Bosses “eat” those who cannot stand up for themselves, according to the authors of a study published in the British journal Labor and Organizational Psychology. The article gives an example of about 200 conflict situations between subordinates and leaders of various professional industries.

These conclusions are alarming, but one can hardly argue with them. Many workers with some work experience will certainly confirm this observation.

If an employee has a low level of self-esteem and self-esteem, does not receive support from colleagues and feels unable to control the situation, then he is more likely to be subjected to aggression from management and higher-ranking employees. It can be nit-picking, accusations and even insults. A bad leader terrorizes the weakest.

The desire to lash out at those who cannot stand up for themselves increases if the leader himself is in an unpleasant situation. However, even in stressful periods, bosses do not attack everyone, but only the weakest employees.

An employee with low self-esteem is unable to directly fight back. But he begins to treat work formally, stops trying, is not interested in the affairs of the team and the company as a whole.

A similar situation at work is a vicious practice that does not lead to a successful outcome for anyone. Each participant could change the scenario of their behavior, but does not. The boss continues to “eat” the weak, the victim is still unable to fight back, and third parties who prefer not to interfere.

If you are the boss

If you are the boss, look at yourself and be honest: is your behavior taking out evil on someone who cannot fight back? Has this attitude towards weak team members become a daily practice?

To realize is to take the first step in the right direction. Next, you should think - what are the constructive ways to solve the problem? How to overcome your own frustration without taking it out on your subordinates? And if you realize that the cause of disappointment lies outside of work, then all the more such reflections will benefit you.

If you are worried about your own uncertain position, then you should resolve this issue directly with your boss, without disrupting subordinates.

After that, it is worth thinking about the fate of a weak employee. You don't need helpless people. Fire him or transfer him to another department. If this employee is valuable, has rare skills, or your customers like it, then it makes sense to keep him, but help him succeed - increase his self-esteem and build relationships with colleagues.

Your behavior, intonation and words in relation to this subordinate made it clear to other employees that this person can be neglected. If you try to analyze your behavior, then most likely, during the dialogue, you deviate from him with your whole body and do not look into his eyes. Now try to become more friendly in communicating with him, gradually adjust your behavior, body language, choose words. Be more open with him.

If you are a victim

If you tolerate your boss's constant nagging, learn to fight back. Who suffers, but is silent and smiles, provokes even more aggression against him. Realize - most likely, your boss himself is experiencing stress, that is, you are not to blame for his behavior. But since you never hit back, he likes to come off on you, splashing out his negativity.

Let your boss know that you no longer intend to be the scapegoat. Be polite but firm, such as "I think we can sort this out without raised tones" or "Everything we discussed on Wednesday is in my report that I sent you." If you need support from colleagues, then turn to them: “Pavel, we discussed this approach, express your opinion too.”

What definitely should not be done is to work carelessly. Yes, you are treated ugly, you are not respected, but you should not give your boss a good reason for such an attitude. Any time you feel like giving a damn about work, channel that energy into something worthwhile or a fruitful conversation.

If you are a third party

If you are witnessing a destructive relationship between a subordinate and a boss, you should not remain indifferent. Start taking action. Silently watching a colleague being bullied is the same as doing nothing when a child is being bullied. As the statistics of the study showed, most often those who do not have outside support are humiliated.

Help your colleague with advice and support. If you believe that he is able to improve his reputation, then tell him how to achieve this. If the boss attacks a subordinate during a general meeting, try to stop him. For example, if the boss doesn’t let you speak and interrupts a weak colleague all the time, offer to listen to him: “I’m interested in Masha’s opinion.” And if the boss criticizes and blames, feel free to disagree.

Anyone can change the unhealthy environment in the team if he himself starts to behave differently. It takes courage to change something - but it's worth it.

If the boss is a tyrant - what to do ? Many workers who face unfair accusations in the workplace want to know the answer to this question. In this article, we will describe how you can deal with the unprofessional behavior of the employer.

