The article was written by me specifically for the Tarot Chronicles magazine, No. 7, 2015

In the past few years, in Russia and other CIS countries, interest in esotericism and the occult has been constantly growing. There are two reasons for this: the desire to be different from everyone else and the desire to realize the potential inherent inside, which can be called the mission of a person. This potential is a guide whose task is to awaken those in the world of the blind who are looking for their own path. And these people can and should be called esoterics. All the rest can achieve some quite satisfactory success, however, worldly life for them has more high value than something invisible that they cannot touch with their hands.

The formation of an esoteric is a long process and it is calculated more than one year of life. During this period, many mistakes are made, all of them are carefully analyzed and eventually transformed into what is called experience. Can a person under the age of thirty or thirty-five be considered a true esotericist? Many of you who are familiar with practices younger than the age I have indicated will answer in the affirmative. And they may well be right, but I certainly do not agree with them. A person who has not gone through the basic aspects of the cleansings that are lived on the Arcana Death cannot be considered esoteric due to the lack of life experience, which includes not the basic mistakes of youth, but deep experiences and polishing of the human soul.

True esotericists from childhood are not like everyone else, because they are already in early age bear the seal of the Hermit and the Priest in one vial. They do not know what loneliness is, because this concept is incompatible with spiritual development and growth. For them, loneliness is an inner freedom when you feel good with yourself. And this is solitude, and not loneliness in its purest form, as it might seem at first glance. So, in order to delve a little into the world of the growing esoteric, let's try to get closer to him and look into his eyes.

The Hermit's eyes are surprisingly deep and piercing. They contain the wisdom of dozens, or even hundreds of incarnations on our mortal Earth, which is a true hell for the Spirit living here for a hundred lives in order to go to the Divine abode as an entity of a higher order. Yes Yes. As crazy as it sounds, but it will be so. These children spend most of their free time reading books, sometimes not very correct, from the point of view of adults. The society of peers is alien to them, not because they are not accepted there, but because they are not interested there. It is much more interesting to sit in silence, leafing through old tomes and reading, imagining a world that they have never seen in real life. But… they saw him, they just forgot everything. A “wrong” turn, from the point of view of public opinion and the opinion of parents, occurs precisely when the wrong book falls into the hands. Actually, this happened before, when there was no Internet and social networks. There was no television, and everything esoteric was covered with age-old dust of forbidden secrets. Who knows how many children, under the influence of the journal Science and Life and works on quantum mechanics and physics, began to delve into what led them to understand that life is not what we are used to seeing. Life is something else that we have no idea about, because for us it is like the foot of a person who accidentally or deliberately steps on an ant crawling on the ground. This is a very good interpretation of the work of the Wheel of Fortune Arcana. It seems to be non-existent, however, it exists and every turn of it brings us victory or defeat.

And after such a turn, everything changes in the life of this child. He is not yet able to realize this, however, peers are already beginning to feel that he is not like everyone else. And not like everyone else, they scare everyone. They are shunned because they do not understand either their views, or their moods, or the reasons that prompt them to say some words and phrases, the meaning of which is not clear to the majority. That is, to put it quite simply, a child who is destined for the path of esotericism from childhood is smarter and wiser than his peers. And there's nothing to be done about it. He was born this way and he will live this way until the end of his days.

I think the period of adolescence can be easily missed, because there is nothing remarkable there except that the subconscious part of the Hermit very clearly builds the guidelines by which he will live further. Such Hermits have few friends, literally a couple - three, or even one at all. And this is an absolute norm for them, because, in their opinion, there cannot be many true friends. Yes, and they do not converge with anyone, but only with those who are able to feel them at least a little. There are very few such people even in adulthood, to say nothing of teenagers with their youthful maximalism. And now he lives - such a child lives for himself, reads books, learns the world around him and understands that something is wrong in this world. There are those who are able to feel the breath of nature and enjoy sunsets and sunrises; and there are those who live enjoying material things and sunsets - sunrises for him are nothing more than a natural process, without any sacred meaning. However, what is this sacred meaning, our growing Hermit, also can not always coherently explain. Here's a question for you: waking up and falling asleep, have you ever thought that your state of immobility is nothing more than an illusion? After all, while it seems to you that you are motionless, you are rushing at a speed of 254 km / s around the center of our galaxy. Although this information can be questioned. To Caesar is Caesar's, as they say.

