Have you always celebrated birthdays in a cheerful company of relatives and friends, but will you have to “miss” the 40th anniversary? This is what many anniversaries do who have stepped over their fourth decade, guided by our common signs. Where do these frightening prejudices “grow legs” from, because so many do not celebrate their 40s and do not advise others?
The editors of the site have collected 7 reasons that explain the ban, and you just have to draw conclusions - believe or not believe.
BIBLICAL INTEREST
In our country, it is customary to look for the truth of the ban on celebrating the 40th anniversary in the "negative" biblical chronology associated with the number 40:
For 40 days Jesus was in the wilderness, where he was subjected to the temptations of the devil;
The Flood lasted 40 days;
. 40 days the human soul is on earth after death;
. For 40 years the Jewish people wandered in the wilderness.
By the way, 40 days after the birth of a child, a young mother is considered “unclean” and has no right to go to church.
GUARDIAN ANGEL "RETIRED"
According to one of the beliefs, which is very popular, it is on the 40th anniversary of a person that his guardian angel retreats, leaving him without higher protection.
TAROT CARDS WARNING
Some people who believe in esotericists find confirmation of why it is impossible to celebrate the 40th anniversary in numerology and tarot cards. In Eastern magic, 40 is the number of death. More precisely, not 40, but 4.
However, according to the laws of numerology, this is the same thing: 4 + 0 = 4. In the Tarot, the main Arcana "Death" has the letter designation "M", and the letter "Mem" of the Hebrew alphabet just corresponds to the number 40.
NEGATIVE IN ASIAN
Residents of East and Central Asia consider the "four" a number that brings evil, misfortune and death. Therefore, this number is absent in the designation of floors, apartments, hospital wards, television channels and the names of equipment.
COMBINATION OF SOR AND ROCK
Those who do not believe in the magic of numbers see the negative in the fact that the literal equivalent of the number "40" consists of two words "sor" and "rock". This combination can be understood as rubbish (impurity and fate) - fate, inevitability, outcome.
ON A PLANETARY SCALE
A number of astrologers consider the 40-year milestone a crisis, since from 39 to 43 people are under the heavy “patronage” of the planet Uranus, which at this stage becomes in opposition to itself on the natal chart (astrological birth chart of a person).
This position of Uranus leads to sudden and major changes in life - from a change of residence, work, to a serious reassessment of values, bankruptcy, crises and illnesses. During this period, Pluto also works on the “hand” of Uranus, introducing throwing, panic and confusion of life guidelines into the crisis.
MEMORY OF THE ANCESTORS
The ban on celebrating the 40th anniversary may also be due to the fact that the life expectancy of our ancestors was very short. Those who lived to the age of 40 were already considered a deep old man: teeth and hair fell out, “kilometers” of wrinkles covered the face, the body was “occupied” by diseases that the exhausted 40-year-old body could hardly cope with.
BELIEVE OR NOT?It's up to you. According to the Christian faith, any superstitions and signs are a whim, and believing in them is a sin. And if you analyze all the frightening events associated with the number 40, it turns out that after the test, a new, better life always comes ...
AND FURTHER: There are several ideas for celebrating the 40th anniversary if you believe in omens and are afraid to celebrate this ambiguous date:
. celebrate not the onset of 40, but farewell to the 39th anniversary;
. celebrate 40 years and 1 day;
. arrange a 40th birthday disguised as ... New Year
40 years is great! 9 myths about age that have nothing to do with reality
This year, a huge number of our idols of youth are turning or have already turned 40 years old. Charlize Theron, Drew Barrymore, Reese Witherspoon, Benedict Cumberbatch, Colin Farrell, even cutie Toby McGuire have crossed this line and, it should be noted, they feel very good. So, is there life after 40?
Do not be afraid to become a middle-aged person - it is better to throw a party with mojitos and dancing! Stop clinging to stupid numbers! Here are 10 big fat misconceptions about age that have nothing to do with reality at all. Proven.