The chief finds fault with the wrong thing

Any hard work involves constant psychological stress and overload. Usually, employees do not think that most of the workload falls on the head of the organization.

Strong psychological pressure from controlling structures and the inability to meet the requirements of top management - all this often becomes the reason for the employer's inadequate behavior with his employees.

How do employees behave in this situation?

The most typical reaction on the part of the average office worker is the so-called self-sacrifice. This means that a person prefers to silently endure all reproaches so as not to aggravate the current situation.

Up to a certain point, this approach can be considered optimal. However, if bullying by the employer goes beyond reasonable limits, the employee should take defensive measures to protect their mental health and maintain a fruitful workplace atmosphere.

It is important for every employee who is subjected to unreasonable attacks to know that the Constitution of the Russian Federation in Art. 37 guarantees to all citizens:

• free labor;
• the right to independently choose the type of activity;
• the right to choose a profession.

The Labor Code of the Russian Federation in its norms prohibits discrimination of workers in the sphere of labor. The boss cannot worsen the position of the employee based on racial, gender, national, linguistic, social and other differences.

What to do if the boss survives from work and finds fault

Find out the relationship

An employee who is regularly attacked by an unbalanced manager should tactfully inform the employer of the current situation. It is necessary to talk with the boss in confidentiality, calmly and thoroughly explain how depressing the current situation is and what the possible consequences are.

If the employee expresses his thoughts in a correct and confident manner, then the manager will be able to understand the problematic points for himself and, possibly, take constructive measures to eliminate them.

Don't know your rights?

Conducting a conversation with the boss, you can not show unprofessionalism and familiarity. Disrespect for the employer is often perceived by him as a challenge. An employee should not use offensive language, calling into question the personal qualities and professional abilities of the boss. Harsh and thoughtless words addressed to the leader can cause serious negative consequences, so you should prepare your speech in advance, mentally or in writing, noting the most significant points.

Find another job

First of all, an employee of the company should determine whether he can find a common language with his manager or whether this person should not have further business.

If the boss constantly controls the labor process, unambiguously expresses distrust of the employee as a professional and creates problems for him every day, then you should think about changing your workplace.

The most problematic are those bosses who regularly assign a huge number of tasks to subordinates without explaining to them the desired result. Thus, the employee is always to blame. The result of his work, however well done, becomes wrong.

In case of complicated relations with the head, the employee can always apply for dismissal. To avoid financial losses, it is recommended to find a new job in advance.

Protect your rights in pre-trial and judicial proceedings

If the consequences of the conflict between the employee and the employer went beyond squabbles and began to grossly violate the fundamental rights and freedoms of a citizen, then he, according to Art. 352 of the Labor Code of the Russian Federation, has the right to protect their interests:

• on one's own;
• with the help of a trade union;
• through a complaint to the state control and supervision bodies for compliance with labor laws, which include, for example, labor inspections (See. Where to complain about the employer, and how to complain correctly? );
• by applying to the judiciary.

Admit your mistakes

There are situations when a manager expresses dissatisfaction with an employee for a reason. In this case, the subordinate should think and not hide his mistakes.

A sincere confession will help everyone calm down and reduce the scope of the conflict. It is better to admit your guilt immediately and take responsibility for yourself than to shift it onto your colleagues or any life circumstances.

The ability to accept the negative consequences of one's mistakes and take action to eliminate them is an important trait of any responsible employee. An employee who constantly denies his involvement in the failures of the company and does not seek to fight them will lose respect from management.

Thus, subordinates should remember that the main weapon against the rudeness of the boss is correctness, calmness and courtesy. Legal conflicts between the employee and the employer, if necessary, can be resolved in court.

» Bosses-tyrants

How to "put in place" presumptuous boss
(Methods of confronting tyrant bosses)

Bosses are different: smart and stupid, good and evil, cunning and not very. Unfortunately, there are also real “thugs” who, for some reason, decided that their position and social status allow them to humiliate the dignity of those who depend on them to one degree or another. What to do, money and power often spoil people.

