The author is not responsible for the actions of the reader as a result of reading the book!
How to meet a girl
How to fall in love with anyone
What can you do on a date
From dating to sex - a couple of hours
How to 100% seduce two girls at once
How to arrange debauchery and realize any dreams
Lots of real stories and more-a lot of delicious things!
The real stories of seduction that you will find in the book will help you to promote any girl for sex..
Think of them as a kind of cheat sheet, a step-by-step guide to action. You can, by the way, print out the stories that hooked you the most and peek into them with one eye during training! Keep in mind that my stories are not romantic verses of troubadours, but rather harsh and frank truth of life! Therefore, if you are shy and notorious, get rid of it immediately. By the way, these stories in the original version were an order of magnitude more frank. But, unfortunately, publishers are also people over whom (as well as over you too - don't flatter yourself!) The morality of the Society has worked. The ruthless hand of the editor has crossed out the hottest details of the stories, eh! Well, I hope that the editor some time later will feel my ideas and stop looking at the world through the prism of "good-bad"! After all, he willy-nilly read the book, which means that my words could not help but penetrate his blinkered brain! Well, you, my desperate reader, can read all these and other stories in a tougher version on our website.
dare!
From the author
Who is this book for? The age of the reader does not matter! The techniques given in this book have been tested on people from 16 to 55 years of age. You may be ready to understand and accept them in a couple of years, or when you hit fifty dollars, or right now! Only your psychological age matters. When you pay attention to the fact that the time has come for new emotions in life and knowledge in the field of seduction, then you will immediately read this book! And when you suddenly want to “demolish your roof” and look at relationships differently, you will read and understand every letter that I wrote. One has only to wish you new women, and this book will be the best assistant to achieve your goals.
It will help you develop or improve your model of seduction and communication with women. But I warn you: this is an exciting publication - for men. It is completely contraindicated for women. So if you're a girl, close my book and put it back on the shelf! Reading it is extremely dangerous for you!
Now it's time to be honest!
Any man, and in particular you, at least once in your life have questions: How to behave with a woman? How to meet and charm her? Is it possible to evoke reciprocal feelings in her? How to make her fall in love with you and how, in the end, quickly translate the relationship into a horizontal plane? This book is designed to answer any such question. You can’t even imagine what a colossal effect those techniques that are described in detail in it have!
Goals, of course, may be different. Someone wants more sex, someone wants more prestigious girls, someone wants a permanent relationship, someone just wants variety. It doesn't matter what your personal goals are. This book will open up complete information about women, and you will know what to do with any beauty or regular girl you like, wherever you are. After all, to know and understand just one woman, you need to know and understand all women. And this opportunity is now open for you!
How to read this book?
If you read and understand only 20% of the book, your efficiency in communicating with women will increase significantly.
And if you read the whole book from cover to cover and complete all its tasks, then you yourself, your friends, mom, dad just don’t recognize you, you will change so much in life and communication! Of course, for the better.
Already after reading a few pages of the "Introduction" you will begin to feel and understand that your thinking is changing, your outlook on life is changing, and you yourself are becoming different - more energetic and inspired, as new women will give you a colossal flow of energy. It probably won't happen right away, but it will definitely happen!
What else can this book do?
Every man at least once in his life had difficulties in communicating with a particular woman. Some are abandoned by girls (wives), others leave girls (wives) themselves. Both are hard to deal with. The facts say: now in Moscow with a psychologist, in order to forget about the gap, a person leaves an average of one and a half bucks and spends at least a month (hard work and torment, thoughts, etc.) to restore strength.
While after reading my book in just a few hours a person is already fascinated by the process and methods of seduction, and exactly one day later he no longer remembers the former women, whatever they may be. Like this!
I wish you success in learning a new model of seducing women!
Lesley
Foreword
Thanks
I thank my parents for their direct participation in my birth, which undoubtedly helped the creation of this book.
I would also like to thank my coaching team and partners, people with whom I spent many years of practical training, for helping to create the book.
I express my special gratitude to the researcher of the central research laboratory of the Mogilev State Medical University Kritchenkov Andrey Sergeevich for the research carried out in order to confirm and scientifically substantiate the main premises of the book that I received in practice. I thank his laboratory for having withstood all these experiments :)
I want to express my special gratitude to all the girls, communication with whom inspired me to create these techniques, and to a large number of those girls with whom we lit and ignite together!
Special thanks to my friend Dima Koveshnikov for his support and participation in my research, who went with me for many days from the very beginning to the present day!
Special thanks to the owner of a business training company in Moscow, NLP trainer Dmitry L. for professional assistance in the development of trainers of the Seduction Style project and constant coaching!
I thank Kirill Sekretny for providing his resources, life experience to develop the structure of this book.
Special thanks to those 256 girls in clubs and cafes in Moscow, who from January 28 to February 5, 2005 agreed to kiss their girlfriend in French. This experiment has brought invaluable benefits to the statistics for the material "Seduction for sex of two or more girls"!
Special thanks to my friend Masha Sokolova (Moscow) for her help in a systematic study of the topic of seducing two girls into a “threesome”.
Thanks to Vadim Sova for those positive memories of the adventures that we had with him!
Thanks to Feda Moore for being a cool friend all this time, and for the memories that remained from our joint adventures!
Thanks to Misha Patriot for his help in creating and studying the topic of dating and attracting very beautiful girls.
I thank my friend, the organizer of the trainings, Grisha Kogan (Tel Aviv) for the rare emotions that we experienced there together during the practice and in the process of teaching people.
I thank the 40 groups of the Seduction Style project, all my students and students that I had, for the fact that it was your successes, your practice and activity that allowed me to test the methods of seduction and now publish in the book the most effective of them - those that been tested empirically on such a huge number of people.
I thank Fedya Ephraim (Canada) for leaving so many correct thoughts in my head.
I thank Andrey Galkin for assistance in the development of the material.
I thank all my friends for great memories and constant joint practice.
I thank all the women of the world for being you and for being so wonderful!
I thank my laptop for withstanding all the bullying at the time of the creation of this book (for 2 years) and thank the keyboard, which was “erased” twice, but still withstood the development of this material!
Who am i?
You think I'm a psychologist with a bushy beard and bulky glasses? No, I didn't guess. I'm not a psychologist at all. Although I have a second specialty coach. But it appeared to me already after I began to conduct seminars on seduction. I am a man like you and many others. It's just that I myself spent a lot of time practicing new acquaintances and seducing women. I also broke off and I was not lucky! I trained with my friends for eight hours a day to learn how to get cool with the most beautiful girls. We were such fanatics, which, probably, history did not know yet. We did 50 sets an hour and seduced three new women a day. It was a real frenzy. Only with such fanaticism can one understand the topic well. I have come a long way to teach myself and my friends the art of seduction. Now I have no doubt that only such a person has the moral right to write such a book. A friend of mine told me how he came to a psychologist to learn how to meet girls. The psychologist gave him some advice. Then a friend asked a psychologist: “Have you ever tried to get acquainted in this way?” He replied: “No, I don’t need it!”. Question: how can a person who has not tried anything himself teach something?
So, rest assured that in this book I have tried every technique on myself and on several hundred of my students. But at the same time, you still doubt the veracity of what I said. Check everything that I wrote here, knowing in advance that everything works, and knowing that it has been tested by thousands of people, that you are not the first. Practice a lot at your pleasure, and only then can you achieve a high level of "flying".
This book is not a theoretical discourse on how to communicate with women. Everything that is described here has been tested by life and works 200%.
Chapter I
Introduction
Why are we doing this?
Every woman or every man at least once in his life thinks about how to find and seduce the best partner.
Every man or woman has a standard idea of how this should happen. Let's see where it comes from.
We live in society and develop in society. Who tells us how the acquaintance and seduction of girls takes place?
Mom, dad, newspapers, TV, media, books, etc.
These are standard beliefs and strategies that are embedded in us by society.
What are these strategies?
1. Find an object.
It's either going to a club, or getting to know each other through friends, or through the Internet, or something else. You can also accidentally meet the desired object. For example, in places of rest - in a restaurant or cafe. Women look for men where there are many of them, for example, in fitness clubs. Well, as a rule, in ordinary clubs. But most often women go to ordinary clubs in order to play Dynamo. The reasons for this game I will tell a little later.
2. Think about whether I need it.
It often happens that a man is simply too lazy to do any body movements, he “swings” for a very long time and as a result comes to the conclusion that he doesn’t really need a girl. In his decision, he strengthens himself, either by looking for the girl’s non-existent shortcomings, or based on a situation that allegedly does not have to get acquainted, or because of his own unpreparedness at the moment, etc.
3. Think about how to act.
Since the man has made a decision, now he needs to act. He says to himself: "Yes, I need it." And then: "What to do now?" And most often he does not have a single thought in his head about what exactly needs to be done. Because there are fears: “And if he sends?” Or: “And how to behave further if you agree?” etc. Therefore, often a man eventually changes his mind. This process for some occurs in seconds, for some it takes 10-15 minutes. Depending on the situation and the girl. Even more often it happens like this: "How beautiful she is, now if I were richer / handsome / better dressed / the car would be different / bold / impudent / ... / ... ". And there can be a thousand such “ifs”! And these "ifs" lead to the fact that he does not dare to approach and get acquainted. In the book, we will talk about how to break this chain of "if" automatically.
Suppose he nevertheless agreed to approach her (in one case out of ten, as a rule). So…
4. Stupid phrase "You can meet"?
When I ask the women at the training what is customary to do in this case, they answer in chorus: “reject”. If a man is stubborn, then he will continue to insist and, if the woman is initially positive, after a few "no" (in the style of "yes") she will begin to communicate with him. But only if it is initially located. If not, then the man has no chance. And we will continue to talk about how to act in such cases in order to succeed without fail.
Let's pretend she didn't send him off after all.
5. Exchange of phrases, conversation.
There is a conversation, at the end of which he tries to take the phone from her. In one case out of ten, she still gives him a number. Let's say it happened. What does the man do next?