Despite all his life ups and downs, the esoteric, being a conductor of the energy of the Hermit, thinks about relationships. A small note. vicissitudes. Everyone has them, but if you carefully analyze the lives of all esotericists significant for the world, you will see that on their life path there are such events that, from the point of view of society, are mistakes / fatal accidents and it is they who make them who these people eventually become. Those who are lucky with a family become quite normal members of it. Those who are less fortunate become her outcasts, by analogy with the saying "There are black sheep in the family." And they are seriously considered underdeveloped, because they do not profess spiritual bonds, which all the rest, however, profess only for the sake of forgiveness from above, and even then only on holidays. And the true esoteric is neither a Catholic, nor a Christian, nor a Buddhist, etc., in their purest form. It is always a kind of symbiosis that carries a part of the Higher Cosmic Mind, of which we are all part. And this life philosophy of theirs makes them the last of the Mohicans, those who are able to see and feel the charm of our home, our mother Earth, who once gave us life, and who will one day take our physical body into her arms.

So, this background is quite enough for each of the readers to draw their own conclusions about how it all begins and draw an analogy with their own lives. If you suddenly realize that you are the very “esoteric” who just wants to be different from everyone else, don’t be scared. There is nothing terrible in this. This is simply the first step that you must go through in this incarnation in order to throw off the chains of society and gain individuality. Just accumulate experience. You will need it. In future. Maybe not in this life, but...

The man who took the path spiritual growth, in most cases will always be alone. Even if he is in a couple, he will always feel lonely. His head will be filled with different thoughts, and all of them will lead him away from the present, into worlds that do not exist in our understanding. No wonder I mentioned the Hermit so many times in this article. The fact is that the Hermit and the Pope are the key energies through which the esotericists pass. People under their direct influence simply cannot create stable couples, because an ordinary partner is not able to accept their detachment from everyday problems that require daily participation. The main paradox here is that both of these Arcana conduct the energy of the Earth, although their highest hypostasis is the sphere of influence of high cosmic energies. Not without reason, in the chakra layouts, the Pope in the seventh chakra is an indication of a direct connection to the vibrations of cosmic energies or the knowledge of the Divine, which we are not able to fully know. This is a reflection of the fact that a person lives in accordance with the laws of the Universe, and his karma is different from the karma of most people. However, we are a little off topic.

At the very beginning of my story, I focused your attention on two types of esoterics. For ease of understanding, let's call them "pseudo" and "true" esoterics. Dear reader, I ask you not to be offended if the word "pseudo-esoteric" seems rude or inappropriate to you. In fact, there is nothing wrong with it. And if you want to go over to the side of true esotericists, you must understand that there is nothing worse than lying to yourself. Therefore, I leave this topic in this form, because. it is able to turn all the "pseudo" towards the "true".

A true esoteric needs a relationship just like a pseudo. But for the first, these relationships are easier to create and maintain, unlike the second. The thing is that the first needs more worldly goods and another person than the second. The second is fully aware that it is almost impossible to find a couple who will accept him for who he is. Being a true esotericist, he is not very worried about his next, broken relationship. It cannot be said that he does not care at all, because he is still a person, despite the fact that he is an esoteric. And the need to love and be loved is as natural in him as in other people. However, life dictates its own rules, so after grieving a little at the next ashes, he returns to normal.

His energy is so powerful that if he smiles, everyone who comes into contact with him at that moment smiles. If his soul cries, he either goes to his cell, or accidentally sets everyone else on the same wave.

Why are most of those who embark on this path lonely in life? Each of you can come up with your own options. However, the key one is the impossibility of building relationships due to the fact that the esoteric is not able to devote much time to either his family or his loved one. His periods of retreat are much longer than the time he can spend with a partner. And it's not that he does not want to balance love and mission on the scales. He wants. But sooner or later there comes a moment when the other side stops waiting. The partner leaves, and the esoteric often remains alone, continuing to love him. Here, by the way, it is necessary to note one more important feature. Everyone who lives in the esoteric world has a very delicate taste in music, a vivid imagination and loves to read books. But the main thing is not even that. The main thing is that they know how to love unconditionally. Even if the person has hurt you more than once. Even if you know for sure that you will never be together. And this love is not suffering and torment, but happiness and the realization that somewhere on Earth there is a person whose existence helps you to create and explore the space in which you reside with redoubled energy. Ordinary people are deprived of this. They are too down to earth and, in most cases, love for them is the desire to have someone who will idolize them. The desire not to live life with someone in order to contact at the level of anahata, but simply to be like everyone else. And “like everyone else” is the lot of the crowd, not individualists. Not those who can be classified as “seeing in the world of the blind”, because society is blind. He wants one thing - to subordinate you to his rules. As soon as you obey, you immediately turn into one gray person, quietly walking in a crowd of gray people like you. Only one fact is regrettable here, the "gray" himself will never know that he is gray. Awareness is beyond its capabilities, because it is originally mundane, and the esoteric flies in the sky. He is constantly in flight and his thoughts are far from the place where he resides.