We must forget about youth clothing brands
Complete bullshit! I wear what I like and feel comfortable in, from H&M and Zara to camouflage pants. I refuse to follow the fashion marketing and advertising standards imposed on me. In truth, we come to this age with such diverse tastes in clothes that it is very difficult to drive them into any kind of framework. Someone even at 20 likes soft and loose suits, while someone at 40 continues to wear miniskirts and stilettos.
No more dancing!
It must be said that people much younger than 40 are susceptible to this myth. Dancing has always been a form of physical exercise - and this is not about Zumba classes or hustle lessons, but about real dancing, when you rock on the dance floor in a club all night long. Last year my friend asked me to dance and after a desperate battle with inner demons (which, by the way, shouted “everyone will laugh at you!”, “your tits are not good enough, look at those 20-year-old girls!”) I took and agreed. Now I go dancing every month.
By the way, the inner demons were terribly wrong. Nobody laughed. Boobs adequately withstood the test. And I felt like who I really am - a lively and sexy woman. And, most importantly, these nightly dances make me feel freedom and independence - something that I have lost while sitting at home with the children.
Only healthy lifestyle, only hardcore!
Bah, I say. BA! There are different types of bodies. I do not undertake to speak for everyone, but for myself, I found out that a more or less normal diet and moderate exercise is what you need.
We live in a city where everyone is obsessed with fitness and healthy lifestyle. Almost everyone you know has just run a marathon or is just running or doing yoga or whatever. But not me! Not because I don’t believe in the benefits of sports, but because, firstly, I’m terribly lazy, and secondly, I decided not to do anything that makes my soul not sing (another advantage of forty). Of course, I can pump up biceps or ass, but I don’t want to. I like my body so much.
There is no sex!
Or rather, it is, but only if you are a MILF (Mother I'd Like to Fuck) or shoot young boys for money. These two things are mutually exclusive and honestly I hate them because they are desperation. Of course, there are deliberately sexy "mommies" looking for adventure, and elderly ladies who are willing to pay young men. But do not talk about them derogatoryly. After all, older men date younger girls all the time and no one judges them.
The peak of your sexuality is in the past
Nothing like this! If it is believed that the peak of sexuality overtakes a woman at 35, then I did not notice it, because I was up to my ears in taking care of children and dirty dishes. Now that the children are grown, I can once again pay attention to the true needs of my body. Now I have enough time and self-confidence to flirt and go on dates with my own husband. And to be honest, the last few months have awakened the most lustful goddess in me and brought about sexual experiences that I could not have imagined before.
The only joy in life is watching children grow up and become good people.
Because if you don't enjoy it, you're a bad parent. And if children suddenly do not become good people - even worse.
I love my children. Watching them grow up is the most important part of my life. But this is not enough. I have to have my own life, with my own ups and downs, discoveries and defeats - this will be better for everyone, and for my children in the first place. What do they see if their parents only do what they drag them from circle to circle? That being a parent is a sacrifice? That only their oversaturated lives matter? That your own life ends when you become a parent? Yes, fuck it all! I have things to do besides children. And that's good for all of us.
As for good people… Well, I think I did my best. However, do not forget that my upbringing is not everything. There are also social and environmental factors and, God forgive me, genetics. I cannot answer for them.
All the best things in life have already happened.
This delusion is the hardest to deal with. When you're young, you seem to be charged with electricity. Meeting new people, adventures and love - all this seems to be ending for many, or at least significantly reduced. But it all depends on you. For example, I have done quite a lot to expand these boundaries imposed on me: I travel a lot, meet new people.
You are no longer interesting to those under 40
Complete bullshit! At 40, you are already wise and confident enough, but not yet too old to attract those who are younger than you. I have many friends who are in their 30s and now their lives are endless diaper changes and nightly feedings. They say that I give them hope and a light at the end of the tunnel, because they see that a person at 40 can have a really cool life!
Its end
Harriet Beecher Stowe published Uncle Tom's Cabin at age 40, Benjamin Franklin helped draft the Declaration of Independence at age 70, and Caitlin Jenner became a woman at 65. There is life after 40. I promise! So if you're over 30, stop pretending to be a hose! Take a mojito and feel free to join our ranks! There is just room for you on the dance floor.