6. He thinks for a long time and decides: to call - not to call?
You will laugh. Some men go months before they decide to call her. Moreover, some men torment women with calls and silent messages on the phone. This, of course, is a clinic, but I came across one client who, at the age of 35, did this if the girl was very indifferent to him. In general, such behavior does not depend on age, but on life experience with women. You can be 25 years old, and you have more life experience than a fifty-fifty man.
Let's imagine that after all the man decided to call the woman.
7. Call. Date invitation.
He will torment her for a long time with a telephone conversation and finding out how she is doing. And then he still invites her to meet. I'm talking about a man with little experience in dealing with women, who had no more than a dozen of them in his life. They usually do just that.
8. Date.
The maximum that he will be allowed is to touch her hand. On this date, he pays for the girl, takes her to a cafe, feeds her, gives water to drink, gives gifts, etc.
9. Date with a kiss.
He will probably be able to afford to kiss her and give her flowers.
The girls call it the flower-candy period. One girl at the training said: “Sometimes you think how much you want to start having sex, but the guy is dumb and bombards with flowers.” This is a case of misunderstanding when a woman wants sex, and a guy thinks that all girls want a relationship. In one case out of ten, she allows herself to be kissed.
10. A date with a showdown.
A man, perhaps, will offer her to "show things off" or try to confess his love. After that, you can already move on to sex, and even then not immediately. A woman can still mock him for a couple of dates, torment him. And then change your mind and say no.
11. Date with sex.
Well, in one case out of ten, sex happens!
Yes... what can I say. A guy with such a seduction strategy has little chance of success, but if he is stubborn, he will still achieve a girl!
What does the girl do in response to his actions?
1. Acquaintance.
The girl tries to refuse dating, but if a man attracts her, she agrees.
2. "Dynamo".
The girl tries to send him off and does it in different ways. The game "dynamo" is very common among beautiful women. I already mentioned her. This is a game that any attractive person likes to play. This game increases her self-esteem and self-confidence, just like any seduced girl increases self-esteem for any male. The reasons for this are instincts, which we will talk about later.
If the male is persistent enough, then the girl begins to "be led" to his manipulations and enjoy it herself, she gives the phone and agrees to a meeting.
3. Excuses.
When he calls, she will try to refuse a date. And will do it in any way. Girls do not do this only when the guy has a hard voice, but, in any case, any woman, by virtue of her nature, has the desire to refuse the meeting, no matter how much she likes the guy. We will now examine the instinctive causes of such behavior.
Let's say he acted correctly and pulled her out on a date (by the way, she may not come yet, well, we'll omit that for now). So, the girl came on a date.
4. Date.
She will try to answer “no” to any sharp, unexpectedly active offer or actions of a man, no matter how much she herself would like. She tries to avoid being touched. In delicate form or hard. But she will agree to a man touching her only if the man proves to her that he has the right to do so.
5. Date with a kiss.
When a man tries to kiss a girl, she may try to sneak out if she is not yet aroused enough. If, nevertheless, he aroused her and she kisses him, then, as one of the women participating in the training correctly said: “She will raise the base and compare who kissed her before, evaluating the kiss of this man.”
"Game of the Master and the Huntress. The Code of the Master and the Huntress"
Alex's new book consists of two parts. The first is the Code of the Master and the Huntress - an exclusive author's technology of influencing the opposite sex. The second part - The Game of the Master and the Huntress - is an immersion in the reality of real Players, surrounded by Alex Leslie and the Masters and Huntresses prepared by him.
"New Life Without Panties"
In this book you will find a clear sequence of steps that must be taken to seduce absolutely any woman, no matter how inaccessible she may seem!
Seduction techniques that work flawlessly, and real stories of seduction with an analysis of psychological techniques for use in life.
"Hunting for a male. Hunt, lure, tame. Practical Guide»
Bull Hunt is Alex Leslie's first real guide to seducing men for women. It is in this book that you will find answers to all questions that have been tormenting you for so long about relationships, their development, maintenance, and, most importantly, how to bring them to the wedding.
"Magic Pill"
The new book by Alex Leslie contains the most incredible tricks tested by the author himself and his students. With the unique recipes in this book, you will seduce any girl whenever you want. Just take this magic pill and… enjoy women!
"Gone in 60 Seconds, or the Secrets of Successful Dating"
In this book, the authors will tell you with examples how to get acquainted in any situation, how to behave in clubs and on vacation in order to seduce the best girl, how to pass face control and dress code in any cool club, how to meet girls by car and on the beach, what to write on the Internet to easily get her out on a date. And much, much more that every advanced man should know.
"SAY HELLO TO LESLIE"
This is my second book. The first - "Life without panties: Mastery of seduction - tin as it is" - was a huge success! It became the most scandalous bestseller on the Russian Internet and in the largest bookstores in Russia. She is now one of the leaders in sales of the largest stores in Moscow.
And even though I'm not a writer, many have asked me to write something else. But I didn't want to write "anything". I write systematizing my experience and the experience of my students.
Through actual practice, something new emerges. For example, thanks to this, the last fifty pages in the book appeared, devoted to real stories of seduction from my life: as usual, frank, some depraved, and sometimes even heartbreaking. So if you have already grown up (or grown up, sorry, lady) to the realization of the harsh reality of this world, then you will like what you read there. This is part of my life. I described some seduction stories, specifically explaining why I take certain actions and what this leads to.
This book is a short practical guide. It will be very useful for both specialists and beginners. Your lifesaver, she will give answers to any questions that a man has when meeting or seducing girls, and will lay down a system of seduction that cannot be found anywhere else in the world. Therefore, keep everything a secret and do not tell anyone about it. And if you notice that someone else is acting the same way, go up to him and say the key word: "Say hello to Leslie."
This book is not just about how to seduce any stranger in a bar, club, on the street, etc. This book is about how to build your life!
History of CREATION of the book. Thanks
Gratitude is like the conscientiousness of merchants: we pay not because we consider it fair not to remain in debt, but in order to more easily find people who can lend us.
François de La Rochefoucauld
I sat down for the second book, and for about half a year I only read. I haven't written a single page.
My students gave me a huge amount of Western literature, some of which was underground and forbidden. Much of what I have read has been taught in courses that cost upwards of a thousand dollars in one day. Most Western schools seemed to me a stupid swindle of people for money. As I expected, I did not find any practical methods in these books that I could recommend to you in all honesty. From recommendations to dress cool and ranting about what affectionate words to hang on a girl's ears, I'm already sick. Now I can say with confidence that my book is beyond competition! Therefore, I thank all the authors of the books who deal with this problem for not yet writing the truth, giving me the opportunity to be the first!
I also want to thank the person who helps me with the collection of practical material and supports me: Yuliana.
I express my gratitude to Andrey (Bond) Chernyshov for all-round assistance in the development of the project and popularization of my approach in Russia.
I express my gratitude to the project coach Maxim Voronin for his support in TV projects and the chief director of DeltaFilm Andrey Chernyshev for the high-quality work on creating the TV show Life Without Panties!
I express my gratitude to my friend Grisha Kogan from Israel for ideas and valuable corrections in the process of creating this book, as well as for his help in creating and conducting a master training.
Thanks to Dmitry Oshchepkov for prompt assistance in writing the book.
I express my gratitude to the distributors who have to wholesale my book in bookstores. I know how hard it is to say, "We're out of Pantyless Life, send us more," or "We're out of Pantyless Life," every time. I can imagine how difficult it is for a person who is over sixty years old to say such words (and among the managers in large bookstores there are older ones). But I express special gratitude to those people who thought of putting the stress on the first syllable! Life without panties! Bravo! Get out! It looks like shyness is taking over some.
I want to note the readers of my previous book! Thank you so much for reading some of the pages, especially about sex, with such excitement! You have no idea how much pleasure you give me when I see such a reaction ... And despite my warnings: "Do not take this book, it is terrible, it will corrupt you, and you will never be the same", you still read it! Thank you for your trust!
I express my sympathy to those who have an interesting story happened to the book. Guys, but you know how women love men's magazines, men's books ... How interested in this! Well, how did you not guess that this book will become their most delicious prey?
I know that some have bought the book and, despite the fact that the back page says, "Keep it under your pillow and don't show it to anyone," they put it on the bookshelf! Do you think I just wrote it like that or is this a joke? No, it's serious! I know many cases when a girl came and took this book to read! And so that not to select!
Here is Grisha from Israel, for example, I gave a book, two days later he calls me and says:
“Leslie, my friend came, saw the book, grabbed it and dragged it away. And then she disappeared somewhere! And I never saw her again!
Well, then she came back, of course!
And Misha's wife took the book:
Leslie, you bastard! You stole my wife!
- She found your book at home and instead of fulfilling her direct marital duties at night, she read it and asked not to pester!
Exercise to create a feeling of comfort with very beautiful girls
Find a girl who sits somewhere on a bench or stands in one place for a long time. Approach her in a way that does not embarrass her, and sit next to her. Don't do anything, you just have to be near her. Pretend not to pay attention to her, pick up a book and pretend to read.
Sit like she does and take the same posture. Now we will do one exercise that will help you feel comfortable with a girl.
Imagine that you are her. Imagine yourself in her body. Imagine what you feel, what you see and what you hear in her body. Feel how you breathe being her. And look at you - the guy next to her. Do you like yourself? :) Feel in her body that you are comfortable sitting next to you. Feel the warmth and feel how "you" want to get closer to you, the guy sitting next to you.
Now come back to yourself and imagine that the comfort zone around you is a ball in which you are. Imagine that you let her into this ball. And she's good with you.
Notice how you feel about this woman.
See what's changed in her, body position or something else.
Do you feel it now? Are you comfortable?
Repeat this with at least five very beautiful girls you don't know.
Do you want to get acquainted after the experienced sensations? Do you feel comfortable around girls?
Remember this state. Remember this ball. And when you approach another very beautiful girl, if you start to worry - call this state and let it into this ball filled with positive energy.
I'm stressing
– How do you relax?