He is an observer who sometimes conducts experiments on himself, letting relationships into his life. This is necessary in order to synthesize a new experience and analyze it, to identify the cause-and-effect relationships of certain phenomena that occur between the energies of yang and yin. Can an observer be permanently in a relationship? Theoretically it can. If next to him is someone who shares his philosophy of life. It divides. Otherwise, the partner will simply tolerate your strange, in his opinion, inclinations and periodically begin to criticize you. Or even worse, set a condition to stop everything. Those who play esoteric will open their chest and quickly hide their esoteric there until better times. And those who live it will dot it all and finish their fairy tale, even if it hurts a lot, but there is no other way out. This is one of the hallmarks of the Hermit. It is always easier for him to leave than to explain something. He does not see the point in explanations, because he knows for sure that his words will be misunderstood and misinterpreted. And the Priest in Sahashara will no longer allow to abandon his principles and his picture of the world. Not because it is the only true one, but because inside the Hermit there is a strong feeling that he is following exactly the path that opens him himself and the world in which he lives.

Every time he stays in an open area, the Hermit, like a bird, flies into the sky and revels in the bliss of this freedom and the knowledge that he carries in himself. Does this person need a partner? No. Although, at first glance, it would seem the opposite. But he has his cross. He knows that we come into this world alone and leave the same way. And most of our lives we also live alone, so is it worth it to be afraid that there is no one next to you? It’s not worth it, although while we are on Earth, we are paired creatures and we need a partner. And the esoteric may at times regret that he never managed to create a happy couple. And that's okay. Truly happy couples are added only to those who have found the very soul with which they have traveled more than one path. And given that esotericists do not accept surrogates, it is easier for them not to tie themselves to anyone by marriage than to tie them to the wrong person.

I deliberately do not mention in this article the gender of the esoteric in question. However, I can say that it is much more difficult for an esoteric woman to find her mate than for a man. This is almost the same as looking for a couple for an ordinary woman, only it has its own nuances. Esoteric men may not enter into long-term relationships quite intentionally, but women ... women are different. Therefore, the phrase of Anna Simonova: “There is no way out of esotericism!” accurately reflects the true state of affairs in this area, and you must be aware. If you suddenly decide to embark on the path of a true esoteric, remember, the price for this is your life. They will take exactly as much from you as they should take. And among these things there will be many people, habits, etc. dearest to you. This is how the law of communicating vessels works. Arrived in one place - departed in another. The law of the eternal cycle of the Universe. Therefore, everyone who decides to embark on this path consciously wants to say: do not look for reasons in yourself if the relationship does not stick. Just know that this is your membership fee for the Beyond the Mirror Club. Your vow, according to which you undertake to remain silent and be an ascetic in all areas of life.

Veronika Nikitenko

Chief evangelist of the Alchemy project, Tarot practitioner and researcher, author of a methodology for changing the matrix structures of consciousness, business coach, author of the book on working with the Deviant Moon Tarot deck "In the Power of the Mad Moon"

You are already many years old. There are many friends, many meetings and goodbyes, but there is no love, there is no such person whom one would like to keep, without whom life is unthinkable. You divorced your husband, you have two children in your arms, all your efforts are aimed at their well-being, but you are a living person, and you want personal happiness. You understand that the happiness of your children largely depends on whether their mother is happy.

You are no longer young, life has developed, maybe not quite the way you dreamed. I really want tenderness, mutual understanding, a kind, affectionate word, the warmth of a person who is nearby. You have not used up the supply of love, generosity, worries that you want to give away and be happy because someone needs you.

Let's try to overcome the karma of loneliness.

Let's try to give our impulse of love, expectation, thirst for happiness into space. Giving, let's think that we are sending it to a soul that is in tune with us, which could gratefully accept our generous energy gift.

If you feel that the desire to overcome loneliness is very strong in you, do the following energy work aimed at attracting the soul, which is also looking for you in space.

1 . Try to imagine the person you would like to see next to you. No need to imagine his face, figure, clothes, you should not think about how many hard cash he has in his pocket, whether he has a car, an apartment or his own store in the city center.

Try feel in the form presented soul mate, try to catch his breath and feel how close it is to you. It must be a vibration, which is in tune with yours so much that their common melody is harmonious and already inseparable into two separate parts.

2 . This breath, this vibration, imagine standing at your side. behind the left shoulder(for women) or located slightly in front of the right shoulder(for a man). Try mentally talking to him (or her). Tell us how you feel and how you would like to see your life in the near future. Imagine that you are being answered.

You will be surprised to find that the answer you present cannot be changed at will. The vibration that you have created has a character that cannot be changed without changing the vibration itself. You can even consult with your friend, each time pleasantly surprised how well he understands you.