Illustrations.
Many people do not celebrate 40 years and do not advise others to do so. Is this superstition, or does the prohibition have a scientific, religious, or some other basis?
Mysticism and numerology
More than 20 centuries ago, the ancient Pythagoreans deeply revered the number "4", considered it a sacred reflection of completeness, integrity, corporeality and static (the opposite of dynamism and cyclicity). The number "forty" is a quadruple supplemented by zero (a circle describing Tetractys) - a symbol of divine emptiness and completeness.
Based on this theory, many superstitious people associate the completion of the number 40 with the end of life and believe that 40 years should not be celebrated, because this can bring death closer.
Superstitious inhabitants of East and Central Asia consider the number "4" fatal, bringing misfortune and death. Therefore, in these countries, the four and the numbers that include it (14, 24, and so on) are trying to skip something when numbering.
In the ancient divination cards "Tarot" with the number "40" a similar situation can be traced - the death card itself, according to the interpretation, means the grave, death, damage, destruction and is associated with black. The death card in the Tarot corresponds to the Latin letter "M", the twelfth hexagram of the Chinese book of changes, meaning "decline", the ancient Slavic letter "Thought", which is associated with the transition to a new stage of life and death (end) of the old stage.
But besides all this, the letter from the Tarot card in the Hebrew alphabet is read as "Mem" and has a numerical value of 40, and in combination with the last letter of the alphabet "Tav" forms the word "Met", which again means "death" in translation.
Often, in confirmation of these mystical superstitions, African tribes are cited as an example, in which it is still not customary to celebrate forty years for the same reasons, but, despite this, the average life expectancy in these tribes is just 40 years. The reason for this is not the celebration of a birthday, but poor hygiene, ecology and living conditions of the inhabitants of the tribes.
Religious superstitions
In the Christian religion, the number "40" is also associated by many with death and misfortune. It is believed that it was 40 days that the great flood lasted, for forty days Moses led the Jews through the desert and forty days after his baptism Jesus Christ was in the desert, and the desert itself is also a symbol of death. In addition, in the Middle Ages in Kievan Rus, it was on the 40th day that the incorruptibility and holiness of relics were determined.
Some people say that you shouldn't celebrate 40 years because of the association with the fortieth day after death, which is usually a wake. It is believed that after 40 days of wandering the earth, the soul of the deceased appears before the court, after which he goes to heaven or hell.
Therefore, many believe that by the age of 40 there comes a turning point in a person’s life, self-consciousness changes and, according to some statements, even his guardian angel leaves a person by this age. And, in order not to incur premature death and suffering, you should rethink your actions and give up magnificent festivities, including those about your upcoming anniversary.
There is also a version, rooted in paganism, that by the age of 40 a person's biorhythms change and at this age he can easily be jinxed or damaged. Therefore, it is recommended to celebrate the fortieth birthday in a quiet family or friendly circle, among people who obviously cannot wish harm to the birthday man.
A similar pagan superstition holds that recommendations for a modest celebration of the fortieth anniversary apply only to men, because the pagans considered a woman to be a creature without a soul. According to another version of the same superstition in women, the period of change in biorhythms begins at the age of 53, and it is recommended that this particular birthday be celebrated modestly.
Astrological arguments
Some astrologers consider the forty-year life milestone a crisis and argue that in the period from 39 to 43 years a person is most susceptible to the influence of the planet Uranus, which becomes in opposition to its position on the natal chart (Uranus opposes Uranus), this position brings with it sudden changes and cardinal changes. changes in a person's life. During this period, there is a reassessment of values, awareness of one's own place in life, at work and in the family.
The negative influence of Uranus can manifest itself in a sharp deterioration in financial well-being, bankruptcy, accidents, disasters, family crises, nervous breakdowns, sudden illnesses, paralysis and a person's tendency to commit suicide.
Astrologers say that a person aged 39-40 years has a strong negative influence from Pluto, which can manifest itself in the same way as the influence of Uranus, in bankruptcy and a sharp sudden deterioration in health. In addition, there is an opinion that the beginning of the fortieth anniversary corresponds to the square of Neptune to Neptune, which indicates a change in life orientations and erratic throwing.