Do not give in to the big bosses who call you the last words, spitting saliva and stamping their feet in rage. You need to be able to talk to them. And do not forget about your interests. There are behavioral strategies developed by psychologists specifically for such cases. If kissing the boss somewhere lower back is not your style, read this article carefully.

You may be the object of disdain or humiliation for showing up to work without a tie; for being unintentionally late; for not understanding the order you were given, etc. The most common situation is that you made some kind of mistake. Your supervisor has discovered it and is letting you know that you shouldn't have done it, that you're no good, and so on. This is done in a rude and offensive manner, very often in front of witnesses. Unfortunately, many managers see the opportunity to point out to a subordinate about his mistakes as another reason to show his superiority. They love to focus on this, savor the miscalculations of the employee, thereby humiliating him as a person.

Your possible actions:

Option 1. Of course, instead of listening to bossy nonsense, you can always state publicly in appropriate terms that you and such a boss are not on the way. After that, of course, it remains only to leave the office with your head held high. “Having said this, the count retired with dignity. All in white, ”the Strugatskys, it seems. But on the way to the labor exchange, you will amuse your own vanity to your heart's content, remembering how you put "this cretin" in his place. True, a less pleasant scenario may happen: the boss’s security will take over you and you will not leave the company on your own, but fly out into the street with your things.

Option 2. You flare up and answer in the style of "the fool himself": say that he has no right to criticize you, because he himself makes mistakes, he is late, etc. And in general - you are a qualified specialist and are able to cope with the work without his instructions.

This is a bad choice. Bosses do not like it when subordinates point out their shortcomings, especially in public. Therefore, I do not undertake to predict the result. Most likely, it will be the same as in paragraph 1. You will lose your job.

Option 3. You fall to your knees, tear your shirt on your chest, sprinkle ashes on your head, humbly apologize and ask for mercy on you. Then say that you are sorry that it was stupid of you and that it will never happen again.

This version is slightly better than the previous one. Replacing anger with mercy, the boss can grant you his forgiveness. Only one is bad. If you have even a drop of your own dignity, you will not be able to get rid of the feeling that you have wiped your feet for a long time. In addition, meekly accepting humiliation in your address, you recognize your own insignificance. By demonstrating a lack of pride and self-respect, you run the risk that not only the leader, but also your fellow colleagues will eventually cease to reckon with you. The fact is that the phenomenon of imitation is very developed in organizations. And if an authoritative leader or boss chooses you as a "boy (girl) to beat", sooner or later other employees will start copying his behavior. The flock follows its leader - the ancients knew about this.

I am convinced that you deserve more. After all, you came to the firm to sell your professional knowledge, experience and skills, and not yourself. Therefore, the manifestation of self-esteem is quite appropriate. You can defend your interests and keep your job.

Option 4. First, it's best to let the boss speak, i.e. "let off steam" before trying to respond. Wait until he is able to listen to you. Next, you admit that you made a mistake, that you regret it, and next time you will be more careful. Then you add that your boss (boss) speaks in a rather harsh tone, and you do not see the need for this. Secondly, it is best to sort things out with the boss in a confidential setting.

And one more thing: do not try to give your boss ultimatums like: "If this happens again, I will immediately leave your company." Bosses hate it when subordinates put conditions on them. In the end, you can always write a letter of resignation without Chinese warnings. Better just say that this style of behavior prevents you from focusing on your job responsibilities. Then politely but firmly ask your boss to slow down.

Of course, there is a risk that you will be fired, even if you express objections in the correct form. There are psychopathic bosses who do not tolerate any manifestation of self-respect on the part of their subordinates. They need a slightly different approach. (I’ll talk about this in a moment.) But most managers respect those employees who honestly express their own opinions in the proper - confident and correct form, without hurting the pride of their boss.