3 . Your fictional energy vibration, your dream, your new friend already gives you a state of harmony. And now, going to visit, to a disco, to a theater, to a concert, both at home and on the street, feel this harmony in yourself, try not to lose it.

According to the energy law of Correspondence, you will attract a vibration to yourself that will be very, very similar to the one that is your bright dream.

When conducting energy work, you must observe the following rules.

1 . The focus on the presentation process should not be excessive. The energy you work with should be an easy dream, a bright hope, a transparent dream. There should be no tension or heaviness in the head. There should be as much light and quiet joy as possible in thoughts and feelings.

2 . You must certainly free your soul from mercantile and pragmatic tasks. Even if you are tired of living in squalor and poverty, do not imagine a prince with a fat wallet. The wallet can outweigh in your dreams, and then the prince suddenly turns into, for example, a pimp. And you will be surprised to find in it exactly the vibration that you wanted.

If you want to get out of poverty through marriage, don't imagine a lot of money, it always ends badly. Imagine a harmonious soul for you, imagine that together you sound great and the melody of your life is so good that all other favorable factors are simply added to it. Easy and unobtrusive. Attached, but do not become central theme your dreams! " Together we will be fine! "That's your feeling.

3 . Try not to invent a new vibration each time depending on your mood, but you can also imagine the same person of your dreams in a different mood. If you are confused in your thoughts and desires, it means that you have not yet understood yourself, have not understood what you need, and then your work is premature, it can only interfere with the natural course of events in your life.

4 . Do not tell anyone that you are doing such energy work. This is a very subtle vibration, if someone knows about it, another vibration (energy) involuntarily turns on, and it is not known what effect it will have on your work.

5 . And finally, there is no need to doubt whether you will succeed or fail to realize what you want. Treat your work as a pleasure, as your little pleasant secret, a pink dream that helps you live. And what will be the result - leave it to the discretion of the Higher Forces.

It is good if you accompany all your work with a prayer to God. Your condition should be quiet and bright, prayer - humble.

• Lord, I thank You for everything that is given to me in life (you can list, mentioning both joyful and successful, and sad, referring to troubles as trials). I apparently deserved everything bad, everything good was given to me as a priceless gift.
• I thank You, Lord.
• How I wish I could meet love in my life. So that he (she) is consonant with me, so that he (could) give happiness to her (him), and he (she) to me. So that there is mutual understanding and respect between us, so that our love brings harmony to this beautiful world.
• If only I am worthy (worthy) of such love, I ask you to let me, Lord, meet her (him), because I want to love and give joy close person(because I want to have children and give them joy, etc.).

state of humility before Higher powers, the humility of one's pride (which is a manifestation of dissatisfaction with life) - this is what a person usually needs to acquire before "taking off the crown of celibacy." Neutralizing the various negative energies that are present in your field is a good thing, but it will not bring anything if the inner work is not done. Literate inner work any negativity can be overcome. " Seek to find ", - said Jesus, referring to the search for harmony within himself.

KARMIC LONELY

When it comes to karma, many people equate it with a sentence. Indeed, getting rid of the consequences of karma is very, very difficult. And yet, as they say, options are possible. Lonely people often become lonely precisely because of the karmic consequences.

Karmic loneliness: what is it?

Having been born, each of us acquires certain karmic tasks, and some of us acquire entire karmic programs that need to be realized in this life or get rid of certain blocks.

According to the karmic law, we are in this world not by chance, but in order to fulfill a certain mission. Even if we do not want to come into close contact with others, fate will still bring us together sooner or later. the right person with which to be processed. This may turn out to be, or maybe business ties to a partner or a fight with an enemy. Each person with whom we communicate appears in our life in order to pay off karmic debts, to correct past mistakes.

The karma of loneliness is given to a person so that the person plunges into deeper self-knowledge and analyzes those situations that past life and in past incarnations were passed incorrectly. Of course, we cannot remember it, but we can feel it.

Typically, if a person is this moment rejected and does not have a prosperous stable, this means that he needs to look for other ways to establish relationships with others. And only through self-development can one change one's destiny and correct one's karma, and then loneliness will turn into another form, which will give a person a prosperous partner and comfortable relationships.

Reasons for karmic loneliness

We will try to understand the reasons that lead to karmic loneliness.

Perhaps in the last incarnation you created an idol for yourself and ended up with nothing.

Or vice versa - you could be the object of admiration, who rudely rejected attempts to establish normal relations with him.

You may have set the bar too high for social status their fans, and thus cut off the slightest possibility of contact with people of lower social status.

Some in the past experience were in constant search for true love, never finding their ideal.