There is also a version of an unknown astrologer who compiled the horoscope of Jesus, according to which it turns out that they crucified Christ at the age of 40. Therefore, astrologers recommend celebrating the fortieth anniversary calmly and quietly so that the midlife crisis passes just as quietly and safely.
It is difficult to meet a person who would not be puzzled by the question: why not celebrate 40 years? Another superstition, taken from ancient paganism, forbids a person to have fun on his own birthday. This law applies equally to men and women. Is it worth it to listen? What will be the consequences if you bypass signs and celebrate your anniversary on a large scale?
Not allowed for women
It is not desirable for women to celebrate their fourth anniversary. During the life of Pythagoras, the whole world began to manage mainly numbers alone. The most unpleasant events were associated with the number 40. Here are a few of them that are known today:
- It is 40 days, according to ancient tradition, that lasts bad rock. That is, when a person dies, his soul during this time is still near his home. It is believed that at this time she can pull two more souls, for example, a relative, acquaintance or neighbor;
- The Flood also lasted 40 days, during which time a huge number of people died;
- In ancient Greece, they were always wary of the number 40; after reaching this age, a person approached his own death, since only a few survived until the next anniversary.
If you pay attention to all the events, you can understand that this figure brings trouble, so it's better to wait for your next birthday and fully celebrate it.
Why can't women celebrate 40 years?
By the age limit, the woman's biorhythm changes and the time of menopause gradually creeps up. The first wrinkles and gray hair may also appear. The woman's well-being also changes, she has frequent stress, irritability and aggressiveness. She may feel as if she has a fever and is sweating. All these phenomena are characteristic of menopause, which just begins after 40 years.
It is almost impossible to avoid such phenomena, and if we celebrate this ill-fated anniversary, then we can significantly worsen your body, the vital energy of a woman will gradually begin to fade.
Of course, you can ignore the signs and celebrate your birthday, but why play Russian roulette when it comes to your own life and health?
Why can't men celebrate 40 years?
If a woman celebrates her fourth round anniversary, then she may have some health problems, a series of failures will fall upon her and she will begin to feel exhausted.
With men, things are much worse and such a holiday can end in death. The fear appeared after the famous story about an astronaut who went into space after celebrating his birthday. Immediately after the launch, there were problems with the ship, because of which it crashed.
There are several other real-life stories that tell of men dying mysteriously if they don't take this omen seriously and celebrate their birthday.
If you pay attention to Eastern culture, then according to tarot cards, the number 40 and the letter "m" also means death.
There is another opinion that the celebrated fortieth anniversary will be the last anniversary in the life of a man. That is, in a few years he can become seriously ill, because of which he will not live to be 50 years old. Such an ancient superstition has no scientific basis, but many coincidences indicate that it really works. A man who has celebrated 40 years old says goodbye to his guardian angel and begins the game with his own death.
Why can not show a newborn up to 40 days?
There is another, less common, psychological point of view. A little baby grows and develops inside its mother for almost a year. Having been born, for him everything around is new and unusual.
During this period, it is necessary to provide him with a calm environment so that he can adapt. If he constantly sees a large number of people new to him, then he will experience stress.
How to celebrate a person 40 years old if he is superstitious?
If a superstitious person wants to celebrate his birthday exactly in the year when he turned 40, then he can do this, but only according to strict rules. rules:
- Anniversaries shouldn't be celebrated on a grand scale.. This holiday is not celebrated in a cafe, restaurant or in nature. It is recommended to set a small table at home and invite only the closest relatives. Gifts are not allowed on this day. If, nevertheless, relatives want to do this, then they need not just be taken, but bought for a few coins;
- For the coming 40 years, it is strictly forbidden to speak toasts. One can only congratulate the birthday boy on the fact that he will soon be 41 and yesterday was 39;
- If, nevertheless, a person wants to celebrate his birthday with friends, then you need to move it a few days ahead and slightly change the reason for gathering guests, for example, by arranging a theme party.
- When a person turns 40, he has passed a certain milestone in his life, gained certain experience and faced life's difficulties.
