looking stupid, of being out of the masses.

Conformist – a person who changes his mind, beliefs, attitudes, in favor of the society in which he is.

Nonconformist - a concept opposite to the previous one, that is, a person who defends an opinion that differs from the majority.

9. Catharsis

From ancient Greek, the word "katharsis" means "purification", most often from guilt. The process of a long experience, excitement, which at the peak of development turns into liberation, something maximally positive. It is human nature to experience different reasons, from the thought of not turning off the iron to the loss loved one. Here we can talk about domestic catharsis. There is a problem that reaches its peak, a person suffers, but he cannot suffer forever. The problem begins to move away, anger goes away (who has what), there comes a moment of forgiveness or awareness.

Everything is on the shelves, joint to joint, minute by minute - what is the name of the person who does everything perfectly? How to describe a person who loves the maximum order in everything and does not tolerate any flaws? What is the complexity of this phenomenon and why such behavior can interfere with life.

A person who does everything to the maximum is called a perfectionist. Moreover, people with this trait try to do everything perfectly, regardless of their real opportunities. Sometimes, causing negativity in life.

Perfectionism is a trait

It is rather a lifestyle that sometimes "goes sideways" for the perfectionist himself. It's all about what's most important important description of this phenomenon - to do the job as clearly and efficiently as possible. Whether it's simple cleaning and decluttering a closet with things or sticking wallpaper in your apartment. So what's the problem? Okay, good quality?

Sometimes, perfectionists take on a job that they can not afford. Trying to fulfill it 100%, they “hang” over the problem for hours, not having the psychological opportunity to delegate it to another person. Wasting time, they try to figure out the niche and complete the task as efficiently as possible. Although, a person who does not have such a “sickness” would simply do the job as best he can.

Another characteristic minus of perfectionism is frequent disappointment in oneself. As with everything around, this type of people also treats themselves with excessive demands. In addition to external components, perfectionist people are very scrupulously "rummaging" in their inner world trying to bring it to perfection.

perfectionist in relationships

Of course, both in relationships and in family life, a person who is used to doing everything to the maximum will try to build everything as "beautifully" as possible. Of course, regarding their perception of beauty.

The partner of a perfectionist is usually a person who is not endowed with such a character trait. On the contrary, subconsciously perfectionists are looking for a couple that they will “finish to perfection”.

Despite the obvious disadvantages, a lifestyle of doing everything to the maximum is more of an advantage than a disadvantage. In a world where everyone is chasing only money, spitting on quality, a perfectionist is a real find.

A unique classification of psychotypes: 10 difficult people to avoid communication with

“Surround yourself with good people. People who will be honest with you and never ignore your interests.” — Derek Jeter, Major League Baseball (MLB, Major League Baseball) player, 5-time Gold Glove baseball award winner.

“Think carefully before you go to the bad side: if you are too weak to succumb to this temptation, most likely you will not have the strength to go back.” - Victoria Addino (Victoria Addino), American writer, entrepreneur.

“Stop letting people who do so little for you control your thoughts, feelings, and emotions.” – Will Smith, American actor

Your life is an exclusive event. It depends only on you who will participate in it.

A study carried out in collaboration with scientists from Harvard and cambridge universities showed that communication with positive person increases the chance of becoming an optimist by 11%, while being with a sad person doubles the chance of being thought of as a bore.

You can make every effort to be surrounded good people, communication with which will give strength and motivate for new beginnings. But you can also do nothing, dooming yourself to a life with energy vampires who consider it their duty to convince a person that he is an empty place.

It may sound cruel, but it's true. After all, on the way each of us met a person who made us feel uncomfortable. Such people not only hurt others, they infect them with their negativity.

To avoid similar situations in the future, you must admit to yourself that not all of your friends and acquaintances have a positive impact on your life and find the strength to say goodbye to them. Some people sincerely empathize with your problems, support and comfort, others seek to extract their own benefit. It's hard not to notice the difference, isn't it?

10 people to avoid contact with

So, to make your life easier and simpler, Isaiah Hankel, the author of this classification, advises you to stop communicating with the following types of people.

1. Chicken Little

Chicken Little is a person who can easily convince you that your idea is not worth a damn. When you tell Chicken Little that you want to try something new, he gives a lot of reasons why you shouldn't.

When you share the results of your own work with him - let him read a few chapters of a new novel, show a picture drawn the day before - Tsypa explains why what you have created is not worthy of the attention of a wide audience.