Others did not know how to love at all, and for some, the only subject for love and adoration was himself.

Someone in a past life, in the name of serving ideals, withdrew from worldly affairs and dedicated himself to God.

Someone was afraid of responsibility for another person and could not become a support for a loved one.

Someone did not find the strength to search new love after the death of a partner, feeling affection for a dead love.

Someone left children for whom a person sacrificed his personal life.

All these people have common components - this is the karma of loneliness, which determines the future path in subsequent incarnations. As a result, a person cannot meet a couple and remains alone for knowledge and introspection until full awareness of what is happening is achieved.

How to deal with karmic loneliness?

In order to correct the karma of loneliness and start living harmoniously, it is very important to analyze your actions, deeds and situations that you regularly encounter. We need to pay attention to the lessons that real life, and then there is a real chance to correct some karmic mistakes due to transformation and strong-willed efforts, which in the end can lead to building successful relationships. Working with a qualified expert in the field of esotericism can speed up the analysis process.

Remember: after going through a difficult experience, we come into this world alone, and all that accompanies us is fellow travelers on our life path, who can give us the opportunity to correct our destiny and live in harmony. So be aware of everything that happens. And pay special attention to repetitive or similar situations - it is in them that the key to solving karmic problems lies. There are special plectrums that help to clear and balance the energy, reduce and contribute to faster processing of the received tasks and programs. Such talismans-plectors help to get rid of loneliness as soon as possible and not only.

LONELINESS

People often become lonely if someone betrayed them in their youth. If the first love ended in the betrayal of one of the parties, then the victim then suffers for a long time because of this and worries. And again, a dangerous program is laid in the subconscious - no one can be trusted. This program constantly releases negative energy around itself. And those around you intuitively feel it. As a result, a person refuses, as if in a cloud negative energy, and other people, feeling this program, try to bypass it.

Eternally dissatisfied, offended by the whole world, a person can eventually become lonely. Other people because of the blackness do not see all its virtues, it becomes, as it were, invisible to others.
This explains why beautiful, smart girls do not attract the attention of men. Men are simply confused by the energy of these girls. On the contrary, if the girl’s energy is all right, she is cheerful and open man, then waves of charm and goodness go from it in all directions. This girl will never be alone.

Some become lonely after losing a loved one. They are very accustomed to him, accustomed to his energy, and it is already difficult for them to get used to a different energy, to a person with a different character, other habits.

People become lonely even through the fault of their own mother. If in childhood a child wanted to open up to his mother, and she rudely pushed him away, then after such stress, most people close themselves in themselves for a long time. It is difficult for such people to start a family later, because they suspect everyone of something bad and do not fully trust anyone.

Often lonely people lead very passive lives. Usually they are always dissatisfied with everything and easily find a thousand excuses for themselves, but they are always ready to blame others for all their grievances. It is very difficult for them to agree that no one is to blame for their loneliness, they themselves made such a choice. These people cannot love another person. Since childhood, they have become accustomed to and expect that someone from the outside will come up to them and solve all their problems, someone else will arrange their personal life for them.
The lover of loneliness is amazed at how people who constantly spend time in a noisy company manage not to go crazy. In turn, a sociable person is surprised at how the recluse manages to maintain his sanity.
A lover of loneliness may, due to circumstances, find himself in the midst of a human mass for a long time, but if he manages to concentrate, he will quickly adapt, and nothing terrible will happen. Most likely, the company will not accept him, but if he is a Human, then he will be reckoned with.
Otherwise, things develop for those who are afraid of people and flee from them by fleeing into loneliness. Forcibly imposed communication with people increases fears and hidden anger in him, which provokes aggressiveness in others. A person becomes a target for vicious attacks and as a result falls ill.

Causes of loneliness from past lives

"The most cruel loneliness is the loneliness of the heart"

What people meet on their way is predetermined by their expectations, their inner self-perception. Negative attitude towards yourself causes derogatory attitude towards you from others.
Disappointment and resentment as a subconscious memory of bad experience in the past incarnation can also lead to loneliness. The frozen Aura of a person will become a shell that reflects all the radiations of love coming from outside. Consciously he will strive for love, and subconsciously he will avoid love relationship. Only after the Soul realizes that it has become a hostage of its own fears, and as accurately as possible determines what frightens it, it will regain the ability to love and accept love without fear.
Perhaps you were too dependent ("Walking the path spiritual development means just to be yourself") or are unnecessarily demanding of others in past lives. In a past life you could take a vow of celibacy (see Crown of Celibacy), it may remain in this life, the "Aura of Untouchability" will remain around you. Negative charge, negativism, contempt for the voice of the flesh on a subconscious level will be perceived by the partner, and this will repel him from you.