On this day, he cannot complain about fate, he must thank the Lord for every day he lives, for those people who surround him and for what he has. Only then will the birthday man be able to avoid all the unpleasant consequences of this number.
Positive signs associated with the number 40
Considering the question of why it is impossible to celebrate 40 years, it is also necessary to remember that this meaning also has a positive meaning.
According to European tradition, a person must suffer for 40 days, and after that happiness will come to him.
It is taken from an ancient parable in which a man walked through the desert during this time, and then he managed to find a way out and be saved.
There is another sign taken from ancient Greece, which indicates that At 40, a person is just beginning a happy and carefree life.. Most often, before this time, people raise children, work hard to succeed in their careers, earn their own housing, furniture, transport and other necessary things.
Only after 40 years can a person take a break from his usual routine and begin to fully enjoy every moment he lives.
Video: celebrate or not the fortieth anniversary?
In this video, psychologist Irina Voitenko will tell you why you can’t celebrate your fortieth birthday, what these numbers are fraught with, and what can happen:
Birthday is one of the brightest holidays of the year. And, of course, it is customary to celebrate round dates with a stormy celebration. But many people are interested in the question of whether it is possible for a woman to celebrate her 40th birthday. After all, there are a lot of beliefs and prejudices that prohibit celebrating this date.
Can a woman celebrate her 40th birthday?
In fact, the 40th anniversary is surrounded by a real mystery. It is generally accepted that in no case should this day be celebrated. Esotericists and simply superstitious people provide dozens of very different explanations that one way or another prohibit arranging a celebration on this day. Some people firmly believe that if you openly celebrate the fortieth birthday, then this can lead to terrible misfortune in the life of the hero of the day.
So is it possible for a woman to celebrate her 40th birthday? Is there any evidence of the most terrible troubles that happen if you break this unspoken rule? The answers to these questions will be of interest to many.
40th anniversary and culture of ancient peoples
In fact, far from all peoples, the number 40 was considered a bad sign. For example, the Slavs used the 40-decimal. In addition, "forty" was a quantitative measure.
If you dig even deeper and remember such ancient civilizations as Greece and Rome, you can find out that people celebrated the 40th anniversary in the circle of close friends. 40 years was considered the moment of the dawn of strength and intelligence, but at the same time the beginning of old age and the end. The fact is that in those distant times of constant wars, a few lucky people managed to live more than fifty years. Some peoples believed that there was no need to draw attention to old age.
Naturally, now all these arguments are not so significant. Thanks to the development of human medicine has increased significantly.
40 years in terms of religion
Many people in the question of whether it is possible to celebrate the 40th anniversary of a woman refer to religion. After all, it is no secret to anyone that the number 40 is very important for Christian history and traditions. For example, it is generally accepted that it is for forty days after death that he wanders the earth. And the Jewish people wandered in the desert for forty years, Jesus Christ was in the desert. So many days lasted
A woman after childbirth is forbidden to visit the temple for forty days - only after this period she can be considered clean.
Yes, this number is important in religion. But all these facts do not at all explain the ban on celebrating a birthday.
Reverse side of the medal
It is worth considering the other side of the issue. So, all the above events, one way or another, ended well (even the flood is considered a symbol of cleansing from sin and the creation of a new, more perfect world).
In addition, Christianity categorically forbids all kinds of popular superstitions. If you ask a priest about whether women celebrate their 40s, he will most likely be surprised. Despite numerous references to Holy Scripture, the Bible does not forbid celebrating this anniversary. Moreover, belief in such signs is strictly condemned.
By the way, if you are interested in the question of whether women celebrate 40 years, then you should find out about one more fact. Initially, it was forbidden to celebrate this anniversary for men - for the representatives of the stronger sex, it was considered a turning point. But this rule did not apply to women at all.
Why can't you celebrate your 40th birthday? Esoteric point of view
Some modern magicians, sorcerers and fortune-tellers refer to numerology. But this figure does not carry a negative meaning. For example, the number 4 symbolizes creation. 40 years in numerology means a certain transformation of the mind, a change in perception and worldview. Yes, forty years is important, but there is no information that it cannot be celebrated.