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Humiliation can take not only a verbally aggressive form. No less offensive and so-called. passive derogatory behavior. These are hurtful jokes, and ironic remarks addressed to you, and sarcastic smiles, and a politely dismissive tone of orders, and contemptuous notes in your boss's voice ... All this is done with the aim of humiliating you, but it is done in a veiled manner and as if in passing .

In such cases, you should not pretend that you do not notice the humiliation. If you keep silent, you seem to agree to treat you in the same way in the future, recognizing the boss's right to consider you something insignificant, not worthy of special attention and, moreover, respect.

In such situations, the following strategy helps. Don't try to suppress your feelings. Say that you are worried about this behavior of the boss, that you do not like jokes about you at all. Ask him directly what it means.

When you seek clarification, you have the opportunity to "put in place" your counterpart. That is, you caught him (her) in a not entirely fair game, demand an explanation and make it clear that you should be treated as an equal. And you do it in a correct and confident manner, so a good relationship between you and the boss may well improve.

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However, there are bosses, to which the above strategies are not only ineffective, but also dangerous. Usually these are bosses with an extremely unbalanced temperament and excessive excitability, which regularly finds an outlet in outbursts of uncontrollable emotions: from “quiet tyranny” to wild seizures. To sort things out with them at such moments means calling a big trouble on your head.

Oddly enough, such bosses are often loved and respected by subordinates. This is the classic type of "father-director". Everyone believes in him. He is the undisputed leader. Workers treat him only as a benefactor. And there are reasons for this. He punishes and encourages at his own discretion, usually does not like to lay off staff reductions (“better victorious, but together”), everyone can turn to him with a personal problem. For this, he is forgiven a lot: mistakes, bad habits, rudeness.

But when he's excited, it's best to stay away from him. If his nerves are on edge, he arranges a scolding for anyone who falls under his hot hand. And while not particularly ceremonious in expressions. True, he quickly forgets about it. Therefore, at such moments it is useful to recall the old soldier's wisdom: "Away from the authorities - closer to the kitchen." Try not to catch his eye for a while, and the conflict will resolve itself.

Much more dangerous is another type of boss - sadistic psychopaths, they are also "classic" petty tyrants. Unlike the previous ones, these humiliate subordinates not in a fit of uncontrollable anger, but consciously and purposefully, for their own pleasure. And if such a boss chooses you as his victim, you will not be able to sit quietly in a corner.

There are enough social psychopaths in leadership positions today. Unfortunately, the current life in our country is in every way conducive to this. They are characterized by excellent "fighting" qualities, a complete lack of remorse, vanity and uncriticality in assessing their own actions. Plus, the ever-present syndrome of suspicion of everyone and everything in all sorts of intrigues. The arrogance inherent in such types (a strong type of nervous system!) In combination with infallible self-confidence usually paralyzes the will and ability to resist the victim. In addition, they have a well-developed instinct for people who are psychologically weaker than them. And a well-developed intuition allows you to avoid real fighters who can adequately respond to such a style of "leadership". All these qualities allow social psychopaths to reach significant career heights.

It has been established that the psychotype of the tyrant boss, oddly enough, almost completely coincides with the psychotype ... of a serial killer. This is one field of berries. Only one gets the highest pleasure, shedding rivers of blood, and the other is eager to "drink" it drop by drop, tormenting and humiliating his subordinates day after day. Both have primary motivations - sexual lust, painful aggressiveness or a thirst for revenge, whimsically transform into an intoxication with power and a desire to command people. In everyday life, both are often gray and unremarkable people. No matter how you recall the quiet teacher Chikatilo or the “simple worker” Onoprienko. And service monsters, who terrorize entire teams at work, in everyday life are often “henpecked” by a wife or mistress.

Even coming to a firm run by a psychopathic boss can be hard sometimes. The terrorized workers jump up like automata and rattle off a memorized text in a patter. Like, our company is the best company in the world, etc. Although, for people who are inclined to be shy in front of a strong government, this makes a great impression. (“A real leader! And what a team he has!”) Such a boss skillfully gropes for exactly the method that is applicable to a particular employee. Guilty, frighten him. Everything is used - both an ironic smile at the right moment, and a rude shout.