One man after the death of his wife began to complain of tinnitus. For him, this was an unconscious excuse to stop communicating with people. Imperceptibly, little by little, a nagging feeling of loneliness began to roll over. When, as a result of the healing effect, he returned to the past, to the situation in which he could get rid of hearing problems, it suddenly became clear that it turned out to be an unbearable burden for him to find a topic and start a conversation. This task filled him with sacred horror. When the wife was alive, it was she who took the “reins of power” into her own hands and maintained contacts with others, and her husband was satisfied with the passive role of being present during the conversation ... As a result of the regression, many lives were discovered when he was cut off from the team and eliminated himself make decisions, make choices, because "he was calmer that way." What was this man guilty of? He himself voluntarily doomed himself to being disconnected from the process of communication and to loneliness, which calmed him, protecting him from new disturbing impressions. In the current life, the karmic meaning of his meeting with his future wife was that she would help him open up to the world, overcome the painful stuck in the role of a passive contemplator. Indeed, thanks to his wife, the joys of communication were revealed to him, although he himself rarely joined in a general conversation, fearing that he would be considered uninteresting. The death of his wife "shaken" him, a decisive moment came: he had to choose - either allow "everything to return to normal", that is, come to the usual isolation from people, or move forward. Realizing that he was being sucked into the maelstrom of inertia, he dared to make an attempt. Resuming his acquaintances, he was surprised to find that people remember him, that they miss him. And that gave him confidence.

Loneliness

Loneliness is killing me
Though friends are laughing around
It's like everyone here forgets about me,
I would like to sleep and wake up

In a world where friends would really need me
Where do they really need my companionship,
And now it's like I'm stomping in puddles
In a world where there is no sun and fun,

Where love is just a fairy tale
Friendship is only when they need something
Sometimes I get really scared
Very sad... cold... and empty...

Whoever intends to live a happy life in solitude must find inner balance. Otherwise, he will fail. Balance is acquired through the ability to understand the opposite sex. Begin to comprehend it through the comprehension of the feminine and male energy in your own soul. See Connecting with Masculine and Feminine Energies.

female loneliness

Your Soul chooses loneliness so that you can change yourself in better side. In other words, a woman is given time to reveal some of her feminine qualities. This explains the loneliness of many wonderful women - a higher bar has been set before them, and some of them do not want to overcome it.
The first thing you need to find when you are alone is a sense of self-sufficiency! Need to feel the state inner freedom which can reveal the amazing qualities of a woman. In this state, a woman can do EVERYTHING! But it is not easy to come to this state, there are a lot of different complexes inside and conventions outside.
The attitude of women to compulsory marriage is already a lack of freedom. Optimal state: "I want to reveal myself as much as possible, all my deepest qualities." The realization of this task will lead a woman through life in the way that this Soul needs. Realizing this, remove the doubt that you cannot create a couple, and make the most of your time alone to reveal yourself. This applies to both appearance and soul. Look with love at your body and find the opportunity to become healthier, younger and more attractive. There are always reserves here! Take care of your posture, gait, plasticity ... Special attention to clothes: from linen to a headdress. Learn to live by bringing beauty into the world. Treat loneliness as milestone given to you to reveal yourself, your femininity. And make good use of this time. Be sure that your desire for development and constant movement will definitely bear fruit! Remove the super desire to create a family - it greatly interferes with the creation of a couple. Tune in to revealing your qualities, and the more fully you sound, the faster and “higher quality” you will receive a gift!

Excessive requirements

"He who seeks a friend without flaw is doomed to remain lonely"

One of the reasons for failures in personal life may be excessive requirements for a potential chosen one in the present.

Karma, on the other hand, prescribes to develop the missing qualities in oneself, and not to look for someone who could fill in those qualities that he lacks. If a person lacks love, then he himself should set an example of love at every opportunity. The soul must give, radiate love, using the slightest opportunity for this.
A person is not concerned about giving happiness to another, but about his own happiness - this is an inappropriate basis for a serious relationship.

Don't expect perfection, and don't ask or demand it. Love ordinary people. There is nothing wrong with ordinary people. Ordinary people- are unusual. Every person is so unique. Respect this uniqueness.

Fear of being alone

Self-knowledge is possible only in deep solitude

Being alone, a person must find in himself the source of gaining the strength of life.

Learn to appreciate the precious opportunity to be alone with yourself. Your Consciousness is given the opportunity to look deeper into yourself.