Chicken people never offer solutions to a problem or ask the right questions, but they are masters at predicting impending failure.

2. Heavy hand

A heavy hand is a person who uses force and blackmail to control the actions of others. Such a person does not care about you, he is interested in what you can do for him.

As a rule, the Heavy Hand holds a high position and has an outstanding mind. Most often, such characters can be found among public figures, directors, mentors and politicians. Their main weapon is the feelings of guilt and fear experienced by the people around them.

3. Tough

You are very unlucky if your immediate supervisor is a Tough Guy, because such people are simply impossible to please. They elevate themselves to the rank of the Almighty and think that they have the right to decide the fate of other people.

However, Zadavaka is no different from ordinary person: he does not have unique mental abilities and does not know which came first - the chicken or the egg.

Use Tough as a motivator, but don't waste time trying to please him.

4. Drama Queen

Isaiah Hankel talks about this type of people like this:

“A few years ago, I dated a Drama Queen. She constantly dragged me into completely senseless disputes that flared up over some trifles. It all started with a small reproach she threw at me. Usually I managed to ignore him, but she never stopped there: she whined until I began to argue with her.

She always had a reason for sadness: she complained that she had nothing to wear, that there was only news on TV, that I did not pay enough attention to her, that the weather was bad. I tried not to react to her scenes, but I kept giving up.

To be honest, deep down, I kind of enjoyed these skirmishes. Her performances provided me additional opportunity solve problems. Of course, they were meaningless, and the time allotted for their solution was wasted.

The drama queen can be either a girl or a guy - it doesn't matter. Don't let them drag you into performances. Instead, cut them out of your life and finally stop wasting time solving non-existent problems. :)

5. Drainage

As soon as the drain man opens his mouth, you get the feeling that you just ran a marathon. Everything in this person - the sound of his voice, mannerisms, gestures, facial expressions - has negative impact on the energy balance of the interlocutor.

In the morning you can be sure that today will be unusually successful, but after meeting with the person-drainage you will want to jump out of the window.

Most people tolerate Drainage because they feel sorry for such people and sincerely hope to charge them with their positive energy. But the thing is, the Drainers will never give up their role, because they like to be pitied and given a lot of attention.

6. Elmer

Elmers are nerdy, ruthless, annoying people who make those around them suffer. They can be compared to a thick sticky glue that is almost impossible to get rid of.

Imagine a person who, day after day, repeats that he cannot live without you. He claims that he is ready to do anything, as long as you are there, but despite this, he hurts you again and again.

The Elmers are narcissistic martyrs who don't care what happens in other people's lives. Don't expect them to ever ask how you are doing, because they don't care about your problems.

Perhaps none of the types of this classification can compete with Elmer in the skill of poisoning the lives of others. So if you know Elmers, try to avoid communicating with them. :)

7. Landslide

Isaiah Hankel says this about this type of person:

“Just imagine: in high school, we had a professor who, at more than 50 years old, was not ashamed to drink with his students and organized parties for them. The funny thing is that he was constantly trying to persuade the other teachers to relax a little and have fun. It was a pitiful sight."

It is very difficult for landslides to adapt to the conditions dictated by life. These are cool high school students who hang around the neck of their parents all their lives and spend their free evenings in a bar not far from home. Such people need a lot of time to come to terms with the inevitable changes. Sometimes it takes a lifetime.

8. Princess

If the Drama Queen had a child, he would be a Princess. :)

The princesses act as if there is no one better and more beautiful than them. When the Princesses make mistakes, they rant about injustice and look for someone to blame. They are constantly surprised and ashamed of the inappropriate behavior of other people.

The whole point is that thoughts, actions and their entire existence are green melancholy. If you think that there are not enough colors in your life, think about whether there are Princesses among your acquaintances.

9. Fraudster

Fraudsters are carriers of various ideas and projects that supposedly should save humanity. All you need is the time and money needed to carry out these foolish undertakings. In return, you get a 100% guarantee of the profitability of the aforementioned projects and the promise that they will take care of everything themselves.

When you ask questions, the Scammers smile, assure you that everything will be fine, and advise you to trust the laws of the universe. Such people manipulate guilt and duty to get what they want. They will call you narcissistic if you fight for your own happiness, and noble if you agree to sacrifice it for the "well-being of other people."