The ideal worker for such a boss is a slave who should have tremors in the knees from the mere sight of a commanding person. And such managers begin to intimidate their employees already when applying for a job - at an interview. Therefore, you will always have time to weigh all the pros and cons, decide for yourself whether it is worth working in such a company. I do not urge you to slam the door loudly and give up any attempt to take the right position in such an organization. Just prepare yourself for a certain style of behavior with your future boss.

The most important thing is to learn to shake off that sticky fear that they will try to smear you with. The sadistic boss always tries to make his subordinate not just dependent, but anxious, and if he succeeds, he brings this anxiety to convulsions. Don't give in. And get into less verbal skirmishes with him. Such bosses are experienced demagogues and brilliant orators, shamelessly and skillfully confusing the opponent. They have a good conversation technique. They know how to confuse the interlocutor with one remark, to prevent the development of thought, if for some reason they do not like this thought. In addition, such bosses have a very perverted logic of thinking: “If an employee contradicts me, then he is not afraid. If he is not afraid, then he does not respect. Therefore, those who are not afraid to openly object to the boss do not stay long at such a company.

And defending yourself against psychopathic bosses is easy. If you are too annoyed by your boss's intimidating "dances", you just need to mentally put a wall between him and yourself. Create a screen between you. To do this, imagine an impenetrable wall. What you build it from is up to your imagination. Made of brick, steel, armored glass, just dense air, a magnetic field... And you will suddenly see how the big boss spitting and stamping his feet will become completely indifferent to you.

In this case, the change is dramatic. They suddenly become polite and calm. Even benevolent ones. Most often, they have a feeling of respect beyond their control for a person whom they cannot “break through”.

Psychologists also advise covering such bosses with an imaginary glass. But this is no longer entirely humane - they begin to feel very uncomfortable, get nervous and, feeling their powerlessness in front of you, begin to take out their anger on other employees.

Learn to evoke this calm indifference in your feelings and turn it on when you need it. At least with this technique, you are guaranteed against unsolicited pressure on your personality.

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Finally, I will tell you how to "siege" an overly enterprising boss. There are bosses who do not seem to be bloodthirsty, but are quite capable of driving their subordinates to quiet madness with their idiotic undertakings and "valuable" instructions. For example, you are a qualified specialist and have been developing a project for six months. Finally, inspired, you carry it to the big boss for approval. The following is a typical situation. The big boss, who understands the specifics of your activity as much as the hare understands geometry, nevertheless considers it his duty to point out your mistakes and requires you to make adjustments. You understand that this is a disaster for the project, that the proposed changes put an end to it. You know, but you can't do anything. It is useless to argue with the boss - they enter the boss's office with their own opinion, and leave with self-knowledge.

© 2001 Viktor Bodalev

We all have times when our nerves are on edge. This is especially true for work activities. Being under stress, it is difficult to contain emotions. Not everyone knows what to do if the boss yells.

At work, many people's nerves are at the breaking point.

Every person tends to show aggression, and in small quantities it is even useful. If the leadership crosses the line, try to re-educate it as a whole team. Do it carefully and calmly.

What causes a boss to yell

Before blaming the boss for manifestations of aggression, you need to understand the reasons for such behavior. It often happens that the perpetrators of the conflict are the employees themselves. Do not forget about the temperament, the character of a person.

If the boss is a choleric, then for him the cry is a source of energy. It is vital for him to actively show emotions in order to restore strength.