Usually everything we know about ourselves is only the opinion of others. They say "You're good" and we think we're good. They say "You're beautiful" and we think we're beautiful. They say, "You're bad" or ugly... no matter what people say about us, we keep accumulating it. It becomes our self-identification. It is completely false, because no one else can know you - no one can know who you are except you, yourself. All they know about you is only certain aspects, and this knowledge is very superficial. They cannot penetrate your center. Even a loved one cannot penetrate the very core of your being. There you are completely alone, and only there you will come to yourself, such as you really are.

People live their whole lives believing in what others say, depending on others. That is why people are so afraid of the opinions of others. If they think you're bad, you become bad. If they judge you, you start to judge yourself. If they say you're a sinner, you start feeling guilty. Due to the fact that you have to depend on their opinions, you constantly have to adapt to their ideas; otherwise they will change their minds. It creates a bondage, a very subtle bondage. If you want to be known as good, worthy, beautiful, intelligent, then you have to give in, constantly compromise with the people you depend on.

When you depend on others, you are afraid to go into loneliness - because the moment you start moving into loneliness, you start to be afraid of losing yourself, which you have created from the opinions of others. When you move towards self-knowledge, before this happens, you must discard all ideas about "you" imposed by others. There will be a gap, and there will be a kind of emptiness. You will be completely lost, because everything you know no longer matters, and what matters you don't know yet. Christian mystics call this "the dark night of the soul." It must be passed, and as soon as you have passed it, dawn comes. The sun rises, and man recognizes himself for the first time. The first ray of the sun, and it is fulfilled. The first songs of the birds in the morning, and he reached.

By saying "lonely", you show the desire of the other; you don't get another. The word "lonely" indicates that you are not happy with yourself, that loneliness hurts you, that this loneliness bothers you, that you would like to get out of a state of loneliness. You condemned loneliness.
"Solitude" means there is no other. You are missing the other, your eyes are fixed on that lack, absence.

"One"means the presence of yourself, you are so full of yourself, you are completely in yourself, the other is not needed. "One" is enough of itself. Loneliness - when something is missing; loneliness is a gap: where there was another, or where you would like it to be. Loneliness is a wound. "Alone" is a flowering. You are so happy to be with yourself; you have everything. Complete independence, stability, contentment.
"I" always feels lonely. That's why "I" is always looking for a society, a club, a movie, this and that. "I" is always looking for another, because without the other it simply does not exist. Another is absolutely necessary.

"I" will disappear and you can no longer be alone. You exist in God, you exist in the Cosmos, you exist in existence itself. The sun, the stars, the moon are moving in you. Trees, clouds - in you. Rivers and oceans flow in you. You have become whole. There is no loneliness in the whole.

Loneliness is always dependent. This is slavery, a wound, a thorn in the heart. "One" is flowering, fulfillment, reaching the goal, returning home. Loneliness is a kind of disease. "One" is health. "One" is wholeness. Loneliness is something from the world of illness, tension, suffering, unhappiness.

Isolation and separation cause feelings of loneliness and helplessness, a feeling of being small and weak in a vast hostile world. A person who is one with everything is happy and healthy. Diseases do not need to come to reason with him. The only thing he needs is to remain himself, to remain a person.

Who has learned to communicate with himself, listen to himself, is never alone. He always stays with his closest friend - himself..

The constant presence of people increases the fear of being alone. The child needs to sleep in his own bed, fall asleep at the right time without strangers and wake up on his own. Lulling a child in your arms is possible only in exceptional cases. A calm story for the coming dream, in which the dream seems to be a friend to the child, is in tune with the child's soul from the very first days of life, if the mother read fairy tales during pregnancy. Especially if she read them both to herself and to her unborn child. When a child is put to bed, and he begins to yell at the top of his lungs, chasing away the remnants of sleep, this indicates that the baby is afraid to be alone.

Parental fear of loneliness is transmitted to the child. The baby, who constantly clings to the mother's hem, already requires society. The mother is afraid that the child is afraid, and a vicious circle of fears arises. The mother is afraid that the child is afraid, and the child is afraid that the mother is afraid.

Children need peace, while parents, fearing loneliness, want to be in the company. They are supported by modern public opinion, which approves of parents who carry babies around with them everywhere - up to traveling around the world. Their correctness is confirmed by the fact that the child likes it, because in such cases he behaves calmly. But they do not understand that the child is calm when the soul of the parents is at peace. They do not know that a person without peace of mind cannot be himself.
Communication with oneself develops a person, i.e. personality, communication with others develops the body, i.e. face.
A healthy child does not take time - he gives time. He knows how to be alone and knows how to be himself. The day will come when a child who has developed enough in his own communication will give a sign that he now needs company.

A MAN copes with his own life.
EXAMPLE man manages his life ALONE.