- And I'm not stressed!From the conversation of psychologists
DO play pranks! And treat everything very simply, like a child.
The most important thing is to relax. When a woman flirts with a man, or a man flirts with a woman, they are like two little children. The fact is that everything in a relationship is NOT built on a chain of adult logical reasoning, but on such childish emotions and pranks. Therefore, if you are characterized by childish infantilism or playfulness, it will be easier for you, and if not, it does not matter either. Think back to your childhood and let yourself be a little naughty. That's where we'll start - with pranks and tomfoolery.
Different people come to us for the Seduction Style project. There are those who are over 45. For those who have already forgotten what a prank is, it is difficult to communicate with the opposite sex. They are the hardest to deal with, but when we finally get them to act naughty, they take the plunge and go on a spree for months.
Well, how about we fool around? And what can we do? Grab any person nearby by the nose. Can you imagine this is fun? Well, don't be a beech - isn't it clear that I was joking.
So what are you doing today?
Rule of automatism. Why can't you think for a long time before approaching?
If you look at a person for a long time, he sees it. He feels the eyes on him and is suspicious of the one who looks at him, be it an old grandmother, a man or a woman. As a result, when you approach, they treat you with suspicion: “What does he want from me?” Often this interferes with normal communication.
You don't have to look far for examples... Dmitry tells.
Once I was riding the subway to work and saw a juicy tanned brunette with long hair. Her face expressed complete self-confidence. She seemed to say: "I'm beautiful, and I know it very well!" She was about my age, 27. She belonged to the type of girls in front of whom you begin to feel jitters. Suddenly she looked intently in my direction, but I withstood her gaze and firmly decided to get to know her. But the subway was noisy and somehow not very convenient.
Therefore, I thought that I would follow her, then I would meet her on the street.
I'm waiting. The train stops. It leaves through two metro stations. And I follow her. Strangely, she did not turn around, but I got the feeling that she had no doubt that someone was following her. Although there were a lot of people in the subway. We go outside together. I stepped up. I thought: I'll catch up with her. However, she also picked up speed. Crap. Unlucky!
I followed her even faster.
She stopped at a crossroads. And as soon as I approached, she turned sharply and recoiled from me in fright. There was a squeal of brakes. I got scared myself. A passing car veered sharply to the left and broke the mirror of a neighboring car, which at that time was overtaking.
I waved my hand...
What to say about this failed "adventure"? Dmitry hesitated too long with a decision, as a result of which the girl noticed that he wanted something from her. She felt it and got scared. If he had spoken to her right away in the subway, at least asked what station it was now, or if he had stepped on her foot, and then apologized, such a barrier would not have arisen. He would have become almost familiar to her.
Dmitry should have used the rule of automatism, it says: you saw the object of your addictions - smart, beautiful, sexy - one, two, three and go! It doesn't matter what phrase comes out of your mouth now. It is important to “discover” a person as early as possible, as soon as you notice him.
In this regard, we will analyze one more case (from the forum of the site lesley.en/forum; author - alex_bitch)
I'm on the subway. I see a girl in high heels, tall, white, slim, juicy and inaccessible. Just what I like!
Just approach her like that - the legs are braided, as they say, and the tongue does not turn.
I remember the rule of automatism! Everything should be spontaneous.
I have developed the ability to act and then think. Therefore, approaches to such girls are now absolutely not a problem for me. I don't see the difficulty. I spend my emotions on the task when I wind myself up before the approach: “I will do it! I am cool! If only because I will act now, and not stare blankly! I am sure: you need to do anything, just do not think how.
Therefore, that seductive girl that I noticed, I immediately accidentally push, gently, but strongly. She almost falls, I catch her. But something happened that I did not expect. The train jerked and we fell again.
I apologized for the awkwardness.
- Excuse me, please. Excuse me, I need to hit on the head so that my eyes learn to see. I hope I didn't hurt you? My God, how I'm sorry. Step on my foot, otherwise I won't be able to forgive myself. Either beat, or come up with your version of punishment!
“Nothing, nothing, you didn’t hurt me.
“Well, you are being modest. Such an asshole like me can pinch a healthy man, and you are a fragile girl. I want to make amends. Don't punish me, let me do it!
– What do you want to do?
“I'll tell you, but not here. I saw something in your appearance that urgently needs to be corrected. I can provide you with this service, which compensates for my awkwardness. I will help you, and for that you will forgive me.
Is it something to do with the hair?
- No…
At this moment the door opens...
- I…. But for this we need to get out of the car ...
Instantly, my arms gently wrapped around the girl's waist, and the two of us were outside the train, one might say, I pulled her out of there. Automation is the key to success. Not a second to decide on something. I am constantly acting, and therefore achieve success.
What was left for the girl, she asked:
- Well? I:
Actually, I lied to you. I fell specifically for you!
I smiled.
- What for?
I smiled again. Silently took out a mobile phone.
- Your phone number? She laughed.
“Ha-ha-ha-ha… What a cunning young man. What if you killed me?
I silently looked at her, with the expression of an offended child, who naively looks into her eyes and, as it were, says: “Do what I ask, please!”
She started to break down.
I don't give out my phone.
My face changed, as if she had said something nasty, and I sort of asked her in a harsh manner what she meant in order to scold her properly.
She was frightened and, as if apologizing for her stupidity, answered:
- Lena!
- I'm Alex.
The name must be unique. Not Sasha, but Alex. So they remember better, plus everything sounds more beautiful, more original!
I:
- Till.
This is how you can “open” a stranger!
Why can't the approach be scheduled?
The bear is sitting, catching fish. The fisherman thinks: “What is this bear sitting at my hole? Now I'll go up to him and say:
– Why are you sitting?
He will answer:
– I catch fish.
And then I'll tell him:
– Go, my hole is here!
And if he answers:
– Just sitting.
Then I told him:
– I'm fishing here - sit somewhere else!
He made up his mind, plucked up courage, went up to the bear and said:
– Hey bear...
And the bear to him, without turning around:
"Go to hell, man, don't bother me."
The man scratched the back of his head.
- Yes ... also an option!
Conclusion: You still can't figure out all the options!
We have been mentally preparing for something for a long time. We are getting ready to jump from a parachute - and we are worried. Yes, and our excitement before the jump sometimes exhausts us much more than the excitement during the jump. You're worried the day before, while boarding the plane. And the jump lasts seconds.
Remember exams. What a jitters in front of them, and at the exam you confidently answer questions and come out a winner from there.
The jitters of preparation for some event exhaust us, wind us up, and instead of confidence, excitement controls us in this state. It certainly bothers us. Therefore, we must learn to avoid it. In general, it should be removed, excluded.
The state at the beginning of communication with a person is much more important than what you tell him. You can never prepare for a communication that will flow in an incomprehensible direction. Well, like those - a man and a bear from a joke.
I propose a solution to this problem.
You see the goal - immediately act. Don't think for a minute what to do. One, two, three - and go. If you have nothing to say, say "Hello".
When you approach, think about anything EXCEPT THE APPROACH: about how spaceships plow the expanses of the ocean, or that soon it will be summer and you will go south for a vacation.
Let's say you are here, near the goal. What's on your mind? What are you thinking about? Are you looking at the girl's short skirt? Correct it and say: “Cool skirt, but sometimes it peels off a little.” And be bold! Bolder! Insolence is the second happiness in life. And life is one, therefore, there is nothing to lose. Do you think you can do something wrong? Well, what's the worst thing that's going to happen? And you do not so - with pleasure. Do NOT on purpose. Do not like everyone else! Most importantly: DO IT! It is better to regret what you have done than to sit and think in old age: “Where is my youth, where is my playfulness and prank. To return everything, eh ... sorry ... ". So that you don’t regret it later - come off now !!!
SEE, LIKE - DO. And the more unusual it is, the cooler it is.
Just in case, here is the Hello Conveyor method for you (case from lesley.ru/forum forum; by ser_jon)
I'm going with a friend from aikido training. He asks how to approach such a beautiful girl, in front of which her legs give way. She is blonde, very beautiful, looks very hot and passionate, tall, her breasts wide open, her skirt is red. In short, I love these.
I remember the rule of automatism. If now I will think about how I will do it, then I will not succeed. It is necessary to act spontaneously and adequately. Look Slav. I go to her. I speak to maintain the state of nature. It was a great workout blah blah blah. We think about anything but her. I remember the day...
As we pass her, I stop abruptly.
- Hey.
Correct eye contact. She nods her head, as if asking: “What do you want?”, With a stone mine on her face.
I turn away from her and start looking in the phone book.
After 5 seconds, I turn to her again:
- Hey. She answers:
- Hey.
It's still kind of gloomy. I again look in the phone book, around, ignoring her. I turn again:
- Hey.
She smiled.
- Hey! So, what is next?
I turn away and say nothing. I'm waiting. Then again I say:
- Hey.
She is already starting to talk to me.
- Do you know other words?
I ignore her, look in the phone book again. Playing intonation:
- Hellott...
I look at the unbuttoned blouse in the chest area. She was confused:
- Oh thank you! She buttoned up her blouse.
On the 9th such “hello”, she began to ask me where I was from and if I could say something more articulate. On the 10th she already asked me to say something. I said:
- Good evening:)
I looked straight into her eyes.
We got talking. My tongue began to tangle and my legs began to buckle. But still I restrained myself and poured out a few compliments loudly to her so that she was embarrassed and blushed. I said that I like her and I want to meet her.
She nodded, saying, well, and will you say anything other than the word "hello"?
And then she turns around. And there was a tall guy, a head taller than me, and wider:) He comes up to her.
- O! Kostya. This is Sasha.
I looked up at Kostya :)
- Very nice, Kostya. I'm Sasha.
I think how to resolve the situation. The girl is super, but the guy is clearly out of the box here. Decided to throw it all on her! And he said the following:
Olya, what a cool brother you have! You are so alike. She seems to have thought about it. But then she said:
- Yes, cool, only we sometimes fight with him, and so cool.