10. Manipulator

Isaiah Hankel talks about this type people the following:

“I had a friend in college who could have easily talked me into skydiving. He spoke very quickly, was full of ideas, and knew how to make me feel important. But in the end I realized that this only happened when it was beneficial to him.

He always kept me from doing things that could improve my life and pushed me to take risks that could ruin it. That was until I stopped talking to him.”

Getting rid of manipulators is not easy, because such people have many positive qualities: they are charismatic, energetic, creative and, most importantly, sociable. However, the Manipulators only use them to keep you from moving forward.

To figure out the Manipulator, try to focus on his words, not on his actions. Once you understand who is using you to achieve their own goals, say goodbye to this person.

7 types of people you should be friends with

The second step on the path to a successful fulfilling life is communication with positive people. However, understanding who can make your life better is not so easy. Sometimes people who openly annoy you are best suited for this role. To establish contact with them, you need to change your attitude towards these personalities and, as they say, accept them as they are.

1. Stoick

The first type of person to communicate with is called a "stoic". Talking about this psychotype, Isaiah Hankel recalls his close friend, whom he met in wrestling classes:

“One of my friends in college was a real bore. There was a feeling that he was never surprised at anything and did not rejoice. In general, he could not be called an enthusiast. But he also never worried or panicked. All my attempts to piss him off - so that he showed at least some emotion - ended in vain: he remained restrained, calm and collected.

As he later explained to me, this was his main advantage. When he fought, he won. No matter how strong his opponent was, he always won. My friend was a Stoic."

Stoics have impeccable control over their emotions. They control them so well that they sometimes give the impression of rude robotic people, somewhat similar to the Know-It-Alls from the previous classification.

Stoics focus on events that are within their control: attention, attitude, and the next action they intend to take. Feel free to invite the Stoics into your life, as communication with them will allow you to understand what an active life position is.

2. Mastermind

An inspirer is a person who knows everyone and everyone knows him. :)

Inspirers are best suited to the role of organizers, whose task is to bring people together and direct their energy in the right direction.

It is very easy to confuse the Mastermind with the Manipulator, as he is also charismatic and, as it may seem at first glance, overly sociable. However, the goals set for the Manipulator and the Inspirer are fundamentally different from each other: the Manipulator pursues selfish goals, and the Inspirer seeks to satisfy the interests of the majority.

Pay special attention on the actions of this person (not on words!): Inspirers create, and Manipulators chatter.

3. Inquisitor

Inquisitors ask about everything. When you have a great idea, want to take a huge risk, or make Napoleonic plans, the Inquisitors have doubts, raise objections and consider possible options development of events.

It is very easy to hate the Inquisitor, but it is simply impossible to do without such a character. No matter what you want to achieve, you will need trustworthy, uninterested Inquisitors to guide you on the right path. :)

A lot of people, lighting up some grandiose idea, cease to accept constructive criticism. If someone tries to give advice that might help them, they bury their heads in the sand and hope for the best. Don't become one of these people. Instead, think about what benefits communication with the Inquisitor can bring: unlike Chicken Little, he does not experience irrational fear of what you tell him, but gives advice that contributes to your success.

4. Aristocrat

It is very easy to confuse an aristocrat with a princess. But despite the fact that each of them has exceptional manners, the Princesses behave arrogantly, and the Aristocrats are restrained and affable. Princesses present themselves in a favorable light, taking advantage of the lower position of others, while Aristocrats ignore this factor in order to destroy possible communication barriers.

5. "Loser"

Isaiah Hankel says this about this type of person:

“In college, physics classes were attended by, as it seemed to me then, a spineless guy. He was very reserved and constantly said something out of place. But he had very high scores, and the ideas he described were very pleasing to our professor.

Later I managed to find out that this guy was developing computer programs, started own business and is now thinking about how to make the first million. Yes, now I regret a little that I did not make friends with him then. :)

"Losers" are people who don't seem to fit into your company. They are very clumsy and often make those around them feel awkward. But at the same time, it is precisely those who were once considered “Losers” who decide on absolutely incredible things and achieve success.

This is because they do not waste time learning how to stand out from the crowd and live up to imaginary standards.

6. Gladiator

Gladiators are called enterprising competitive people who like to cope with various difficulties and constantly challenge themselves. What is the result? Communication with Gladiators is avoided.

The thing is that most people are afraid to get into conflict situations preferring the boring course of life to any change. Gladiators, in turn, love to compete with other people, because they are confident that competition is the main engine of progress.