The main reasons why the boss yells at employees:

1. Bad mood. The boss also has personal problems: illness of loved ones, quarrels, health problems.
2. Syndrome of emotional burnout. The manager is tired of work and needs a vacation, but due to the large volumes, he cannot afford it. He lost interest in work, but he hopes for the dedication of employees. If it is not there, the boss is nervous, mental disorders are actively developing.
3. Low profit. A person works a lot, he is paid a decent salary, he is offered an excellent job, prospects, but in reality the results of his activities are rather low. This is especially true for newcomers or employees with no work experience. This annoys the boss, because it is important for him to get high profits.
4. Violation of labor discipline. The employee is often late, wears a dirty uniform, looks inappropriate, and does other things during the working day.

There are bosses with an unbalanced psyche. They suffer from mental disorders and do not control their actions, do not know how to restrain emotions. Due to the lack of knowledge in the field of emotional intelligence, they do not know how to behave with employees in certain situations.

Burnout syndrome is also familiar to people in leadership positions.

Types of bosses

To understand how to deal with a conflicting boss, you need to know what types of bosses exist. They are classified depending on the type of behavior, character, life principles.

The main types of bosses:

1. Controller. Such a person controls literally everything: how many tasks the employee has completed today, how many are left, why it takes so long. He is always up to date with all the events in the office. Often sets himself as an example, but rarely praises others. He does not have the concepts of "premium" and "bonuses".
2. Timer. This is a time controller. It is important for him that employees come and go from work on time, there are no delays from the lunch break. Tasks are evaluated by the time of execution. Quality fades into the background. If the work is not delivered on time, hysteria begins.
3. Dictator. With such a leader, any initiative is punishable. He does not listen to the ideas and thoughts of employees. He is indifferent to the problems of the staff. He is only interested in work, income and quality. Anger causes disrespect or disobedience from subordinates.
4. Conniving. Most of the time he is not at work. Prefers to communicate with people who occupy high positions. If the workflow is established, then its presence or absence does not affect the speed and quality of work. Is not a leader in his team. He is annoyed by large amounts of work.
5. Psychologist. The personal qualities of employees are of more interest to him than their professional skills. Understands and treats employees with respect. It is easy to ask him for a vacation, promotion, ask for advice, he will always help and tell you.
6. Father-boss. In the team he is loved and respected, he competently explains the reason for his unbalanced behavior. When he is nervous, he may threaten to be fired, but quickly moves away. If he considers his behavior unjustified, he can apologize.
7. The head-tyrant is a combination of arrogance and power. He breaks down on people who are psychologically weaker, does not know the sense of tact, does not know how to be polite.

What to do if your boss yells

The first step is to understand the boss. In most cases, he screams for a specific reason. At this point, you need to understand what exactly the employee was guilty of. If the reason is really important, and the employee is wrong, then his guilt must be recognized. Otherwise, you need to defend your own opinion.

Don't focus on words. If you are pointed out to an error in the work, correct it and forget about the conflict. If every quarrel is taken to heart, then stress and nervous breakdowns will be a constant occurrence.

Try to relax. Inhale deeply, exhale slowly. Imagine a nice picture in front of you. Remain calm and show your good manners. The manager will see that there is no reaction, and will lose interest in such an employee. This is especially true for choleric people who, in response, need to hear a scream, anger and see aggression.

1. If the leader yells at subordinates for the cause, then self-criticism will be appropriate. You need to admit you're wrong. Try to fix the error quickly and continue to carefully check the work before submission.
2. Monitor your boss' behavior. In situations where the leader scolds subordinates, one should observe his behavior, emotions, facial expressions. You can analyze his speech.
3. Call the boss by his first name. Everyone loves to be addressed by their first name. Appeals should be frequent (psychologists recommend repeating the name at least 7 times). This will calm him down and bring him to his senses.
4. Write down everything that the boss says in a state of aggression on a voice recorder or in a notebook. Be sure to warn him about it. The goal of the victim is to slow down the pace. When the boss realizes that all his words are documented, he will begin to control his speech.
5. Use one neutral phrase. It should show the neutral attitude of the employee to humiliation at work.

If the director yells at all the employees during a meeting, think of something nice. If he says something really important, it is better to listen to him.