Kostya nods. I:
“I also have a sister. He:
- O! Will you introduce me? I:
- Certainly! Okay, it's time for me to go. Do you have a mobile phone? - I say and look at Kostya, and turn to Olya.
She is:
- Oh sure.
The guy thought that I was asking him for a mobile phone, and wanted to dictate it to me, but I turned to her, thereby leaving him confused.
I did it unintentionally - somehow it happened by itself.
- Okay, I'm off. Bye guys. She is:
Bye, call.
I never figured out who this guy was. He was very cultured and calm. I liked. Maybe it's her brother?
I'm afraid of the environment
In practice, I was often told that the fear of the environment is the most terrible of all fears. Well, how am I going to get acquainted when a bunch of people are looking at me? What should I do? I am afraid of the negative reaction of the people around me. What will they think? They are looking at me! How can I just walk up and talk to someone?
I am ready to help you only if you promise to do everything I tell you. It's up to you: do you want to change or do you want to continue being afraid?
An exercise
Designed for self-development, very enlightening; it is used in most personal growth trainings. Very common in Japan in sales and public speaking training. This exercise will beat all the nonsense out of you well and turn you into a real brave and liberated man. It is especially important to fulfill it if you have never performed in front of a large audience or you are afraid of the people around you, and the reaction of the people around you is very important for you.
Can you read poetry? Great opportunity to learn if not!
A task that requires:
1. Find a place full of people.
2. Exit to an elevated surface.
3. Read the verse. I recommend reading paper.
4. Ignore any reactions of the crowd. Both positive and negative. Do not communicate with anyone. Don't get distracted, no matter what happens. You are a robot reading a poem. Your task is to stare at the paper. At any cost, read to the end loudly and expressively!
5. And after that just walk away. Do not run away, but calmly, as if nothing had happened, retire.
To be effective, do this exercise for 2 weeks. Once every 2 days. You will see that in 2 weeks reading poetry on the street will become a regular thing for you. You should become do not care the reaction of others. Until that happens, practice recitation.
Now I give you a poem to read. A poem with a twist. You can tell the girls who come up that you wrote it yourself. So far, no one knows that this verse was written by my friend Andrey Kritchenkov at a lecture at the medical institute. He dedicated poems to the deans and their secret connections.
The love story of two deanches
Two stately obese ladies
We went into the basement, and with the intention
Great time to spend
We decided to drink vermouth.
Closed the armored doors
And, in tension, not believing,
That the working day is over
They opened a chest with wines.Crystal table, two glasses…
The sun shone on their hands
Aiming through the narrow window
Warm up the wine with your warmth.
Oh, how nice every lady
Whisper, moving your lips a little,
Sweet words for a friend.Oh how dizzy
From the kind warm words of a friend,
And how nice at your leisure
Drowning in mutual tender glances
And die, but not from poison,
And from the fire of hot lips.
They kept it a secret
Because the world is cruel, cruel and stupid,
Understand that these relationships.And here are two ladies at sunset
They lay down on a bed for debauchery.
One, which is larger, embraced
Head that's smaller and glared
With your burning lips
She has scarlet lips, yes,
That teeth are already gnashing.
Here is this force! This is power
Love desire and passion!
And everyone is submissive to this power.What happened there, oh my God!
With your gentle hand
Dean dean between the legs
Caresses, there is no rest for them.
And, putting a sweater under the head,
One lies, in ecstasy, melting,
Another tongue licks her clitoris
Oh oh sweetest momentsHow the snakes of their bodies rushed about,
And their hot breath
Intertwined with the darkness of the room.
Oh God, the bed is swaying,
It seemed to echo that passion
Love rampant power.Yes! Let what will be, then be!
O! How drunk they are on each other!
Spring, beating chest against chest!
A crimson sunset burns in the distance ...Like this sometimes, just a little
In the cellars rods and DEANS!!!A. S. Kritchenkov
Excuses
From a conversation between two guys:
“See that girl? Cool, right?
“Eh… yeah… how cool… But I don’t need it…”
It happens that you see a suitable person to meet, for example, a beautiful girl with long blond hair.
And as soon as the thought of getting to know each other was born, you begin to doubt your desire:
Well, if only we had more time...
- Oh, what a pity that we are not on the way ...
- Approach to get acquainted - it's kind of stupid ...
- What if he sends?
“I don't think I like her.
She doesn't seem to be perfect. She has a mole ... etc. Further, I think, you can not list. And it's so clear what excuses are. excuse- this is any thought, the meaning of which is that it is not necessary to approach and act. And nothing needs to be changed. Better what is, than something new. Excuses are due to laziness. In fact, their nature is clear to everyone. Any person resists going beyond the usual, beyond the comfort zone in order to act, to communicate with people around.
The rule of automatism blows all excuses to smithereens. You don't have time for them. It's just that when you're overclocked, you act without thinking. And when you don’t think, you act spontaneously, you don’t have time to dive into yourself and delve into yourself and the girl before approaching. Your condition is normal, you immediately communicate, everything is fine.
But what to do if the excuses still attacked you?
All excuses are divided into three types:
1) Excuse "readiness" - I'm not ready! I'm not like that.
2) Excuse "why", I don't need it! Still nothing will come of it.
3) The excuse “she doesn’t fit”, this is not ideal ... Her legs are not like that.
In a situation of a new acquaintance, difficulties scare you away, and your unconscious begins to sculpt excuses of one of three types.
Excuse "readiness": you think that you do not have enough experience, bad mood, appearance, physical condition, little money, no beautiful car or nowhere to meet now; you argue that "there will be a car - then, eh ..." or "I'll go to the beautician, and ah ..."
How to solve the problem with excuses of "readiness"?
Okay, let's say you're not really ready. When will you be ready? When will you sleep? When will you change yourself? When will you buy yourself a new car / apartment / car or will you read this book to the end and do all the exercises? No, don't fool yourself. You will always push the acquaintance, leave it for later, as these are excuses, my friend! You are lazy. I know that you have EVERYTHING you need to seduce the girl you like, HERE and NOW!
Therefore, there is only one way out - replace the excuses in the proposed way:
“I don’t have much experience” → Great, now I will build up experience and have fun!
“I’m in a bad mood” → I know who will raise it for me :)
“I don’t look good” → Let’s see what she has to say about this… “Hi, how do I look?”
“I am in poor physical shape” → In order to raise it, you can have sex. “Hello, let’s raise physical fitness and get into communication with organisms!”
“I don’t have much money” → I don’t need money to approach that pussy. Maybe she has money? I'll tell her: "Get me ice cream!"
“I don’t have a beautiful car” → What if she has one? "Do you have a car? I want you to ride me!”
“I have nowhere to meet” → Or maybe she has one, where? “Hi, do you have an apartment nearby? We really need her right now! Urgently!"
The fact is that the main thing is action. The effectiveness of these actions at this stage is not important to you. Correcting it is the topic of the other half of the book. Now it is important to do, no matter what, the main thing is to do. Do not think, but do! This is how the mindset should be! If you still haven't got your ass off the couch - do it now and go have some fun, I think you have a reason to!
An exercise
Think of the excuses that pop into your head and replace them with positive ones.
When you once again sculpt excuses when approaching, say positive wording out loud to the person you meet!
Example
1) "I don't look good" → Let's see what the person says about me.
- Hey. I look like?
- Disgusting!
- So, I was not mistaken, I am a freak! I need to get dressed.
2) “She seems too young for me” → Cool, this is a great chance to check
“Girl, excuse me, how old are you?”
As you can see, by turning the excuse to a positive attitude, you can come up with unusual approaches! Cool, yeah?
What is important in the exercise is not the reaction of the interlocutor, but your original actions.
Excuse "why": like “I don’t need”, why would I approach that person, well, let’s get to know each other, so what, although, most likely, we won’t get to know each other, well, it’s unlikely ...
General assessment of the situation - you do not want to believe in yourself. And I believe that you can! Because there are no people who can't. You can meet the best people and it is very interesting to communicate with them.
So replace:
"I can't" → I have to!
"I don't want" → I can!
"What for?" → So it is necessary!
Examples:
“Why am I going to approach that girl now?” → So it is necessary! “I can’t approach a pretty girl…” → I MUST! “I don’t want to stress…” → I can relax and go to her!
Excuse "she does not fit": it is also very easy to fight with her... If you see a girl and you like her for the first second, go ahead, immediately start attacking. Whether she is suitable or not, you will decide after you begin to communicate with her. A person often sees something that is not there when he needs to get rid of any actions. It is known that people have a good attitude - they don’t like me, which means she is a fool! This is a protective setting.
Often, for many, it works like this: “I need to strain, in my opinion, it is crooked-oblique.”
5 most important things to keep an eye on
We are who we are. And nothing can be done about us. We must be taken naturally. Have you ever thought that we can improve ourselves? There are ways to be very attractive to the opposite sex.
Now I will just tell you how to control your appearance and behavior during communication and seduction. First, let's get acquainted with five important external parameters of behavior. Pay attention to them when communicating with girls, and efficiency will increase.
The rules that the best of the best follow
I. Eye contact
The most important thing is to be able to look into the eyes.
"I can do it!" you say. Do you know how not to look away when you speak? You see, this is very important. When you talk to her, make sure that your gaze does not go away for a second during the acquaintance. Look only into her eyes. Eye contact is the secret of any seducer.
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The real stories of seduction that you will find in the book will help you to promote any girl for sex..
Think of them as a kind of cheat sheet, a step-by-step guide to action. You can, by the way, print out the stories that hooked you the most and peek into them with one eye during training! Keep in mind that my stories are not romantic verses of troubadours, but rather harsh and frank truth of life! Therefore, if you are shy and notorious, get rid of it immediately. By the way, these stories in the original version were an order of magnitude more frank. But, unfortunately, publishers are also people over whom (as well as over you too - don't flatter yourself!) The morality of the Society has worked. The ruthless hand of the editor has crossed out the hottest details of the stories, eh! Well, I hope that the editor some time later will feel my ideas and stop looking at the world through the prism of "good-bad"! After all, he willy-nilly read the book, which means that my words could not help but penetrate his blinkered brain! Well, you, my desperate reader, can read all these and other stories in a tougher version on our website.