An adult is someone who does not need parents. An adult is one who is happy in his loneliness - his loneliness is a song, a celebration. An adult is someone who can be happy with himself. He is completely free from the seal of his parents. Only such a person feels gratitude towards his parents. Only such a person can forgive his parents. He feels compassion and love for them, he feels them very strongly because they also suffered in the same way. He does not get angry, and will do everything to help his parents move towards the same fullness of loneliness, the same height of loneliness.

Release of fears

Imagine that you have a prison cell in your soul. This is the Chamber of Fear. There is a prisoner in the cell. His name is Trouble. Imagine that you throw open the door of the room wide open and say to the prisoner:

"You are free. Forgive me for not giving (a) you freedom until now. Forgive me for raising (a) you the way you are. From now on you are free!"
Look, the prisoner is getting up, heading for the door - the call of freedom is irresistible. Look how he steps over the threshold, how his whole appearance changes when he is free. He straightens his back, holds his head high, straightens his chest, breathes easily, his eyes glow. A man walks along the road, who feels that the earth gives him warmth. It is to him. Flowers bloom, birds sing - and this is also for him. The feeling of loneliness disappears.
Forgive yourself for not being able to release your problem sooner. Forgive so that you can feel that your soul has become easier and clearer in your head. You will see that not only your well-being has changed, but also your relationships with people. Forgiving yourself is the most important element of the forgiveness process. Who has forgiven himself, he is able to forgive others. Otherwise, forgiveness turns into empty ranting in the mouth of a good person.

Release every day your fear of not being loved, as well as the fear of being alone. And you will be surprised to find that loneliness is by no means scary. The oppressive feeling of loneliness will imperceptibly be replaced by a feeling of unity with people.

Become an individual.
Look at loneliness as a gift of fate. Embrace your loneliness. Once you love your loneliness, it will be attacked from all sides. And it will leave you.
Give unconditionally and you will know what love is.

O! who crossed the path of disaster and ruin,
He knows why the soul and thought in us
Dragged into the quiet forests of solitude,
Why does the midnight, silent hour love.
So, I'm not alone here; everything that the heart breathes is here,
Hopes of youth, heart dreams,
He sees everything in the image, everything here hears the voice,
And catches cute air features!
Solitude for the heart is not a desert:
It will fill the wild forest with dreams;
And in the wilds the fantasy-goddess brings him together
Secret dates and secret conversation.
The desert is not the limit for winged thought:
Here I, invisible, see everything above the ground;
Aerial life of the whole intimate participant,
I share being, I do not live by myself.
My soul merges with endless azure,
With golden stars, the poetry of heaven!
I'm talking to you, eternal artist of the world!
And with a book of wondrous divine miracles!
Gnedich Nikolay Ivanovich

Faith in presence Higher Worlds and the presence in them of highly developed Personalities, many times superior in all respects to a person, opens before him the prospects of endless progression and striving to new heights of development in more Perfect Worlds.

Faith does not allow a person to feel lonely and useless, because it reveals true knowledge about the construction of the universe, the Hierarchies of God, where every creature is valuable to God, as it is a part of Him.
The close interconnection of all Beings among themselves and interdependence do not allow one to feel lonely and unnecessary.

We are all a loving family, we are all luminous beings who came out of one common Divine home. We all love each other deep down. The ego of each of us plays games of enmity and hatred, forgetting about love - but love has not disappeared anywhere, it cannot disappear.
We all love each other and the bond between us never ends. Even when we are alone, we can feel like part of a loving family. We are all brothers and sisters, and no illusions of enmity can destroy what binds us forever - light Divine love who is always with us.

Affirmation that helps to find unity with all people

I am a Divine Spirit experiencing life in a human body. I am a particle of the whole - a single Divine family. I am never alone, for I am incarnated on Earth as part of a Divine family called humanity and in a group of souls closely related to me.
I feel a spiritual connection with souls close to me and like-minded people, regardless of whether we know each other or not, whether we meet or not. No one and nothing can break this connection, no one and nothing can deprive me of the support of my Divine family.
I constantly feel the love and support of other people, near and far. This invisible spiritual thread binds us and does not allow us to feel alone. I know that I am not alone, even when I am alone. I call on my like-minded and closely related souls to manifest in my material reality - for the sake of co-creation, cooperation, for the love and light of God, which will fill our lives thanks to this meeting.
Everything I do, I do for my highest good and the highest good of all mankind. I am part of a harmoniously sounding orchestra, where my melody flows into the overall great sound. We humans are a beautiful, majestic Divine family, where everyone is unique, and everyone rightfully takes his unique place. I am part of the whole, the beautiful, majestic Whole, and I am happy to be the unique Divine note of the magnificent Divine orchestra. I fulfill my destiny, I work for the sake of the earthly Paradise together with other people, and I am happy to be who I am.