Don't confuse the Gladiator with the Heavy Hand: The Heavy Hand oppresses others, killing their initiative, while the Gladiator leads them forward, motivating them to work. Instead of being shy about Gladiators, invite them into your life: they will push you into right direction and help you reach your full potential.

7. Golden child

Surely in your life there is a person who enjoys universal love. Perhaps this is a work colleague to whom all employees and bosses flock to listen to his point of view on some issue or just chat. Or maybe it's your friend (or each other), the appearance of which eliminates the need to illuminate the room.

Such people attract others with their energy, simplicity and friendliness. From the side it seems as if life throws them from one hot spot into another. But that's just from the side...

In fact, behind every Golden Child there are many troubles, overcoming which he ended up where he is now. Most likely, for many years the Golden Child made far-sighted decisions regarding not only his work, but also the people who surrounded him.

Don't try to compete with the Golden Child. Instead, try to become a Golden Child by removing people from your life that are preventing you from moving forward.

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Simple and amazing stories of real heroes. Everyone should know their names.

History knows a huge number of people who made outstanding deeds and discoveries, but at the same time remained unnoticed.

website believes that many of them deserve fame and wide recognition. This article contains the stories of seven such heroes - they are all different, but each of them made life on planet Earth a little - or even much - better and happier.

History from Konstantin Paustovsky

“It was the spring of 1912, before the exams, a meeting was arranged in the garden. All the gymnasium students of our class were called to it, except for the Jews. The Jews were not supposed to know anything about this meeting.

At the meeting, it was decided that the best students from Russians and Poles should grab the four in exams at least in one subject so as not to receive a gold medal. We decided to give all the gold medals to the Jews. Without these medals, they were not admitted to the university.

We have sworn to keep this decision confidential. To the credit of our class, we did not let it slip, neither then nor after, when we were already university students. Now I break this oath, because almost none of my schoolmates are left alive. Most of them died during the great wars that my generation experienced. Only a few people survived."

A world without nuclear war

September 26, 1983 lieutenant colonel Stanislav Petrov was on duty at Serpukhov-15, a secret bunker near Moscow, and was busy monitoring the satellite system Soviet Union. Shortly after midnight, one of the satellites signaled to Moscow that the US was launching 5 ballistic missiles at Russia. The entire responsibility at that moment fell on the forty-four-year-old lieutenant colonel: he had to decide how to respond to this signal.

The alarm sounded at a difficult time, relations between the USSR and America were strained, but Petrov decided that it was false and refused to take any retaliatory measures. Thus, he prevented a possible nuclear disaster- the signal turned out to be false.

Vasily Arkhipov, an officer in the Russian Navy, also once made a decision that saved the world. During the Caribbean Crisis, he prevented the launch of a nuclear torpedo. The Soviet submarine B-59 was surrounded near Cuba by eleven American destroyers and the aircraft carrier Randolph. Despite the fact that it took place in neutral waters, the Americans used depth charges against the boat to force it to rise to the surface.

The submarine commander, Valentin Savitsky, prepared to launch a nuclear torpedo in return. However, the senior on board Arkhipov showed restraint, drew attention to the signals from the American ships and stopped Savitsky. The signal "Stop the provocation" was sent from the boat, after which the American military forces were withdrawn and the situation was somewhat defused.

The man with the golden hand

Australian at thirteen James Harrison had undergone major breast surgery and was in urgent need of about 13 liters of donated blood. After the operation, he was in the hospital for three months. Realizing that donating blood saved his life, he made a promise to start donating blood as soon as he turned 18.

As soon as Harrison reached the age required to donate blood, he immediately went to the Red Cross blood donation site. It was there that it turned out that his blood is unique in its kind, since its plasma contains special antibodies, thanks to which it is possible to prevent the Rhesus conflict of a pregnant mother with her fetus. Without these antibodies, the Rh conflict leads to a minimum of anemia and jaundice in the child, a maximum to stillbirth.

When James was told what exactly was found in his blood, he asked only one question. He asked how often you can donate blood.
Since then, every three weeks, James Harrison comes to a medical center near his home and donates exactly 400 milliliters of blood. To date, he has donated about 377 liters of blood.
In the 56 years since his first donation, he has donated blood and blood components almost 1,000 times and saved about 2,000,000 children and their young mothers.