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From the author
Who is this book for? The age of the reader does not matter! The techniques given in this book have been tested on people from 16 to 55 years of age. You may be ready to understand and accept them in a couple of years, or when you hit fifty dollars, or right now! Only your psychological age matters. When you pay attention to the fact that the time has come for new emotions in life and knowledge in the field of seduction, then you will immediately read this book! And when you suddenly want to “demolish your roof” and look at relationships differently, you will read and understand every letter that I wrote. One has only to wish you new women, and this book will be the best assistant to achieve your goals.
It will help you develop or improve your model of seduction and communication with women. But I warn you: this is an exciting publication - for men. It is completely contraindicated for women. So if you're a girl, close my book and put it back on the shelf! Reading it is extremely dangerous for you!
Now it's time to be honest!
Any man, and in particular you, at least once in your life have questions: How to behave with a woman? How to meet and charm her? Is it possible to evoke reciprocal feelings in her? How to make her fall in love with you and how, in the end, quickly translate the relationship into a horizontal plane? This book is designed to answer any such question. You can’t even imagine what a colossal effect those techniques that are described in detail in it have!
Goals, of course, may be different. Someone wants more sex, someone wants more prestigious girls, someone wants a permanent relationship, someone just wants variety. It doesn't matter what your personal goals are. This book will open up complete information about women, and you will know what to do with any beauty or regular girl you like, wherever you are. After all, to know and understand just one woman, you need to know and understand all women. And this opportunity is now open for you!
How to read this book?
If you read and understand only 20% of the book, your efficiency in communicating with women will increase significantly.
And if you read the whole book from cover to cover and complete all its tasks, then you yourself, your friends, mom, dad just don’t recognize you, you will change so much in life and communication! Of course, for the better.
Already after reading a few pages of the "Introduction" you will begin to feel and understand that your thinking is changing, your outlook on life is changing, and you yourself are becoming different - more energetic and inspired, as new women will give you a colossal flow of energy. It probably won't happen right away, but it will definitely happen!
What else can this book do?
Every man at least once in his life had difficulties in communicating with a particular woman. Some are abandoned by girls (wives), others leave girls (wives) themselves. Both are hard to deal with. The facts say: now in Moscow with a psychologist, in order to forget about the gap, a person leaves an average of one and a half bucks and spends at least a month (hard work and torment, thoughts, etc.) to restore strength.
While after reading my book in just a few hours a person is already fascinated by the process and methods of seduction, and exactly one day later he no longer remembers the former women, whatever they may be. Like this!
I wish you success in learning a new model of seducing women!
Foreword
The idea for this book came to me about two years ago. At the time, I had no idea what I would end up with. Because I had no idea how much I would learn in the process! Now I can confidently say that my book contains comprehensive information on how to be successful with women and get high in every sense of the word! And to be honest, I envy you a little! Because all you have to do is read my book. And you can’t even imagine how many people’s experience you are adopting, how many people have corrected and tested on themselves what you will learn here so easily!
I started writing the book in Israel, where I taught one of my trainings two years ago. Then the formation of the project "Style of Seduction" took place. We came up with this name together with my friend, a good coach and a cool Casanova Grisha! We looked at the students and saw that one was tall and slender, the other was round-shouldered, with a bald head. One personifies the macho style, beautiful, drives up to the girl, and she is ready for anything ... And the other is full and not very noticeable, it would seem that he has no chance. But what miracles happened to such "inconspicuous" at the training! We gasped when guys like that charmed girls that made everyone salivate. I remember one of the participants. He didn't look like a super-cool macho at all! Just a guy in ripped jeans with messy hair. He looked like a psycho from a psychiatric hospital, and suddenly he suffered! We found his own style. He walked up to one girl and gently ran his hand under her nose so that she turned around. And he, smiling, said: “Girl, let me invite you to teaa-atrrrr” ... Yes, he really looked like a theater director, and the girls began to leave phones for him, seeing him as a very interesting person. But before that, two coaches “rejected” him, because he clearly could not look like a macho and seduce the way they taught. He needed his own style of seduction! And when Grisha and I saw the result, we were terribly happy because we could help him. This guy left the training happy! I still remember the moments of his victory over himself, and for us it was a triumph. Then we decided that we would call the new project "Style of Seduction". Everyone has their own style. The technique is one, and the style is developed individually. You don't have to be like anyone. You will have everything in your own way.
A year later, our track record included about twelve trainings. About two hundred people successfully learned our system, talked about their successes and failures, and we brought the program to universality and perfection, constantly changing techniques and seeing what happens. And a year later, “Style of Seduction” became the most effective seduction training, giving an effect in a few days. Such a result cannot be called accidental, since this was preceded by six months of work and sleepless nights. Our goal was to make the best, most professional instrumental seduction training ever.
After one of the publications of the project methods in one of the Moscow magazines, the owner of the training company Dima contacted me. He wanted a private consultation because he was impressed with the techniques that had been published. I met with him and told him everything that I taught at the training. Everything that we tested on Dima, we optimized again. The goal was this: to teach seduction as soon as possible, to create a two-day course, so that after attending it, the result would be visible, as they say, on the face! At that time, at any training it was necessary to study for a long time and study a lot of "water", psychology and all sorts of unnecessary things that were not related to the topic of seduction. After testing on several groups, we got an excellent result. And, most importantly, very quickly! And now, for a year and a half, the training has been going on according to a program that practically does not change, and the results of the participants are still as stunning. Other trainers still don't believe that seduction can be taught in two days.
"How did you achieve this?" they asked.
We simply removed everything unnecessary from the program, all psychology and NLP, and left only the tools of seduction, simplifying them by an order of magnitude. And it works better! Everything ingenious is simple! Methods should be easy and accessible to everyone without exception.
I wrote my book in the same way. Everything that you will see here will concern strategies, beliefs and states in seduction, and nothing more. The science of seduction is beautiful without the admixture of psychology.
The effectiveness of the methods amazed us constantly and still surprises us. I remember how a demonstrative case happened at a training in Rostov-on-Don. One guy was constantly wondering how to sleep with a girl he has known for 18 years. During all this time, he could not find an approach to her. When he found out one of our sex divorce strategies, he put it down 10 minutes after the next meeting started. The whole group was shocked at how easy it worked. And in the future there were many such examples. The point is that many of my former students have now opened their own schools with the same approach. About a dozen schools in Moscow have sprung up like mushrooms after the rain. And their approach is based on the concept of our project. We are proud that our students develop so rapidly and begin to successfully teach others.
In 2005 I opened my site lesley.ru and the Institute of Extreme Communication, in 2003 a seduction site. The site fastseduction.ru now has about fifty articles written on the topic of seduction and the study of various approaches in this art. A community has formed around the site and the project, which constantly gathers and spends time together. The most interesting thing is that in our party there are people of different ages. For example, our youngest participant is 18 years old, and our oldest is 55. It's great that we managed to unite people so different in age and status in life and society. We meet people of all possible specialties - businessmen, deputies, academicians - which greatly contributes to the development of this most interesting community of women lovers!
Our hangouts started advertising magazines and TV. On their own initiative, because they like this topic. Yes, it is interesting to all people, and we did not have to make our way to public fame for a long time - the media found us themselves. In 2004, several methods of the project were published in the press, and the trainers of the project were filmed on various central TV channels.
Similar hangouts now exist in several major cities in Russia and Israel. They have been developing for three years and are gaining momentum.
At the beginning of 2005, I started training women because I realized that our methods are applicable to people of both sexes. It is only important to take into account specific goals. Although some women manage to get along at the same training with men. And I’ll note one more thing: with the advent of girls at our trainings, efficiency has increased. Initially, we were afraid that they would embarrass the men, but, fortunately, we were wrong in our predictions. At each training, a trusting friendly atmosphere is created, and the girls themselves often advise the guys on what to change in themselves and how best to act in order to get to know and seduce a particular person. And this circumstance plays an important role, because the help of a woman in such a matter is very useful, as well as vice versa. Our participants call each other "fighting girlfriends" and "fighting friends" among themselves. They absolutely calmly go to clubs together. There they come off in full to satisfy their interests and achieve victory in relations with certain persons of the opposite sex. They simply “shoot” together and leave, and in the morning they exchange impressions. In other words, do not lose "feedback". This is how we live together. And nice :)
Thanks
I thank my parents for their direct participation in my birth, which undoubtedly helped the creation of this book.
I would also like to thank my coaching team and partners, people with whom I spent many years of practical training, for helping to create the book.
I express my special gratitude to the researcher of the central research laboratory of the Mogilev State Medical University Kritchenkov Andrey Sergeevich for the research carried out in order to confirm and scientifically substantiate the main premises of the book that I received in practice. I thank his laboratory for having withstood all these experiments :)
I want to express my special gratitude to all the girls, communication with whom inspired me to create these techniques, and to a large number of those girls with whom we lit and ignite together!
Special thanks to my friend Dima Koveshnikov for his support and participation in my research, who went with me for many days from the very beginning to the present day!
Special thanks to the owner of a business training company in Moscow, NLP trainer Dmitry L. for professional assistance in the development of trainers of the Seduction Style project and constant coaching!
I thank Kirill Sekretny for providing his resources, life experience to develop the structure of this book.
Special thanks to those 256 girls in clubs and cafes in Moscow, who from January 28 to February 5, 2005 agreed to kiss their girlfriend in French. This experiment has brought invaluable benefits to the statistics for the material "Seduction for sex of two or more girls"!
Special thanks to my friend Masha Sokolova (Moscow) for her help in a systematic study of the topic of seducing two girls into a “threesome”.
Thanks to Vadim Sova for those positive memories of the adventures that we had with him!
Thanks to Feda Moore for being a cool friend all this time, and for the memories that remained from our joint adventures!