If your boss is constantly picking on you, try talking to him frankly. Forget about rudeness, reproaches and screams. This is a bad tactic. Ask what needs to be done to reduce the number of conflict situations. Try to turn in all assignments on time and do them well. Then the relationship with the boss will improve, and the nervous system will be in order.

What not to do when the leader is angry

Humiliating a screamer is a bad decision.

If an employee is reprimanded for no reason, you should remain calm. No humiliation, no apology, no self-deprecation. Explain your position to the boss, remind him of the merits.

You don't have to go to high pitches. The best position is neutral.

Other Tips:

• do not get personal;
• don't let yourself be yelled at for no reason;
• don't be rude;
• do not threaten with a letter of resignation of your own free will.

Do not Cry. This is a manifestation of a weak character and low stress resistance.

Don't try to cheer up the boss with a joke or a funny story. This may make the situation worse. Listen carefully and speak calmly.

If manifestations of aggression are rare, then you should not pay much attention to this.

Are there any penalties for such behavior?

Employees often wonder if a boss has the right to yell at a subordinate. Now there is no legislative act that would confirm or refute such an action. But there is an article for libel.

She confirms that the director is responsible for the humiliation at work. It states that for slander or dissemination of false information, a person must pay a fine of up to 50 non-taxable minimum incomes of citizens. Another outcome is community service for up to 2 years or correctional labor for up to 1 year.

This is especially true of the director, who publicly mocks subordinates. If such incidents occur frequently, the best solution is to record them on video or a voice recorder.

Conclusion

At work, situations often occur when the boss yells at his subordinates. It can be well-deserved accusations or screaming for no specific reason.

In moments of manifestation of aggression, you should pull yourself together. If the boss constantly finds fault with the employee, you need to talk with him and find out the reasons. If there are none, then the best solution is to quit. This will keep the nervous system in order and save the employee from constant stress.

There are situations when a person sincerely loves his job, but is completely tired of the constant reproaches of his boss. And it is difficult to get along with him, especially if the boss is a petty tyrant. If you constantly find fault with every little thing, sooner or later it will bring out any person, and then he will definitely not want to go to work in the morning. And in order to prevent another meeting with the offender, the only desire is not to leave the house, hiding in the far corner.

And there are only two ways. The simplest one is to change jobs, the more difficult one is to approach the issue wisely and try to improve relations with higher management.

general information

According to about half of the workers in our country, the bosses are petty tyrants. At least that's what opinion polls say. And the question of how to be in such a situation, whether it is necessary to observe subordination, excites many. Indeed, very often people like their work and salary, and sometimes there is simply no choice, because there are no other similar positions and conditions in the region. Removing the boss from the post is a dream of many, but unfortunately, it is almost impossible to realize it. In this regard, it is necessary to look for methods of how to get along with such bosses, and learn to tolerate his character.

Options

Many psychologists agree on this point in one thing: there are several options for how to get along with such a person. The first is to develop patience. A person should humbly, without taking it to heart, listen to all unreasonable and often humiliating nit-picking in his direction. Despite the fact that this option seems very strange and it can only be suitable for a very patient person, most workers in our country behave this way. And maybe everything would be fine, because observing subordination is the right thing to do. But from the point of view of psychology, such a development of events can significantly affect the health of the employee. Stress will accumulate, and psychological and physical health will decline.

In this regard, psychologists recommend not only to endure, but also to take care of your health. It is important to carry out psychological and emotional unloading. Do not relieve stress with alcohol. But if the employee does not have the strength to endure and humility is clearly not his forte, then it is better to find another way.

If the boss is constantly yelling, it means that he is not confident in himself and is afraid to seem ridiculous in the eyes of others. Therefore, it should be borne in mind that such people are very afraid of publicizing their incompetence. To figure out and understand exactly what complexes and injuries provoke him to defend himself from the world means to find a weapon that will work on this person without fail. There is even a chance that he himself will leave his post. But this method is very dangerous, because any mistake is slander, and it is punishable by law. But it is best not to resort to drastic measures and decide how to communicate with the boss without resentment and problems for both parties.