Polish Schindler

Eugene Lazowski was a Polish doctor who saved thousands of Jews during the Holocaust. Thanks to the discovery of his friend, Dr. Stanislav Matulevich, Lazovsky imitated an outbreak of typhus, a dangerous infectious disease. Matulevich discovered that it was possible for a healthy person to be vaccinated with certain bacteria, and then the results of the test for typhus would be positive, and the person himself would not experience any manifestations of the disease.

The Germans were afraid of typhus because it was highly contagious. At a time when Jews infected with typhus were routinely executed, Lazowski was inoculating the non-Jewish population in the neighborhoods surrounding the ghetto, near the town of Rozvadov. He knew that the Germans would be forced to give up in order to get close to the Jewish settlements, and in the end they simply quarantined the area. This saved approximately 8,000 Polish Jews from certain death in concentration camps.

The scientist who saved millions of lives

American biologist Maurice Ralph Guilleman created 36 vaccines in his lifetime - more than any other scientist in the world. Of the fourteen vaccines that are now in general use, he invented 8, including those for measles, meningitis, chickenpox, hepatitis A and B.

In addition, Gilleman was the first person to determine how the flu virus mutates. Almost single-handedly, he worked to develop a vaccine that prevented the 1957 Asian flu outbreak from becoming a repeat of the 1918 Spanish pandemic that killed 20 million people worldwide.

Donor of immortal cells

African American Henrietta Lacks died of cancer in 1951 at the age of thirty-one. However, she became a donor of cellular material that allowed Dr. George Otto Gay to create the first ever immortal human cell line, known as the HeLa line. "Immortality" meant that these cells did not die after a few divisions, which means that they could be used to conduct many medical experiments and research.

In 1954, the HeLa cell strain was used by Jonas Sok to develop a polio vaccine. In 1955, HeLa became the first successfully cloned human cells. Demand for these cages grew rapidly. They were put into mass production and sent to scientists around the world to study cancer, AIDS, the effects of radiation and other diseases. Now scientists are growing about 20 tons of Henrietta cells, there are almost 11,000 patents related to them.

Inventor of the seat belt

July 10, 1962 employee of the Volvo Corporation Nils Bolin patented his invention - a three-point seat belt. It was the same system that is still used in cars today: it took Bolin just under a year to develop, and it was first introduced on Volvo cars in 1959.

The corporation made the seat belt design free to other automakers, and it soon became a worldwide standard. According to recent studies, Bolin's invention has saved about a million lives during its existence.

In psychology, there are a huge number of concepts that describe the most diverse mania inherent in man. Someone loves to scatter things around the apartment, while the other will be happy to wash the plates to a shine all day long and make sure that there is not a single speck of dust in the house.

If we talk about the name of a person who loves order in everything, then in this case you can most often hear the words “clean”, “clean-smelling”, “pedant”, “accurate” and many others. As a rule, others make fun of such personalities, not even suspecting that such an obsession appears in some for a reason.

general information

There are people who love order, but do not show much fanaticism. In this case, there is no cause for concern. Who will blame the housewife for the fact that she wants the household to feel comfortable. Another thing is when it comes to extremes. The mania of cleanliness and order is often caused by neuroses and obsessive-compulsive disorders. Therefore, it is very important to distinguish a pedant from a person obsessed with an obsession.

If we are talking about a certain type of personality, then such a pedant will be accurate in everything. Sometimes such people are even considered petty, as they like to concentrate on even the most insignificant nuances both in communication with others and in life.

People who should have everything perfect are very demanding. It is not easy to live with such perfectionists. To try to change the situation, you need to understand the nature of such a mania (if it really delivers so much inconvenience).

Perfectionist complex

Psychologists have long determined that the desire for order and the desire to achieve the ideal in everything are very often found in the same person. People who love everything perfect live every day as a kind of test or challenge. Often in their aspirations they reach the point of absurdity. For example, such a person simply will not be able to carry on a conversation if he notices that one of the paintings on the wall hangs crookedly by a few millimeters.

Often, in their desire to make the world around them ideal, such people begin to strive for everything 100%. If they hang clothes, then they must be separated from each other by equal distance. The books will be sorted by color scheme or by size. They often exhibit a mania for cleanliness. Moreover, others get the impression that very soon the placement of such a pedant in literally will become sterile.

Anxiety

Often people who love order too much are actually trying to hide from their own fears. When they clean the apartment or wash the floors to a shine, they begin to feel that they are able to control something. Therefore, only cleaning allows them to relax.