Thanks to Misha Patriot for his help in creating and studying the topic of dating and attracting very beautiful girls.
I thank my friend, the organizer of the trainings, Grisha Kogan (Tel Aviv) for the rare emotions that we experienced there together during the practice and in the process of teaching people.
I thank the 40 groups of the Seduction Style project, all my students and students that I had, for the fact that it was your successes, your practice and activity that allowed me to test the methods of seduction and now publish in the book the most effective of them - those that been tested empirically on such a huge number of people.
I thank Fedya Ephraim (Canada) for leaving so many correct thoughts in my head.
I thank Andrey Galkin for assistance in the development of the material.
I thank all my friends for great memories and constant joint practice.
I thank all the women of the world for being you and for being so wonderful!
I thank my laptop for withstanding all the bullying at the time of the creation of this book (for 2 years) and thank the keyboard, which was “erased” twice, but still withstood the development of this material!
Who am i?
You think I'm a psychologist with a bushy beard and bulky glasses? No, I didn't guess. I'm not a psychologist at all. Although I have a second specialty coach. But it appeared to me already after I began to conduct seminars on seduction. I am a man like you and many others. It's just that I myself spent a lot of time practicing new acquaintances and seducing women. I also broke off and I was not lucky! I trained with my friends for eight hours a day to learn how to get cool with the most beautiful girls. We were such fanatics, which, probably, history did not know yet. We did 50 sets an hour and seduced three new women a day. It was a real frenzy. Only with such fanaticism can one understand the topic well. I have come a long way to teach myself and my friends the art of seduction. Now I have no doubt that only such a person has the moral right to write such a book. A friend of mine told me how he came to a psychologist to learn how to meet girls. The psychologist gave him some advice. Then a friend asked a psychologist: “Have you ever tried to get acquainted in this way?” He replied: “No, I don’t need it!”. Question: how can a person who has not tried anything himself teach something?
So, rest assured that in this book I have tried every technique on myself and on several hundred of my students. But at the same time, you still doubt the veracity of what I said. Check everything that I wrote here, knowing in advance that everything works, and knowing that it has been tested by thousands of people, that you are not the first. Practice a lot at your pleasure, and only then can you achieve a high level of "flying".
This book is not a theoretical discourse on how to communicate with women. Everything that is described here has been tested by life and works 200%.
Chapter I
Introduction
Why are we doing this?
Every woman or every man at least once in his life thinks about how to find and seduce the best partner.
Every man or woman has a standard idea of how this should happen. Let's see where it comes from.
We live in society and develop in society. Who tells us how the acquaintance and seduction of girls takes place?
Mom, dad, newspapers, TV, media, books, etc.
These are standard beliefs and strategies that are embedded in us by society.
What are these strategies?
1. Find an object.
It's either going to a club, or getting to know each other through friends, or through the Internet, or something else. You can also accidentally meet the desired object. For example, in places of rest - in a restaurant or cafe. Women look for men where there are many of them, for example, in fitness clubs. Well, as a rule, in ordinary clubs. But most often women go to ordinary clubs in order to play Dynamo. The reasons for this game I will tell a little later.
2. Think about whether I need it.
It often happens that a man is simply too lazy to do any body movements, he “swings” for a very long time and as a result comes to the conclusion that he doesn’t really need a girl. In his decision, he strengthens himself, either by looking for the girl’s non-existent shortcomings, or based on a situation that allegedly does not have to get acquainted, or because of his own unpreparedness at the moment, etc.
3. Think about how to act.
Since the man has made a decision, now he needs to act. He says to himself: "Yes, I need it." And then: "What to do now?" And most often he does not have a single thought in his head about what exactly needs to be done. Because there are fears: “And if he sends?” Or: “And how to behave further if you agree?” etc. Therefore, often a man eventually changes his mind. This process for some occurs in seconds, for some it takes 10-15 minutes. Depending on the situation and the girl. Even more often it happens like this: "How beautiful she is, now if I were richer / handsome / better dressed / the car would be different / bold / impudent / ... / ... ". And there can be a thousand such “ifs”! And these "ifs" lead to the fact that he does not dare to approach and get acquainted. In the book, we will talk about how to break this chain of "if" automatically.
Suppose he nevertheless agreed to approach her (in one case out of ten, as a rule). So…
4. Stupid phrase "You can meet"?
When I ask the women at the training what is customary to do in this case, they answer in chorus: “reject”. If a man is stubborn, then he will continue to insist and, if the woman is initially positive, after a few "no" (in the style of "yes") she will begin to communicate with him. But only if it is initially located. If not, then the man has no chance. And we will continue to talk about how to act in such cases in order to succeed without fail.
Let's pretend she didn't send him off after all.
5. Exchange of phrases, conversation.
There is a conversation, at the end of which he tries to take the phone from her. In one case out of ten, she still gives him a number. Let's say it happened. What does the man do next?
6. He thinks for a long time and decides: to call - not to call?
You will laugh. Some men go months before they decide to call her. Moreover, some men torment women with calls and silent messages on the phone. This, of course, is a clinic, but I came across one client who, at the age of 35, did this if the girl was very indifferent to him. In general, such behavior does not depend on age, but on life experience with women. You can be 25 years old, and you have more life experience than a fifty-fifty man.
Let's imagine that after all the man decided to call the woman.
7. Call. Date invitation.
He will torment her for a long time with a telephone conversation and finding out how she is doing. And then he still invites her to meet. I'm talking about a man with little experience in dealing with women, who had no more than a dozen of them in his life. They usually do just that.
8. Date.
The maximum that he will be allowed is to touch her hand. On this date, he pays for the girl, takes her to a cafe, feeds her, gives water to drink, gives gifts, etc.
9. Date with a kiss.
He will probably be able to afford to kiss her and give her flowers.
The girls call it the flower-candy period. One girl at the training said: “Sometimes you think how much you want to start having sex, but the guy is dumb and bombards with flowers.” This is a case of misunderstanding when a woman wants sex, and a guy thinks that all girls want a relationship. In one case out of ten, she allows herself to be kissed.
10. A date with a showdown.
A man, perhaps, will offer her to "show things off" or try to confess his love. After that, you can already move on to sex, and even then not immediately. A woman can still mock him for a couple of dates, torment him. And then change your mind and say no.
11. Date with sex.
Well, in one case out of ten, sex happens!
Yes... what can I say. A guy with such a seduction strategy has little chance of success, but if he is stubborn, he will still achieve a girl!
What does the girl do in response to his actions?
1. Acquaintance.
The girl tries to refuse dating, but if a man attracts her, she agrees.
2. "Dynamo".
The girl tries to send him off and does it in different ways. The game "dynamo" is very common among beautiful women. I already mentioned her. This is a game that any attractive person likes to play. This game increases her self-esteem and self-confidence, just like any seduced girl increases self-esteem for any male. The reasons for this are instincts, which we will talk about later.
If the male is persistent enough, then the girl begins to "be led" to his manipulations and enjoy it herself, she gives the phone and agrees to a meeting.
3. Excuses.
When he calls, she will try to refuse a date. And will do it in any way. Girls do not do this only when the guy has a hard voice, but, in any case, any woman, by virtue of her nature, has the desire to refuse the meeting, no matter how much she likes the guy. We will now examine the instinctive causes of such behavior.
Let's say he acted correctly and pulled her out on a date (by the way, she may not come yet, well, we'll omit that for now). So, the girl came on a date.
4. Date.
She will try to answer “no” to any sharp, unexpectedly active offer or actions of a man, no matter how much she herself would like. She tries to avoid being touched. In delicate form or hard. But she will agree to a man touching her only if the man proves to her that he has the right to do so.
5. Date with a kiss.
When a man tries to kiss a girl, she may try to sneak out if she is not yet aroused enough. If, nevertheless, he aroused her and she kisses him, then, as one of the women participating in the training correctly said: “She will raise the base and compare who kissed her before, evaluating the kiss of this man.”
6. Date with sex.
When a man tries to get close to a woman, she will act depending on whether he has proven that he can be trusted with the care of offspring, whether he has given her a ton of gifts, etc. If so, then she may be engaged with him sex. And will do it on holidays. If not, then the girl's consciousness will try to resist sex, no matter how much she wants it. And only if the man turns out to be a persistent enough male, she will give herself to him.
Where does this pattern of behavior come from? And in general, why such a model? This is a standard generally accepted model that does not cause any moral and ethical complaints. But why? After all, for a man this is a long and painful "road in the dunes", but it would also be easier for a woman to act differently. So why isn't this happening? Unfortunately, this is accepted all over the world, not only in Russia. And if you pay attention, then in animals the system is actually about the same. This is a model that does not go beyond the boundaries of generally accepted moral norms. Therefore, it has the right to exist and has existed for millions of years. After watching the program “In the Animal World”, you will see how the ritual of “courtship during the mating season” among walruses and seals is very similar to the model of courtship between a man and a woman.
What will happen if we act not according to the scenario of this model, but go the other way? What will society say if a woman gives herself to a guy on a first date? “She is a girl of easy virtue.”
The girl, of course, often would like to do this. But conventional morality holds her back. And for this reason, girls do not give up on the first date. This is bad.
Let's look at the definition of morality. Morality is a list of norms and restrictions for human behavior in society. How is it regulated, where and why does it arise?
But the fact is that morality actually has a non-human nature. That is, morality was not invented by a person, since morality exists not only in human society.
And scientists received confirmation of this in the 70s, when they discovered the so-called "natural morality" in the animal world. I will give a few examples of traditional morality in the animal world.
Animals of the same species never kill each other. In deer, during a fight, when the enemy exposes his side to him and the deer can gouge him, instinctively his head turns away - he pulls back his antlers so as not to gouge the enemy's side. And this despite the fact that the males have a real fight! Cobras, snakes do not use a poisonous tooth in a fight against each other. But why?
The fact is that morality is an invention of nature that exists in order for the species to survive! If there is a mistake in the mechanism of action of natural morality, then the whole species will die out. That is why there are standard norms and restrictions.
Now back to the theme of the seduction model.