Some esotericists associate belief with the mystical properties of TARO cards, where the number 40 corresponds to the senior lasso "Death". The map is designated by the letter "M", which corresponds to the number 4.
40th anniversary and traditions of other nations
Of course, you can ask about the traditions and culture of other peoples. For example, the inhabitants of Germany are unlikely to have heard of such a belief. But in Japan, the number 40 is equal to 4 + 0) is considered a sign of death. Some especially superstitious Easterners do not celebrate not only the fortieth birthday, but also any birthday in which there is a four. Others refuse to live on the fourth floor or house number four. Therefore, if you ask if the women of the East celebrate 40 years, then we can safely say that everything here depends on traditions and upbringing.
There are people who refer to Muslim traditions - they definitely do not celebrate the 40th anniversary ... As well as all other birthdays. There is no such concept in their religion and culture. Even the Prophet Muhammad himself did not mark such dates. To dedicate a celebration to oneself means to exalt oneself above Allah. On the other hand, many Muslim families celebrate birthdays with a large circle of relatives, but without music and alcohol, of course.
What happens if you celebrate a birthday?
Of course, a lot of people don't celebrate their 40s. Why can't a woman celebrate such an important date? Turning 40 is considered to be a turning point. Fun at this time can attract the attention of higher powers and, accordingly, cause their discontent.
Some fortune-tellers, esotericists and superstitious people threaten with terrible illnesses, misfortunes and unimaginable sufferings to those representatives of the fair sex who nevertheless decided on a holiday. And even if nothing happens to the birthday girl herself, it is only because her grief has passed to a close friend.
Is there evidence for such prejudices? Of course, you can find people who, after their fortieth birthday, faced problems and misfortunes. But there are no less of those who cheerfully celebrated such a significant day and remained alive and well together with all their loved ones.
40 years old: features of age physiology and psychology
Since we have examined ancient traditions and beliefs, it would be nice to ask the opinion of researchers. What do psychologists say about the date a woman has this holiday? Do researchers agree with this point of view?
It’s worth saying right away that the fortieth anniversary is an important milestone from the point of view of both physiology and psychology. After 40 years, the state of health often begins to deteriorate, as well as well-being. The woman's body is undergoing changes and is preparing for a new stage - menopause (although it can come much later), which makes it impossible to give birth to children. In addition, various chronic diseases often begin to appear. A noticeable gray hair appears, the skin is no longer so elastic, covered with fine wrinkles - faith in one's own attractiveness begins to melt. Naturally, such changes cannot but affect the mental state of a woman.
On the other hand, some kind of mental transformation takes place around this age. The person becomes really mature. Often, women at the age of 40 look back at the path they have traveled and evaluate their achievements, remember mistakes. Unfortunately, not every lady can boast of really important accomplishments or dreams come true. Such an analysis literally knocks the ground out from under your feet, because it comes to the understanding that there is not so much time and opportunities left.
Many women do not tolerate the date of 40 years. Celebrate or not - decide for yourself. Psychologists say that there is nothing wrong with the celebration. On the contrary, communication with loved ones and loved ones will help to avoid depression. On the other hand, the laws of self-hypnosis apply here - if you believe that punishment will come after fun, then most likely you will receive it, and it can come in different forms.
How to celebrate 40 years for a woman?
What to do if you are still afraid of calling trouble? In such cases, a woman should celebrate her 40th birthday at home. They say that native walls will protect the birthday girl from negative energy. In addition, gather only close relatives and friends - if you are superstitious, then you should not organize a noisy party with several dozen guests.
Some people advise during the celebration not to mention its cause. For example, toast in honor of the "beginning of the fifth decade" or "farewell to the 39th anniversary." In extreme cases, you can arrange some kind of theme party or get together to celebrate some kind of church holiday. By the way, you can always reschedule the party for another day - this will make all signs and superstitions insignificant.
In any case, you should not rely on superstition alone - first, study different points of view and draw the appropriate conclusions. After all, most explanations of this sign prove absolutely nothing, and some are literally "far-fetched."