Most often, such mania affects those who grew up in difficult conditions. For example, if a child throughout his childhood saw his parents drinking alcohol, or the father and mother were forced to live from penny to penny, then the kid involuntarily realized that he could not correct the situation. Such helplessness gave rise to such dependence in him.

chronic stress

If a person is forced to work at a job that requires maximum attention and nervous tension, then putting things in order can become a kind of outlet. Cleaning helps take your mind off your mind. When a person does something with his hands, he calms down faster.

Therefore, if the desire to clean up is especially acute at the end of a hard day, then you need to think about changing jobs or find a way to relax. Often, chronic stress can also be related to a loved one. In this case, you should think about your relationship.

desire to be good

If a person who loves order was not much loved by his parents, then it is possible that in adulthood he is simply trying to win the warm feelings of others in such a peculiar way. Do not discount the religiosity of some families. Rites of purification often figure in the world's largest beliefs. Therefore, this automatically means that the one who believes must necessarily monitor the purity of his soul and everything that surrounds him. This implies order in the head and in the house.

Monotony

As a rule, housewives most often suffer from this. If a woman does not work and is forced to play the role of the guardian of the hearth, then she often feels offended that all her work goes unnoticed. To pay attention to the fact that she spends no less time and effort on making the house comfortable, the lady may unconsciously begin to reach the point of absurdity.

It is important for any housewife that her husband and children respect her and reckon with her. If this does not happen, then such a woman will begin to perfect the role assigned to her in order to prove that she has no equal in housework.

What's bad about it

For many, a person who likes everything to be perfect is associated with positive personality. But you need to understand that if we are talking about dissatisfied people, then most often they, on the contrary, are embittered. Focusing on the fact that they are underestimated, they can completely lose their sense of empathy and kindness over time.

Often people who love order unwittingly block their humanity, turning into a kind of robots or fanatics. It becomes difficult to communicate with them.

In addition, perfect order is the enemy of all creativity. If a person is never late for anything, is always dressed with a needle, and on his hair lies a hair to a hair, then he is most likely not able to fantasize, dream. With such people around it becomes boring.

People who love order are forced to spend most of their time cleaning. They don't know how to enjoy life. Such an obsession eventually deprives all joys. Similar people stop thinking about loved ones and concentrate only on their mania. Therefore, do not turn a blind eye to such problems. You need to understand how to get rid of such mania.

Treatment

by the most in an efficient way is to seek help from a specialist. Mania of order, as a rule, appears in the background psychological problems. Only a specialist will be able to find the exact cause of the appearance of such an obsessive condition and offer a treatment program.

Good results are shown by cognitive-behavioral therapy. Thanks to her, the specialist manages to slightly correct the features of the consciousness of a person who should have everything perfect, and aim him at other, more important things. The main objective of such treatment is to change the way of thinking, habits or the whole way of life.

If this does not help or the patient wants to take the path of least resistance, then hypnosis can be used. In a state of deep sleep, the patient is suggested the necessary key points.

Both methods are popular. But it is important that the procedures are carried out exclusively by a professional.

How to get rid of mania on your own

Most often, a person just needs to relax and not think about problems or anything at all for a while. Aromatherapy is the best way to do this. A few drops of oil are enough, which are applied to a special candle - and a pacifying smell will spread throughout the apartment.

Preference should be given to compositions based on lavender. This aroma has a positive effect on the work of the central nervous system. Also, the smell of this oil will help overcome insomnia.

You can also buy orange oil. Its aroma improves mood. Additionally, it helps to restore strength and recharge with energy.

Some use bergamot oil. The smell of such a composition stimulates the production of the so-called hormone of happiness. The person becomes calmer. Signs of strong nervous tension disappear.

You can also opt for mint. It has excellent aromatic properties. Its aroma soothes and relieves depression.

Is it better to be sloppy?

If the desire for cleanliness is a mental problem, then can people who scatter around the apartment and live like in a barn boast nerves of steel? Of course no. In everything you need to know the measure. Any behavior brought to the point of absurdity can easily turn into mania. Therefore, a balance must be found.

You need to find time for yourself, loved ones and loved ones. Do not be nervous over trifles and allow nervous strain. But this does not mean that it is worth running a house. If the paintings hang unevenly, but at the same time the apartment is clean, then no one will accuse the hostess of uncleanliness. But a constant mess can bring to life not less problems than any addiction.