Why are there so many seemingly unnecessary things in the standard model?
The fact is that, by nature, any female must sooner or later conceive a baby. And when this happens, the female becomes helpless, because she needs to give birth to a baby, try to protect him and feed him. How can she deal with all this alone? - Only by tying a male to himself, who will be able to protect her and the cub!
And if she fails to tie a male to herself, then it will be more difficult to survive. Therefore, the stereotypical behavior of the female is quite natural. She just needs a male to protect her offspring. I warn you: for now we are talking only about instincts.
At the level of instincts, everywhere in nature, females try to bind one of the males. This is the first obvious strategy. In this regard, females always instinctively check the male in several ways:
Will he be able to protect her?
Will he feed her?
- will he take care of her and help;
Does he have a roof over his head?
Each time, a female of any kind, including a woman, checks to what extent the male corresponds to her instinctive requirements. As soon as she feels that the male is worthy of becoming a parent and can raise children, she makes a decision: it is not a sin to give herself up. Obviously, right?
Alex Leslie
Life without panties. The skill of seduction. Tin as it is
How to meet a girl
How to fall in love with anyone
What can you do on a date
From dating to sex - a couple of hours
How to 100% seduce two girls at once
How to arrange debauchery and realize any dreams
Lots of real stories and more-a lot of delicious things!
The real stories of seduction that you will find in the book will help you to promote any girl for sex..
Think of them as a kind of cheat sheet, a step-by-step guide to action. You can, by the way, print out the stories that hooked you the most and peek into them with one eye during training! Keep in mind that my stories are not romantic verses of troubadours, but rather harsh and frank truth of life! Therefore, if you are shy and notorious, get rid of it immediately. By the way, these stories in the original version were an order of magnitude more frank. But, unfortunately, publishers are also people over whom (as well as over you too - don't flatter yourself!) The morality of the Society has worked. The ruthless hand of the editor has crossed out the hottest details of the stories, eh! Well, I hope that the editor some time later will feel my ideas and stop looking at the world through the prism of "good-bad"! After all, he willy-nilly read the book, which means that my words could not help but penetrate his blinkered brain! Well, you, my desperate reader, can read all these and other stories in a tougher version on our website.
Who is this book for? The age of the reader does not matter! The techniques given in this book have been tested on people from 16 to 55 years of age. You may be ready to understand and accept them in a couple of years, or when you hit fifty dollars, or right now! Only your psychological age matters. When you pay attention to the fact that the time has come for new emotions in life and knowledge in the field of seduction, then you will immediately read this book! And when you suddenly want to “demolish your roof” and look at relationships differently, you will read and understand every letter that I wrote. One has only to wish you new women, and this book will be the best assistant to achieve your goals.
It will help you develop or improve your model of seduction and communication with women. But I warn you: this is an exciting publication - for men. It is completely contraindicated for women. So if you're a girl, close my book and put it back on the shelf! Reading it is extremely dangerous for you!
Now it's time to be honest!
Any man, and in particular you, at least once in your life have questions: How to behave with a woman? How to meet and charm her? Is it possible to evoke reciprocal feelings in her? How to make her fall in love with you and how, in the end, quickly translate the relationship into a horizontal plane? This book is designed to answer any such question. You can’t even imagine what a colossal effect those techniques that are described in detail in it have!
Goals, of course, may be different. Someone wants more sex, someone wants more prestigious girls, someone wants a permanent relationship, someone just wants variety. It doesn't matter what your personal goals are. This book will open up complete information about women, and you will know what to do with any beauty or regular girl you like, wherever you are. After all, to know and understand just one woman, you need to know and understand all women. And this opportunity is now open for you!
If you read and understand only 20% of the book, your efficiency in communicating with women will increase significantly.
And if you read the whole book from cover to cover and complete all its tasks, then you yourself, your friends, mom, dad just don’t recognize you, you will change so much in life and communication! Of course, for the better.
Already after reading a few pages of the "Introduction" you will begin to feel and understand that your thinking is changing, your outlook on life is changing, and you yourself are becoming different - more energetic and inspired, as new women will give you a colossal flow of energy. It probably won't happen right away, but it will definitely happen!
What else can this book do?
Every man at least once in his life had difficulties in communicating with a particular woman. Some are abandoned by girls (wives), others leave girls (wives) themselves. Both are hard to deal with. The facts say: now in Moscow with a psychologist, in order to forget about the gap, a person leaves an average of one and a half bucks and spends at least a month (hard work and torment, thoughts, etc.) to restore strength.
While after reading my book in just a few hours a person is already fascinated by the process and methods of seduction, and exactly one day later he no longer remembers the former women, whatever they may be. Like this!
I wish you success in learning a new model of seducing women!
Foreword
The idea for this book came to me about two years ago. At the time, I had no idea what I would end up with. Because I had no idea how much I would learn in the process! Now I can confidently say that my book contains comprehensive information on how to be successful with women and get high in every sense of the word! And to be honest, I envy you a little! Because all you have to do is read my book. And you can’t even imagine how many people’s experience you are adopting, how many people have corrected and tested on themselves what you will learn here so easily!
I started writing the book in Israel, where I taught one of my trainings two years ago. Then the formation of the project "Style of Seduction" took place. We came up with this name together with my friend, a good coach and a cool Casanova Grisha! We looked at the students and saw that one was tall and slender, the other was round-shouldered, with a bald head. One personifies the macho style, beautiful, drives up to the girl, and she is ready for anything ... And the other is full and not very noticeable, it would seem that he has no chance. But what miracles happened to such "inconspicuous" at the training! We gasped when guys like that charmed girls that made everyone salivate. I remember one of the participants. He didn't look like a super-cool macho at all! Just a guy in ripped jeans with messy hair. He looked like a psycho from a psychiatric hospital, and suddenly he suffered! We found his own style. He walked up to one girl and gently ran his hand under her nose so that she turned around. And he, smiling, said: “Girl, let me invite you to teaa-atrrrr” ... Yes, he really looked like a theater director, and the girls began to leave phones for him, seeing him as a very interesting person. But before that, two coaches “rejected” him, because he clearly could not look like a macho and seduce the way they taught. He needed his own style of seduction! And when Grisha and I saw the result, we were terribly happy because we could help him. This guy left the training happy! I still remember the moments of his victory over himself, and for us it was a triumph. Then we decided that we would call the new project "Style of Seduction". Everyone has their own style. The technique is one, and the style is developed individually. You don't have to be like anyone. You will have everything in your own way.
A year later, our track record included about twelve trainings. About two hundred people successfully learned our system, talked about their successes and failures, and we brought the program to universality and perfection, constantly changing techniques and seeing what happens. And a year later, “Style of Seduction” became the most effective seduction training, giving an effect in a few days. Such a result cannot be called accidental, since this was preceded by six months of work and sleepless nights. Our goal was to make the best, most professional instrumental seduction training ever.
After one of the publications of the project methods in one of the Moscow magazines, the owner of the training company Dima contacted me. He wanted a private consultation because he was impressed with the techniques that had been published. I met with him and told him everything that I taught at the training. Everything that we tested on Dima, we optimized again. The goal was this: to teach seduction as soon as possible, to create a two-day course, so that after attending it, the result would be visible, as they say, on the face! At that time, at any training it was necessary to study for a long time and study a lot of "water", psychology and all sorts of unnecessary things that were not related to the topic of seduction. After testing on several groups, we got an excellent result. And, most importantly, very quickly! And now, for a year and a half, the training has been going on according to a program that practically does not change, and the results of the participants are still as stunning. Other trainers still don't believe that seduction can be taught in two days.
"How did you achieve this?" they asked.
We simply removed everything unnecessary from the program, all psychology and NLP, and left only the tools of seduction, simplifying them by an order of magnitude. And it works better! Everything ingenious is simple! Methods should be easy and accessible to everyone without exception.
The effectiveness of the methods amazed us constantly and still surprises us. I remember how a demonstrative case happened at a training in Rostov-on-Don. One guy was constantly wondering how to sleep with a girl he has known for 18 years. During all this time, he could not find an approach to her. When he found out one of our sex divorce strategies, he put it down 10 minutes after the next meeting started. The whole group was shocked at how easy it worked. And in the future there were many such examples. The point is that many of my former students have now opened their own schools with the same approach. About a dozen schools in Moscow have sprung up like mushrooms after the rain. And their approach is based on the concept of our project. We are proud that our students develop so rapidly and begin to successfully teach others.
In 2005 I opened my site lesley.ru and the Institute of Extreme Communication, in 2003 a seduction site. The site fastseduction.ru now has about fifty articles written on the topic of seduction and the study of various approaches in this art. A community has formed around the site and the project, which constantly gathers and spends time together. The most interesting thing is that in our party there are people of different ages. For example, our youngest participant is 18 years old, and our oldest is 55. It's great that we managed to unite people so different in age and status in life and society. We meet people of all possible specialties - businessmen, deputies, academicians - which greatly contributes to the development of this most interesting community of women lovers!
Similar hangouts now exist in several major cities in Russia and Israel. They have been developing for three years and are gaining momentum.
At the beginning of 2005, I started training women because I realized that our methods are applicable to people of both sexes. It is only important to take into account specific goals. Although some women manage to get along at the same training with men. And I’ll note one more thing: with the advent of girls at our trainings, efficiency has increased. Initially, we were afraid that they would embarrass the men, but, fortunately, we were wrong in our predictions. At each training, a trusting friendly atmosphere is created, and the girls themselves often advise the guys on what to change in themselves and how best to act in order to get to know and seduce a particular person. And this circumstance plays an important role, because the help of a woman in such a matter is very useful, as well as vice versa. Our participants call each other "fighting girlfriends" and "fighting friends" among themselves. They absolutely calmly go to clubs together. There they come off in full to satisfy their interests and achieve victory in relations with certain persons of the opposite sex. They simply “shoot” together and leave, and in the morning they exchange impressions. In other words, do not lose "feedback". This is how we live together. And nice :)
Thanks
I thank my parents for their direct participation in my birth, which undoubtedly helped the creation of this book.