Choice of actions

Naturally, if every second an employee finds fault with his superiors for all sorts of little things, the easiest way is to start looking for a new job. This method is ideal for people whose nature does not tend to fight for their rights, and those who are used to looking for easy solutions to problems.

According to the theory of probability, the tyrant boss will remain in the past, and the new leadership will be much more favorable. But if this is not the case, then it makes sense to build a competent strategy of action. The first step is to understand what he screams about most often, and also to determine which of his nit-picks are valid and which are not. When conducting an analysis, one should not look at the question one-sidedly; there is a possibility that the manager is quite justifiably indignant at the employee’s poor performance of his direct obligations.

hysterical boss

To build relationships with management, you first need to understand what type of personality his character belongs to. According to statistics, tantrums happen in 99% of situations in women. If they are in a state of permanent tension, it is very likely that they will take out their anger on subordinates, while maintaining affability with higher management and strangers. If this is hysteria, then it is worth acting like an armored train. Do not react. All answers should be controlled, without raising your voice and showing mutual emotions. If the nit-picking is ridiculous, it is worth arguing your opinion.

And in a situation where the authorities are trying to blame their subordinates for their own mistakes, it is best to clearly show him who is really guilty. You can also enlist the support of colleagues or management from above. In this situation, this should not be taken as betrayal or sneakiness, because the actions of a constantly humiliated employee will be fully justified.

How to find a common language

Unlike hysterics, the tyrant boss is aggressive towards everyone indiscriminately. Such people are undeniably confident in their own superiority over everyone else. Basically, these are men who have moved up the career ladder quite quickly. Their main belief is that there are only idiots around, and communicating with them is worse than torture.

If a person has to communicate with a tyrant, then initially it is necessary to behave correctly. It is necessary to show that the subordinate has enough pride, and the option that he will become completely absent. Of course, the task seems difficult, but if it is completed, then there is a high probability that in the future you will no longer have to deal with nit-picking. In addition, a person must inspire himself with the idea that he is no worse than his tyrant boss. Psychologists also recommend using fantasy, for example, imagine the boss in a pink fluffy sweater or with a trash can on his head. This will allow consciousness not to take seriously its blows to self-esteem.

If the production manager constantly finds fault

Just a nagging leadership at first glance looks more harmless than a hysterical type or petty tyrants. But the fact is that constant remarks can bring out even the most calm and balanced person. Nagging bosses will carefully control every step of their subordinates, chastising them even for a half-minute delay.

Often such people also control the time of lunch and call on a day off, without good reason or serious reasons for this. There is also a chance that he will look for flaws in work that is done perfectly. And instead of a well-deserved bonus, the employee will receive a reprimand.

How to raise a boss

You should not cringe before a nitpick and a hysterical production manager. It is worth clarifying exactly which nuances do not suit the manager, calling him to a dialogue, where he should not only explain what he sees the shortcomings in, but also suggest ways to solve the problem that has arisen.

As for calls on weekends, you can simply not pick up the phone. This is a rest time, and the authorities have no right to accuse you of not being in touch. It is also worth taking the work schedule more seriously, avoiding being late or delaying lunch time. This will lead to the fact that the boss will simply get tired of looking for reasons to blame you, and he will switch to another employee.

Conclusion

Taming bosses is not easy, but it's not really a way out. If the boss is a tyrant, what to do with it is known. You just need to improve the relationship between you. Do not grovel or bend under annoying guidance. On the contrary, for such people, those employees who show dignity and can prove their worth are important. If you fence yourself off from constant nit-picking, you can work calmly.

But globally re-educating this person is a task for his relatives. When building relationships, it is very important to make it clear to the person that you are not only ready, but also want to cooperate with him. It is your desire to resolve the conflict that will allow you to continue working without problems. By recognizing the psychotype of the boss and solving this situation, you can make your life better and get rid of resentment and problems at work.