I would also like to thank my coaching team and partners, people with whom I spent many years of practical training, for helping to create the book.
I express my special gratitude to the researcher of the central research laboratory of the Mogilev State Medical University Kritchenkov Andrey Sergeevich for the research carried out in order to confirm and scientifically substantiate the main premises of the book that I received in practice. I thank his laboratory for having withstood all these experiments :)
I want to express my special gratitude to all the girls, communication with whom inspired me to create these techniques, and to a large number of those girls with whom we lit and ignite together!
Special thanks to my friend Dima Koveshnikov for his support and participation in my research, who went with me for many days from the very beginning to the present day!
Special thanks to the owner of a business training company in Moscow, NLP trainer Dmitry L. for professional assistance in the development of trainers of the Seduction Style project and constant coaching!
I thank Kirill Sekretny for providing his resources, life experience to develop the structure of this book.
Special thanks to those 256 girls in clubs and cafes in Moscow, who from January 28 to February 5, 2005 agreed to kiss their girlfriend in French. This experiment has brought invaluable benefits to the statistics for the material "Seduction for sex of two or more girls"!
Special thanks to my friend Masha Sokolova (Moscow) for her help in a systematic study of the topic of seducing two girls into a “threesome”.
Thanks to Vadim Sova for those positive memories of the adventures that we had with him!
Thanks to Feda Moore for being a cool friend all this time, and for the memories that remained from our joint adventures!
Thanks to Misha Patriot for his help in creating and studying the topic of dating and attracting very beautiful girls.
I thank my friend, the organizer of the trainings, Grisha Kogan (Tel Aviv) for the rare emotions that we experienced there together during the practice and in the process of teaching people.
I thank the 40 groups of the Seduction Style project, all my students and students that I had, for the fact that it was your successes, your practice and activity that allowed me to test the methods of seduction and now publish in the book the most effective of them - those that been tested empirically on such a huge number of people.
I thank Fedya Ephraim (Canada) for leaving so many correct thoughts in my head.
I thank Andrey Galkin for assistance in the development of the material.
I thank all my friends for great memories and constant joint practice.
I thank all the women of the world for being you and for being so wonderful!
I thank my laptop for withstanding all the bullying at the time of the creation of this book (for 2 years) and thank the keyboard, which was “erased” twice, but still withstood the development of this material!
Who am i?
You think I'm a psychologist with a bushy beard and bulky glasses? No, I didn't guess. I'm not a psychologist at all. Although I have a second specialty coach. But it appeared to me already after I began to conduct seminars on seduction. I am a man like you and many others. It's just that I myself spent a lot of time practicing new acquaintances and seducing women. I also broke off and I was not lucky! I trained with my friends for eight hours a day to learn how to get cool with the most beautiful girls. We were such fanatics, which, probably, history did not know yet. We did 50 sets an hour and seduced three new women a day. It was a real frenzy. Only with such fanaticism can one understand the topic well. I have come a long way to teach myself and my friends the art of seduction. Now I have no doubt that only such a person has the moral right to write such a book. A friend of mine told me how he came to a psychologist to learn how to meet girls. The psychologist gave him some advice. Then a friend asked a psychologist: “Have you ever tried to get acquainted in this way?” He replied: “No, I don’t need it!”. Question: how can a person who has not tried anything himself teach something?
So, rest assured that in this book I have tried every technique on myself and on several hundred of my students. But at the same time, you still doubt the veracity of what I said. Check everything that I wrote here, knowing in advance that everything works, and knowing that it has been tested by thousands of people, that you are not the first. Practice a lot at your pleasure, and only then can you achieve a high level of "flying".
Introduction
Why are we doing this?
Every woman or every man at least once in his life thinks about how to find and seduce the best partner.
Every man or woman has a standard idea of how this should happen. Let's see where it comes from.
We live in society and develop in society. Who tells us how the acquaintance and seduction of girls takes place?
Mom, dad, newspapers, TV, media, books, etc.
What are these strategies?
1. Find an object.
It's either going to a club, or getting to know each other through friends, or through the Internet, or something else. You can also accidentally meet the desired object. For example, in places of rest - in a restaurant or cafe. Women look for men where there are many of them, for example, in fitness clubs. Well, as a rule, in ordinary clubs. But most often women go to ordinary clubs in order to play Dynamo. The reasons for this game I will tell a little later.
2. Think about whether I need it.
It often happens that a man is simply too lazy to do any body movements, he “swings” for a very long time and as a result comes to the conclusion that he doesn’t really need a girl. In his decision, he strengthens himself, either by looking for the girl’s non-existent shortcomings, or based on a situation that allegedly does not have to get acquainted, or because of his own unpreparedness at the moment, etc.
3. Think about how to act.
Since the man has made a decision, now he needs to act. He says to himself: "Yes, I need it." And then: "What to do now?" And most often he does not have a single thought in his head about what exactly needs to be done. Because there are fears: “And if he sends?” Or: “And how to behave further if you agree?” etc. Therefore, often a man eventually changes his mind. This process for some occurs in seconds, for some it takes 10-15 minutes. Depending on the situation and the girl. Even more often it happens like this: "How beautiful she is, now if I were richer / handsome / better dressed / the car would be different / bold / impudent / ... / ... ". And there can be a thousand such “ifs”! And these "ifs" lead to the fact that he does not dare to approach and get acquainted. In the book, we will talk about how to break this chain of "if" automatically.
Suppose he nevertheless agreed to approach her (in one case out of ten, as a rule). So…
4. Stupid phrase "You can meet"?
When I ask the women at the training what is customary to do in this case, they answer in chorus: “reject”. If a man is stubborn, then he will continue to insist and, if the woman is initially positive, after a few "no" (in the style of "yes") she will begin to communicate with him. But only if it is initially located. If not, then the man has no chance. And we will continue to talk about how to act in such cases in order to succeed without fail.
Let's pretend she didn't send him off after all.
5. Exchange of phrases, conversation.
There is a conversation, at the end of which he tries to take the phone from her. In one case out of ten, she still gives him a number. Let's say it happened. What does the man do next?
6. He thinks for a long time and decides: to call - not to call?
You will laugh. Some men go months before they decide to call her. Moreover, some men torment women with calls and silent messages on the phone. This, of course, is a clinic, but I came across one client who, at the age of 35, did this if the girl was very indifferent to him. In general, such behavior does not depend on age, but on life experience with women. You can be 25 years old, and you have more life experience than a fifty-fifty man.
Let's imagine that after all the man decided to call the woman.
7. Call. Date invitation.
He will torment her for a long time with a telephone conversation and finding out how she is doing. And then he still invites her to meet. I'm talking about a man with little experience in dealing with women, who had no more than a dozen of them in his life. They usually do just that.
8. Date.
The maximum that he will be allowed is to touch her hand. On this date, he pays for the girl, takes her to a cafe, feeds her, gives water to drink, gives gifts, etc.
9. Date with a kiss.
He will probably be able to afford to kiss her and give her flowers.
The girls call it the flower-candy period. One girl at the training said: “Sometimes you think how much you want to start having sex, but the guy is dumb and bombards with flowers.” This is a case of misunderstanding when a woman wants sex, and a guy thinks that all girls want a relationship. In one case out of ten, she allows herself to be kissed.
If the male is persistent enough, then the girl begins to "be led" to his manipulations and enjoy it herself, she gives the phone and agrees to a meeting.
3. Excuses.
When he calls, she will try to refuse a date. And will do it in any way. Girls do not do this only when the guy has a hard voice, but, in any case, any woman, by virtue of her nature, has the desire to refuse the meeting, no matter how much she likes the guy. We will now examine the instinctive causes of such behavior.
Let's say he acted correctly and pulled her out on a date (by the way, she may not come yet, well, we'll omit that for now). So, the girl came on a date.
4. Date.
She will try to answer “no” to any sharp, unexpectedly active offer or actions of a man, no matter how much she herself would like. She tries to avoid being touched. In delicate form or hard. But she will agree to a man touching her only if the man proves to her that he has the right to do so.
5. Date with a kiss.
When a man tries to kiss a girl, she may try to sneak out if she is not yet aroused enough. If, nevertheless, he aroused her and she kisses him, then, as one of the women participating in the training correctly said: “She will raise the base and compare who kissed her before, evaluating the kiss of this man.”
6. Date with sex.
When a man tries to get close to a woman, she will act depending on whether he has proven that he can be trusted with the care of offspring, whether he has given her a ton of gifts, etc. If so, then she may be engaged with him sex. And will do it on holidays. If not, then the girl's consciousness will try to resist sex, no matter how much she wants it. And only if the man turns out to be a persistent enough male, she will give herself to him.
Where does this pattern of behavior come from? And in general, why such a model? This is a standard generally accepted model that does not cause any moral and ethical complaints. But why? After all, for a man this is a long and painful "road in the dunes", but it would also be easier for a woman to act differently. So why isn't this happening? Unfortunately, this is accepted all over the world, not only in Russia. And if you pay attention, then in animals the system is actually about the same. This is a model that does not go beyond the boundaries of generally accepted moral norms. Therefore, it has the right to exist and has existed for millions of years. After watching the program “In the Animal World”, you will see how the ritual of “courtship during the mating season” among walruses and seals is very similar to the model of courtship between a man and a woman.
What will happen if we act not according to the scenario of this model, but go the other way? What will society say if a woman gives herself to a guy on a first date? “She is a girl of easy virtue.”
The girl, of course, often would like to do this. But conventional morality holds her back. And for this reason, girls do not give up on the first date. This is bad.
Let's look at the definition of morality. Morality is a list of norms and restrictions for human behavior in society. How is it regulated, where and why does it arise?
But the fact is that morality actually has a non-human nature. That is, morality was not invented by a person, since morality exists not only in human society.
And scientists received confirmation of this in the 70s, when they discovered the so-called "natural morality" in the animal world. I will give a few examples of traditional morality in the animal world.
